I (19M) lied about my height to my girlfriend (19F) 3years ago and now I don't know how to tell her the truth

[bourgeoizyzz]

I need advice because I'm completely stuck and I know I fucked up.

When I was 15, I met this girl online. We instantly clicked - like, better than I've ever connected with anyone. Our first call lasted all night and we just kept talking every single day after that. She understood me in ways no one else did. We went through the typical online relationship ups and downs, periods where we'd fade out because of school and life, but we always came back to each other.

Last year we made it official. For a year and a half straight, we talked every single day. She's genuinely the most important person in my life.

Here's where I fucked up: When I was 16, she asked about my height. I was short and insecure about it, and my brain told me to just lie cuz I'd grow taller later anyw.. So I told her I was 182cm (about 6'0"). Stupid, I know. I genuinely thought I'd hit that height eventually since my brother is tall, so I figured I'd just grow into the lie.

Spoiler alert: I didn't grow. I'm nowhere near that height. I'm actually the same height as her, And she's made it clear multiple times that she really values height in a partner - she's joked that if I were short, we wouldn't even be dating.

Four months ago, we planned to meet in person for the first time. I panicked and made up an excuse to cancel. She was devastated, we didn't talk for two weeks. We're talking again now, but the lie is eating me alive.

Here's the thing - she's been betrayed by everyone close to her. Her parents are divorced and constantly involve her in their drama, she's had a really rough life, and she's told me that I'm basically the only good thing she has left. She's said she's "pinned all her hopes on me."

I know I need to tell her the truth, but I'm terrified of what it'll do to her. This won't just be a normal breakup - it'll confirm her belief that everyone she loves will eventually betray her. At the same time, I can't keep lying to her, and we can't avoid meeting forever.

I can't just ghost her or block her - we share too much of our lives,Plus I genuinely love her and don't want to hurt her like that.

What the hell do I do? Do I tell her the truth and risk destroying her? Do I lie and break up with her over some dumb reason. ? I feel trapped and I know whatever I do is going to hurt her, but the longer I wait, the worse it gets.

I know some of y'all gonna say "it's online thing why does it matter" she's not that far from me (an 1Hr ride) plus , I fucking love her man.

 

[techmed789]

Vantage points

 

[PSLbbc]

Is this from reddit?

 

[bourgeoizyzz]

Is this from reddit?

nigger, I'm shortn a mufucker

 

[Staddber]

she's joked that if I were short, we wouldn't even be dating.

was she serious about this part?
How tall are you both?

 

[littlefingers]

I need advice because I'm completely stuck and I know I fucked up.

When I was 15, I met this girl online. We instantly clicked - like, better than I've ever connected with anyone. Our first call lasted all night and we just kept talking every single day after that. She understood me in ways no one else did. We went through the typical online relationship ups and downs, periods where we'd fade out because of school and life, but we always came back to each other.

Last year we made it official. For a year and a half straight, we talked every single day. She's genuinely the most important person in my life.

Here's where I fucked up: When I was 16, she asked about my height. I was short and insecure about it, and my brain told me to just lie cuz I'd grow taller later anyw.. So I told her I was 182cm (about 6'0"). Stupid, I know. I genuinely thought I'd hit that height eventually since my brother is tall, so I figured I'd just grow into the lie.

Spoiler alert: I didn't grow. I'm nowhere near that height. I'm actually the same height as her, And she's made it clear multiple times that she really values height in a partner - she's joked that if I were short, we wouldn't even be dating.

Four months ago, we planned to meet in person for the first time. I panicked and made up an excuse to cancel. She was devastated, we didn't talk for two weeks. We're talking again now, but the lie is eating me alive.

Here's the thing - she's been betrayed by everyone close to her. Her parents are divorced and constantly involve her in their drama, she's had a really rough life, and she's told me that I'm basically the only good thing she has left. She's said she's "pinned all her hopes on me."

I know I need to tell her the truth, but I'm terrified of what it'll do to her. This won't just be a normal breakup - it'll confirm her belief that everyone she loves will eventually betray her. At the same time, I can't keep lying to her, and we can't avoid meeting forever.

