How to stop seeing yourself as unnatractive?

[curxific]

Everytime I look in the mirror I keep telling myself that I am unnatractive/ugly and I know it's a cope. It's a cope because I'm neither of those things, I keep saying this because I just want to point all of my failures onto something I cannot control. I've been rated mostly ltn on this forum but I personally feel like I'm high mtn, a lot of the photos that I took were just bad, I don't look like that in real life. In real life I've been told that I'm attractive and tall.

I am just a failed normie with no social life or friends, my classmates who are way uglier than me have perfectly normal social lifes. Being a failed normie is way worse than being subhuman. At least when you're subhuman you know that it's not your fault, If you are a failed normie everytime you look in the mirror you'll be reminded of your failures.

I've had a lot of chances of getting friends and I've failed them all. Not that long ago there was a guy that have said "Hey, you! Let's know eachother better." and when he said that I didn't say anything for like 3 seconds because of how anxious I felt and by the end of it all what I've said was "Why?" and I've said it so quetly so he probably didn't even hear it. I've also had chances of getting a girlfriend but I've lost it all.
I keep having those self-limiting beliefs that "I'm ugly" or "I'm short" or "It won't work out" and I have no idea how to stop having them.

 

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[aryan mogger]

be attractive

 

[Debetro]

Look attractive

 

[The Grinch]

I've been rated mostly ltn on this forum but I personally feel like I'm high mtn, a lot of the photos that I took were just bad

I am just a failed normie with no social life or friends

Study: Unattractive people far overestimate their looks

The finding is remarkably similar to the Dunning-Kruger effect, which describes how incompetent people tend to overestimate their own competency.

bigthink.com

 

[flippasav]

Look in the mirror and say: “Loox” 14 times

 

[MaghrebGator]

Stop watching yourself in the mirror and promise yourself that when you do so (Out of necessity) you won't be judging whether you look good or bad and that you won't stare.

It's normal that the brain constantly messes up after it looks and analyzes something for hundreds of times a day.

By the way your avi reminded me of Lascars


@wsada

 

[curxific]

Study: Unattractive people far overestimate their looks

The finding is remarkably similar to the Dunning-Kruger effect, which describes how incompetent people tend to overestimate their own competency.

bigthink.com

I know about this but I don't think I overestimate myself if I am being honest

 

[curxific]

I like this gif so much

 

[w0rkingondy1ng]

Everytime I look in the mirror I keep telling myself that I am unnatractive/ugly and I know it's a cope. It's a cope because I'm neither of those things, I keep saying this because I just want to point all of my failures onto something I cannot control. I've been rated mostly ltn on this forum but I personally feel like I'm high mtn, a lot of the photos that I took were just bad, I don't look like that in real life. In real life I've been told that I'm attractive and tall.

I am just a failed normie with no social life or friends, my classmates who are way uglier than me have perfectly normal social lifes. Being a failed normie is way worse than being subhuman. At least when you're subhuman you know that it's not your fault, If you are a failed normie everytime you look in the mirror you'll be reminded of your failures.

I've had a lot of chances of getting friends and I've failed them all. Not that long ago there was a guy that have said "Hey, you! Let's know eachother better." and when he said that I didn't say anything for like 3 seconds because of how anxious I felt and by the end of it all what I've said was "Why?" and I've said it so quetly so he probably didn't even hear it. I've also had chances of getting a girlfriend but I've lost it all.
I keep having those self-limiting beliefs that "I'm ugly" or "I'm short" or "It won't work out" and I have no idea how to stop having them.

if they said that to you you are probably mtn or even htn, don't obsess dude ur fine i guess

 

[Thinking_CEL]

By looking attractive

Body dismorphia does exsist if you do well with women and still feel ugly it might be that

But in 99% of cases u see urself as u are

 

[Thinking_CEL]

Tho the more irl validation you get the better u see urself

That’s the cure to it

 

[Gengar]

Become good-looking.

 

[w0rkingondy1ng]

By looking attractive

Body dismorphia does exsist if you do well with women and still feel ugly it might be that

But in 99% of cases u see urself as u are

or he probably is just really fucking autistic with women

 

[FoolYoungHi]

Higher dopamine maybe. I remember when I had low dopamine I would see myself as ugly and also other people.

 

[curxific]

if they said that to you you are probably mtn or even htn, don't obsess dude ur fine i guess

To be honest, I've kind of hyperbolised some parts of this post. I have not been really called attractive or tall, the context matter a lot.

 

[w0rkingondy1ng]

To be honest, I've kind of hyperbolised some parts of this post. I have not been really called attractive or tall, the context matter a lot.

i think you might not look ugly, it's just social anxiety/slight autism making you look like a retard and lowering ur appeal... me myself i'm htn and still don't pull because of the same thing