How to make an avoidant like you?

[sebchi]

So to summarize there was this girl that I spent the whole Summer with talking for 4 months and we had lots of plans. One time she just switched up and said her feelings didn’t get stronger which sent so many mixed signals and had me super depressed. That happened in the very beginning of September.

Just yesterday she randomly sent a text saying, “I’m really sorry for being so mean to you”

Out of no where, unprovoked too. My feelings definitely aren’t gone because my heart stopped for a second and everytime she texts my hearts just been pounding after every response. Honestly I think I do like her and this shit made me realize it, but shes just so avoidant. I know that stems from how you were raised

 

[Quicksand]

Simple
You shouldn't give a damn.

If you are attached, it’s over

 

[greycellbrill]

So to summarize there was this girl that I spent the whole Summer with talking for 4 months and we had lots of plans. One time she just switched up and said her feelings didn’t get stronger which sent so many mixed signals and had me super depressed. That happened in the very beginning of September.

Just yesterday she randomly sent a text saying, “I’m really sorry for being so mean to you”

Out of no where, unprovoked too. My feelings definitely aren’t gone because my heart stopped for a second and everytime she texts my hearts just been pounding after every response. Honestly I think I do like her and this shit made me realize it, but shes just so avoidant. I know that stems from how you were raised

just be chad dude how much more water can it get

 

[iGoontoTheHolocaust]

she will do the same again. dont trust her

 

[sebchi]

Simple
You shouldn't give a damn.

If you are attached, it’s over

Yeah you’re right, just fills a strange little void having a conversation with her out of no where

 

[sebchi]

she will do the same again. dont trust her

The thing is I’m not setting my expectations through the roof, she and I haven’t hinted at trying again but theres just that little feeling of-it would be nice

 

[sebchi]

just be chad dude how much more water can it get

Lmao ur right

 

[iGoontoTheHolocaust]

The thing is I’m not setting my expectations through the roof, she and I haven’t hinted at trying again but theres just that little feeling of-it would be nice

i warned you man, i dont know if you know how evil foids are but be careful

 

[AstroSky]

The anxious and avoidant cycle is one that you should try to avoid it all cost

No amount of looks will make you not go through hell being in that cycle

Sure looks maybe expand the amount of time frame before they dip but they always dip. I used to research heavily on this topic for almost a decade. The anxious and avoidant cycle is one that anyone should just naturally just avoid find someone secure

Don't go after those avoidants they cannot be saved And if you keep insisting and you keep trying anyways you're going to find that you're going to turn into an avoidant yourself

And that's something that you can't just undo once it happens easily... Takes a toll.

 

[greycellbrill]

Lmao ur right

ur gonna descend fucking around with her bro, lost sleep, cortisol spikes. Dont do it

 

[sebchi]

i warned you man, i dont know if you know how evil foids are but be careful

Nah bro I trust you, I’m not trying to sound like I’m trying to reopen a door that was once pretty closed

 

[sebchi]

ur gonna descend fucking around with her bro, lost sleep, cortisol spikes. Dont do it

Is that so

 

[sebchi]

The anxious and avoidant cycle is one that you should try to avoid it all cost

No amount of looks will make you not go through hell being in that cycle

Sure looks maybe expand the amount of time frame before they dip but they always dip. I used to research heavily on this topic for almost a decade. The anxious and avoidant cycle is one that anyone should just naturally just avoid find someone secure

Don't go after those avoidants they cannot be saved And if you keep insisting and you keep trying anyways you're going to find that you're going to turn into an avoidant it yourself

And that's something that you can't just undo once it happens easily... Takes a toll.

Genuinely, this is very right, I’ve seen myself more avoidant and its actually so much harder to get into something new with someone after her. I hate that its like that but she for real fucked me up, and I’m still recovering from it among other things but yeah

 

[AstroSky]

Genuinely, this is very right, I’ve seen myself more avoidant and its actually so much harder to get into something new with someone after her. I hate that its like that but she for real fucked me up, and I’m still recovering from it among other things but yeah

You should know that avoidant cannot stand other avoidants. But an anxious person can stand an anxious and a secure attachment can stand to be with an anxious.

Only the avoidance are the ones that neither not even themselves like in the long run. The secure person will simply not tolerate the disconnect they feel.

Anxious will try to change them and fail or turn into Avoidants as they keep trying.


Avoidant is sin and the rest is natural. I just don't like them. They can't be saved. They will always treat you like a high.

 

[ChrisFletcher]

Shes either messing with you on purpose or genuinely mentally ill
0 reason to keep pursuing her

 

[Norm Macdonald]

Don’t waste your time on avoidant girls. It’s the same endless loop every time. She pulls you in, disappears, and you’re left looking like a dumbass until she hits you up again.