I can't just ghost her or block her - we share too much of our lives,Plus I genuinely love her and don't want to hurt her like that.

What the hell do I do? Do I tell her the truth and risk destroying her? Do I lie and break up with her over some dumb reason. ? I feel trapped and I know whatever I do is going to hurt her, but the longer I wait, the worse it gets.

I know some of y'all gonna say "it's online thing why does it matter" she's not that far from me (an 1Hr ride) plus , I fucking love her man.

what is your current height? there is still a chance we can help you fraud 6ft easily

 

[anphamer]

Either you fraud or we have to fucking face it. She probably was joking about the height part as well, no way someone this emotionally attached will simply break up with you especially when „you’re the only good thing“ left in her life. You probably won’t talk for a while because sure you betrayed her trust but fuck she will eventually get back to you. If not, make it happen

 

[bourgeoizyzz]

How tall are you both?

How would I know, I've never seen her

 

[Deleted member 136057]

I need advice because I'm completely stuck and I know I fucked up.

When I was 15, I met this girl online. We instantly clicked - like, better than I've ever connected with anyone. Our first call lasted all night and we just kept talking every single day after that. She understood me in ways no one else did. We went through the typical online relationship ups and downs, periods where we'd fade out because of school and life, but we always came back to each other.

Last year we made it official. For a year and a half straight, we talked every single day. She's genuinely the most important person in my life.

Here's where I fucked up: When I was 16, she asked about my height. I was short and insecure about it, and my brain told me to just lie cuz I'd grow taller later anyw.. So I told her I was 182cm (about 6'0"). Stupid, I know. I genuinely thought I'd hit that height eventually since my brother is tall, so I figured I'd just grow into the lie.

Spoiler alert: I didn't grow. I'm nowhere near that height. I'm actually the same height as her, And she's made it clear multiple times that she really values height in a partner - she's joked that if I were short, we wouldn't even be dating.

Four months ago, we planned to meet in person for the first time. I panicked and made up an excuse to cancel. She was devastated, we didn't talk for two weeks. We're talking again now, but the lie is eating me alive.

Here's the thing - she's been betrayed by everyone close to her. Her parents are divorced and constantly involve her in their drama, she's had a really rough life, and she's told me that I'm basically the only good thing she has left. She's said she's "pinned all her hopes on me."

I know I need to tell her the truth, but I'm terrified of what it'll do to her. This won't just be a normal breakup - it'll confirm her belief that everyone she loves will eventually betray her. At the same time, I can't keep lying to her, and we can't avoid meeting forever.

I can't just ghost her or block her - we share too much of our lives,Plus I genuinely love her and don't want to hurt her like that.

What the hell do I do? Do I tell her the truth and risk destroying her? Do I lie and break up with her over some dumb reason. ? I feel trapped and I know whatever I do is going to hurt her, but the longer I wait, the worse it gets.

I know some of y'all gonna say "it's online thing why does it matter" she's not that far from me (an 1Hr ride) plus , I fucking love her man.

How tall are you?

 

[notagreycell]

I need advice because I'm completely stuck and I know I fucked up.

When I was 15, I met this girl online. We instantly clicked - like, better than I've ever connected with anyone. Our first call lasted all night and we just kept talking every single day after that. She understood me in ways no one else did. We went through the typical online relationship ups and downs, periods where we'd fade out because of school and life, but we always came back to each other.

Last year we made it official. For a year and a half straight, we talked every single day. She's genuinely the most important person in my life.

Here's where I fucked up: When I was 16, she asked about my height. I was short and insecure about it, and my brain told me to just lie cuz I'd grow taller later anyw.. So I told her I was 182cm (about 6'0"). Stupid, I know. I genuinely thought I'd hit that height eventually since my brother is tall, so I figured I'd just grow into the lie.

Spoiler alert: I didn't grow. I'm nowhere near that height. I'm actually the same height as her, And she's made it clear multiple times that she really values height in a partner - she's joked that if I were short, we wouldn't even be dating.

