Jason Voorhees
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First things first: It is 100% normal to still be a virgin between 18 and 21. Anyone who tells you otherwise is coping or straight up retarded. A lot of guys and even quite a few girls beleive it or not in this age range haven't gone all the way yet. May not always be full blown KVs like maybe did some fooling around but haven't gone full 9 yards.
Yes there are always early birds who lost it in high school or even earlier but that doesn't make the rest of you weird or broken. The stats and real life both show this is extremely common especially among NDs who aren't chasing every party or social circle like it's their full time job. You as a late teen and young adult have a bigger priorities in life and if putting your dick inside a hole is your number 1 priority then you need re evaluate your life.
It only starts becoming a genuine problem imo if you're deep into your mid to late 20s with zero progress. That's when the gap can widen and the mental toll gets too heavy.
One more thing to address. Don't rush on losing your virginity. There's no moment of epiphany you'll have after getting your dick wet. Nothing changes. Your life will still be miserable you might get a temporary high and confidence boost of touching a woman but that high fades rather quickly. What does matter is who you loose your virginity too and how you do it.
Rushing with the wrong girl or in the wrong situation can leave you feeling emptier than before. Sex by itself is a very intimate and vulnerable act and losing it to someone you don't love and respect can deeply scar your self esteem and confidence so pick this wisely. Don't pick the first woman and plunge your dick inside her. Build up options and pick the one you genuinely love
Ideally this has to be another virgin and you both can take each others virginities. This is the healthiest way to go about it. That mutual inexperience means less judgments and less ego involved. This is the best way to lose your virginity
If you don't have the opportunity for a virgin that's not ideal but still fine. What matters is. Does she have feelings for you? Does she love you? Will she just lay down like a dead fish and you have to do the work or will she enthusiastically engage in it. Will she cuddle with you after sex or kick you to curb after she satisfied her lust
All this is what will determine if you leave losing your virginity with satification feeling loved and desired or getting humiliated and degraded. Strictly avoid whores and dismissive bitchy women. Don't make the mistake I did.
Avoid women whose only motivation is calming her hormones and scratching the itch. The ones addicted to attention from OnlyFans, Instagram, or rotating through guys will make you feel used and worthless afterward. That emotional void is already bad but it hits ever harder when it's your first time. Pick someone who sees you as more than just a dick and a warm body.
If you're uncircumcised your first time can come with extra challenges because the glans is naturally more sensitive. It's been protected by the foreskin its whole life so contact will feel painful. Try stretching your foreskin in shower everyday until you are comfortable leaving it out in the open and masturbate. Masturbate with the foreskin pulled back sometimes to build some tolerance gradually.
You can also use gels to desensitize. Also take viagra or cilias as a preventive thing. Nothing more humiliating than losing an erection.
Also for your first time go slow as fuck. No need to try any porn star tier fucking you've seen. Also use plenty of water based lubes wear a condom. Your first time probably won't be amazing fireworks but if you follow these steps it can be enjoyable and non traumatizing and actually feel good.
TLDR- 1) Being virgin between 18-21 normal.2)Timing not important as much as your partner who takes
3) Avoid whores and dead fish energy choose enthusiasm and real feelings.
4) Go in with preparation lube, desensitize, pills if needed and temper your expectations and go slow.
Yes there are always early birds who lost it in high school or even earlier but that doesn't make the rest of you weird or broken. The stats and real life both show this is extremely common especially among NDs who aren't chasing every party or social circle like it's their full time job. You as a late teen and young adult have a bigger priorities in life and if putting your dick inside a hole is your number 1 priority then you need re evaluate your life.
It only starts becoming a genuine problem imo if you're deep into your mid to late 20s with zero progress. That's when the gap can widen and the mental toll gets too heavy.
One more thing to address. Don't rush on losing your virginity. There's no moment of epiphany you'll have after getting your dick wet. Nothing changes. Your life will still be miserable you might get a temporary high and confidence boost of touching a woman but that high fades rather quickly. What does matter is who you loose your virginity too and how you do it.
Rushing with the wrong girl or in the wrong situation can leave you feeling emptier than before. Sex by itself is a very intimate and vulnerable act and losing it to someone you don't love and respect can deeply scar your self esteem and confidence so pick this wisely. Don't pick the first woman and plunge your dick inside her. Build up options and pick the one you genuinely love
Ideally this has to be another virgin and you both can take each others virginities. This is the healthiest way to go about it. That mutual inexperience means less judgments and less ego involved. This is the best way to lose your virginity
If you don't have the opportunity for a virgin that's not ideal but still fine. What matters is. Does she have feelings for you? Does she love you? Will she just lay down like a dead fish and you have to do the work or will she enthusiastically engage in it. Will she cuddle with you after sex or kick you to curb after she satisfied her lust
All this is what will determine if you leave losing your virginity with satification feeling loved and desired or getting humiliated and degraded. Strictly avoid whores and dismissive bitchy women. Don't make the mistake I did.
Avoid women whose only motivation is calming her hormones and scratching the itch. The ones addicted to attention from OnlyFans, Instagram, or rotating through guys will make you feel used and worthless afterward. That emotional void is already bad but it hits ever harder when it's your first time. Pick someone who sees you as more than just a dick and a warm body.
If you're uncircumcised your first time can come with extra challenges because the glans is naturally more sensitive. It's been protected by the foreskin its whole life so contact will feel painful. Try stretching your foreskin in shower everyday until you are comfortable leaving it out in the open and masturbate. Masturbate with the foreskin pulled back sometimes to build some tolerance gradually.
You can also use gels to desensitize. Also take viagra or cilias as a preventive thing. Nothing more humiliating than losing an erection.
Also for your first time go slow as fuck. No need to try any porn star tier fucking you've seen. Also use plenty of water based lubes wear a condom. Your first time probably won't be amazing fireworks but if you follow these steps it can be enjoyable and non traumatizing and actually feel good.
TLDR- 1) Being virgin between 18-21 normal.2)Timing not important as much as your partner who takes
3) Avoid whores and dead fish energy choose enthusiasm and real feelings.
4) Go in with preparation lube, desensitize, pills if needed and temper your expectations and go slow.
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