DO NOT WASTE YOUR TIME ON AVOIDANTS

 

[AstroSky]

Shes either messing with you on purpose or genuinely mentally ill
0 reason to keep pursuing her

Attachment theory is one of the more misunderstood concepts in the entire manosphere


We attribute looks to the reason for failures or successes but there's more of a nuance here and how you were raised and how your parents treat you and how you're attachment style developed severely limits or expands on your ability to be successful in dating in general to form secure attachment styles can mean the difference between never finding love or finding love that's only short-lived or finding a relationship that you can finally relax and and feel the connection that you wanted


Yes it is a mental illness to being avoidant. To believes one's comfort is an isolation rather than to be shared. To believe that it is suppression to expect emotional rapport .... That in itself is delusion. Avoidance live under the belief that alone they are strong. But no they are insecure they are weak and they are constantly treating life like a metric of what's valuable compared to the they if one tries too hard. It is sickness


A lot of people here for example have found themselves converted into avoidance. The black pill in itself at least when it comes to the extremist uphold avoidance. Emotional closeness scares them. I highly recommend you keep your heart open and protected all cost.

To lose your self in a relationship and to become an avoidant is a toll not easily undone

 

[sillybilly]

i warned you man, i dont know if you know how evil foids are but be careful

u goon to nothing..?

 

[sillybilly]

So to summarize there was this girl that I spent the whole Summer with talking for 4 months and we had lots of plans. One time she just switched up and said her feelings didn’t get stronger which sent so many mixed signals and had me super depressed. That happened in the very beginning of September.

Just yesterday she randomly sent a text saying, “I’m really sorry for being so mean to you”

Out of no where, unprovoked too. My feelings definitely aren’t gone because my heart stopped for a second and everytime she texts my hearts just been pounding after every response. Honestly I think I do like her and this shit made me realize it, but shes just so avoidant. I know that stems from how you were raised

dont waste ur time being cucked by foids
gaypill is real be a faggot

 

[sebchi]

You should know that avoidant cannot stand other avoidants. But an anxious person can stand an anxious and a secure attachment can stand to be with an anxious.

Only the avoidance are the ones that neither not even themselves like in the long run. The secure person will simply not tolerate the disconnect they feel.

Anxious will try to change them and fail or turn into Avoidants as they keep trying.


Avoidant is sin and the rest is natural. I just don't like them. They can't be saved. They will always treat you like a high.

I understand more now, definitely used to have more anxious than anything, I am secure but definitely I can feel the anxious attachment overall as I wanted us to work so bad.

 

[iGoontoTheHolocaust]

u goon to nothing..?

men on men

 

[sebchi]

Shes either messing with you on purpose or genuinely mentally ill
0 reason to keep pursuing her

wow, hahaha I see thank you

 

[sebchi]

Don’t waste your time on avoidant girls. It’s the same endless loop every time. She pulls you in, disappears, and you’re left looking like a dumbass until she hits you up again.

DO NOT WASTE YOUR TIME ON AVOIDANTS

Bro no way I’m a dumbass for not worrying about her up until now fuckkk

 

[sillybilly]

men on men

based!!!

 

[sebchi]

Attachment theory is one of the more misunderstood concepts in the entire manosphere


We attribute looks to the reason for failures or successes but there's more of a nuance here and how you were raised and how your parents treat you and how you're attachment style developed severely limits or expands on your ability to be successful in dating in general to form secure attachment styles can mean the difference between never finding love or finding love that's only short-lived or finding a relationship that you can finally relax and and feel the connection that you wanted


Yes it is a mental illness to being avoidant. To believes one's comfort is an isolation rather than to be shared. To believe that it is suppression to expect emotional rapport .... That in itself is delusion. Avoidance live under the belief that alone they are strong. But no they are insecure they are weak and they are constantly treating life like a metric of what's valuable compared to the they if one tries too hard. It is sickness


A lot of people here for example have found themselves converted into avoidance. The black pill in itself at least when it comes to the extremist uphold avoidance. Emotional closeness scares them. I highly recommend you keep your heart open and protected all cost.

To lose your self in a relationship and to become an avoidant is a toll not easily undone

So much of this shit is things I have learned in my psychology class. I truly understand this stuff and even though you didn’t say this to me I’m just coming to agree.

Its truly so sad, but it makes so much sense and so many examples you have shared, has been portrayed by here, especially in the endiny stages, but also throughout us seeing eachother.

“I’m going to spend the rest of my life alone.” (As she bawls her eyes out)

“I should’ve never done this and that with you.” (Ultimately crushing me in general after hearing that shit)

 

[Norm Macdonald]

Bro no way I’m a dumbass for not worrying about her up until now fuckkk

Don’t get smart with me you dumb fuck

Your thread title is literally an impossible task. It’s impossible for this girl to like you completely unless she gets help for her avoidant attachment issues

RETARD

 

[sebchi]

Don’t get smart with me you dumb fuck

Your thread title is literally an impossible task. It’s impossible for this girl to like you completely unless she gets help for her avoidant attachment issues

RETARD

Lmao what? I wasn’t getting smart with you

I was just like damn no way after all this time where she wasn’t on my mind constantly, now that she reached out I cant get her off it now