Four months ago, we planned to meet in person for the first time. I panicked and made up an excuse to cancel. She was devastated, we didn't talk for two weeks. We're talking again now, but the lie is eating me alive.

Here's the thing - she's been betrayed by everyone close to her. Her parents are divorced and constantly involve her in their drama, she's had a really rough life, and she's told me that I'm basically the only good thing she has left. She's said she's "pinned all her hopes on me."

I know I need to tell her the truth, but I'm terrified of what it'll do to her. This won't just be a normal breakup - it'll confirm her belief that everyone she loves will eventually betray her. At the same time, I can't keep lying to her, and we can't avoid meeting forever.

I can't just ghost her or block her - we share too much of our lives,Plus I genuinely love her and don't want to hurt her like that.

What the hell do I do? Do I tell her the truth and risk destroying her? Do I lie and break up with her over some dumb reason. ? I feel trapped and I know whatever I do is going to hurt her, but the longer I wait, the worse it gets.

I know some of y'all gonna say "it's online thing why does it matter" she's not that far from me (an 1Hr ride) plus , I fucking love her man.

Suifuel for manlets

 

[Staddber]

How would I know, I've never seen her

How tall are you?

 

[mohito]

You're too old for these copypastas buddy

 

[bourgeoizyzz]

You're too old for these copypastas buddy

age ain't nothing but a number buddy, help me out

 

[anphamer]

You're too old for these copypastas buddy

Uh oh did I really fall for a reddit copypasta

 

[Mast]

It's not that deep, bro. Just tell the truth to her.

 

[mohito]

age ain't nothing but a number buddy, help me out

 

[mohito]

Uh oh did I really fall for a reddit copypasta

Still an amateur, but dont worry about it

 

[HighLtn]

Its from reddit and its over buddy sorry shouldnt have lied to her

 

[JOTAROSON]

Мне нужен совет, потому что я совершенно зашёл в тупик и знаю, что всё испортил.

Когда мне было 15, я познакомился с девушкой в интернете. Мы мгновенно нашли общий язык — лучше, чем когда-либо прежде. Наш первый разговор длился всю ночь, и после этого мы общались каждый день. Она понимала меня так, как никто другой. У нас были типичные для онлайн-отношений взлеты и падения, периоды, когда мы отдалялись друг от друга из-за учебы и жизненных обстоятельств, но мы всегда возвращались друг к другу.

В прошлом году мы официально стали парой. Полтора года подряд мы общались каждый день. Она действительно самый важный человек в моей жизни.

Вот где я облажался: когда мне было 16, она спросила о моем росте. Я был низкого роста и комплексовал по этому поводу, и мой мозг подсказал мне просто соврать, потому что я все равно вырасту позже. Поэтому я сказал ей, что мой рост 182 см (примерно 183 см). Глупо, знаю. Я искренне думал, что в конце концов достигну этого роста, раз мой брат высокий, поэтому я решил, что просто вырасту и буду соответствовать этой лжи.

Внимание, спойлер: я не вырос. Мой рост совсем не такой. На самом деле, я такого же роста, как она. И она неоднократно давала понять, что очень ценит рост в партнёре — она шутила, что если бы я был низким, мы бы даже не встречались.

Четыре месяца назад мы планировали впервые встретиться лично. Я запаниковал и придумал предлог, чтобы отменить встречу. Она была в ужасе, мы не общались две недели. Сейчас мы снова общаемся, но эта ложь меня просто пожирает изнутри.

Вот в чем дело — ее предали все близкие. Ее родители разведены и постоянно втягивают ее в свои ссоры, у нее была очень тяжелая жизнь, и она сказала мне, что я, по сути, единственное хорошее, что у нее осталось. Она сказала, что «возлагает на меня все свои надежды».

Я понимаю, что должен сказать ей правду, но меня ужасает то, как это на неё повлияет. Это будет не просто обычное расставание — это укрепит её убеждение, что все, кого она любит, рано или поздно её предадут. В то же время я не могу продолжать ей лгать, и мы не можем избегать встреч вечно.

Я не могу просто так исчезнуть из её жизни или заблокировать её — мы слишком много делим, к тому же я искренне её люблю и не хочу причинить ей боль.

Что же мне делать? Сказать ей правду и рисковать разрушить её жизнь? Солгать и расстаться с ней по какой-нибудь глупой причине? Я чувствую себя в ловушке и знаю, что что бы я ни сделал, это причинит ей боль, но чем дольше я жду, тем хуже становится.

Я знаю, некоторые из вас скажут: "Это же онлайн-знакомства, какая разница?" Она живёт не так уж далеко от меня (час езды), к тому же, я её чертовски люблю.

How tall are you?

 

[_MVP_]

honestly?

just ghost her

 

[KidFlash]

Vantage points

Has anybody unironically used this before

 

[KidFlash]

Holy fuck you can tell when reading reddit post that most of ChatGPT is based off it

I don't know why someone would go on r/short for advice honestly, you're just finding other manlets and only 6'0-6'1 (maybe 6'2 in this economy) people like me can have unbaised knowledge on the heightpill, people below 6 foot either have the most hilarious copes you've ever heard (even ugly people cope less about being ugly) or think height matters more than it actually does, 6'3+ people think "well i'm tall and i don't get girls bhai" not realizing that nobody said height is the only factor just that it's one of them

 

[asymmetricalMoid]

Dnr

 

[SoundnVision]

1. How can she retarded enough to think you're 6ft if in your words your not near.
2. You been with her 3 years so why's it an issue

Just retardation after retardation.

Make sure you both never have just kids

 

[techmed789]

Has anybody unironically used this before

I hope not

 

[Scandicel]

I need advice because I'm completely stuck and I know I fucked up.

When I was 15, I met this girl online. We instantly clicked - like, better than I've ever connected with anyone. Our first call lasted all night and we just kept talking every single day after that. She understood me in ways no one else did. We went through the typical online relationship ups and downs, periods where we'd fade out because of school and life, but we always came back to each other.

Last year we made it official. For a year and a half straight, we talked every single day. She's genuinely the most important person in my life.

Here's where I fucked up: When I was 16, she asked about my height. I was short and insecure about it, and my brain told me to just lie cuz I'd grow taller later anyw.. So I told her I was 182cm (about 6'0"). Stupid, I know. I genuinely thought I'd hit that height eventually since my brother is tall, so I figured I'd just grow into the lie.

Spoiler alert: I didn't grow. I'm nowhere near that height. I'm actually the same height as her, And she's made it clear multiple times that she really values height in a partner - she's joked that if I were short, we wouldn't even be dating.

Four months ago, we planned to meet in person for the first time. I panicked and made up an excuse to cancel. She was devastated, we didn't talk for two weeks. We're talking again now, but the lie is eating me alive.

Here's the thing - she's been betrayed by everyone close to her. Her parents are divorced and constantly involve her in their drama, she's had a really rough life, and she's told me that I'm basically the only good thing she has left. She's said she's "pinned all her hopes on me."

I know I need to tell her the truth, but I'm terrified of what it'll do to her. This won't just be a normal breakup - it'll confirm her belief that everyone she loves will eventually betray her. At the same time, I can't keep lying to her, and we can't avoid meeting forever.

I can't just ghost her or block her - we share too much of our lives,Plus I genuinely love her and don't want to hurt her like that.

What the hell do I do? Do I tell her the truth and risk destroying her? Do I lie and break up with her over some dumb reason. ? I feel trapped and I know whatever I do is going to hurt her, but the longer I wait, the worse it gets.

I know some of y'all gonna say "it's online thing why does it matter" she's not that far from me (an 1Hr ride) plus , I fucking love her man.

So what height are you

 

[t3000]

dnr

 

[bourgeoizyzz]

dnr

 

[super_cuck69]

I need advice because I'm completely stuck and I know I fucked up.

When I was 15, I met this girl online. We instantly clicked - like, better than I've ever connected with anyone. Our first call lasted all night and we just kept talking every single day after that. She understood me in ways no one else did. We went through the typical online relationship ups and downs, periods where we'd fade out because of school and life, but we always came back to each other.

Last year we made it official. For a year and a half straight, we talked every single day. She's genuinely the most important person in my life.

Here's where I fucked up: When I was 16, she asked about my height. I was short and insecure about it, and my brain told me to just lie cuz I'd grow taller later anyw.. So I told her I was 182cm (about 6'0"). Stupid, I know. I genuinely thought I'd hit that height eventually since my brother is tall, so I figured I'd just grow into the lie.

Spoiler alert: I didn't grow. I'm nowhere near that height. I'm actually the same height as her, And she's made it clear multiple times that she really values height in a partner - she's joked that if I were short, we wouldn't even be dating.

Four months ago, we planned to meet in person for the first time. I panicked and made up an excuse to cancel. She was devastated, we didn't talk for two weeks. We're talking again now, but the lie is eating me alive.

Here's the thing - she's been betrayed by everyone close to her. Her parents are divorced and constantly involve her in their drama, she's had a really rough life, and she's told me that I'm basically the only good thing she has left. She's said she's "pinned all her hopes on me."

I know I need to tell her the truth, but I'm terrified of what it'll do to her. This won't just be a normal breakup - it'll confirm her belief that everyone she loves will eventually betray her. At the same time, I can't keep lying to her, and we can't avoid meeting forever.

I can't just ghost her or block her - we share too much of our lives,Plus I genuinely love her and don't want to hurt her like that.

What the hell do I do? Do I tell her the truth and risk destroying her? Do I lie and break up with her over some dumb reason. ? I feel trapped and I know whatever I do is going to hurt her, but the longer I wait, the worse it gets.

I know some of y'all gonna say "it's online thing why does it matter" she's not that far from me (an 1Hr ride) plus , I fucking love her man.

amputate your legs

 

[bourgeoizyzz]

amputate your legs

high iq

 

[super_cuck69]

I need advice because I'm completely stuck and I know I fucked up.

When I was 15, I met this girl online. We instantly clicked - like, better than I've ever connected with anyone. Our first call lasted all night and we just kept talking every single day after that. She understood me in ways no one else did. We went through the typical online relationship ups and downs, periods where we'd fade out because of school and life, but we always came back to each other.

Last year we made it official. For a year and a half straight, we talked every single day. She's genuinely the most important person in my life.

Here's where I fucked up: When I was 16, she asked about my height. I was short and insecure about it, and my brain told me to just lie cuz I'd grow taller later anyw.. So I told her I was 182cm (about 6'0"). Stupid, I know. I genuinely thought I'd hit that height eventually since my brother is tall, so I figured I'd just grow into the lie.

Spoiler alert: I didn't grow. I'm nowhere near that height. I'm actually the same height as her, And she's made it clear multiple times that she really values height in a partner - she's joked that if I were short, we wouldn't even be dating.

Four months ago, we planned to meet in person for the first time. I panicked and made up an excuse to cancel. She was devastated, we didn't talk for two weeks. We're talking again now, but the lie is eating me alive.

Here's the thing - she's been betrayed by everyone close to her. Her parents are divorced and constantly involve her in their drama, she's had a really rough life, and she's told me that I'm basically the only good thing she has left. She's said she's "pinned all her hopes on me."

I know I need to tell her the truth, but I'm terrified of what it'll do to her. This won't just be a normal breakup - it'll confirm her belief that everyone she loves will eventually betray her. At the same time, I can't keep lying to her, and we can't avoid meeting forever.

I can't just ghost her or block her - we share too much of our lives,Plus I genuinely love her and don't want to hurt her like that.

What the hell do I do? Do I tell her the truth and risk destroying her? Do I lie and break up with her over some dumb reason. ? I feel trapped and I know whatever I do is going to hurt her, but the longer I wait, the worse it gets.

I know some of y'all gonna say "it's online thing why does it matter" she's not that far from me (an 1Hr ride) plus , I fucking love her man.

holy shit man i just read the full thread and i didnt realise how serious this shit was,you fucked up big time man,but if she breaks up with you for your height after all theese years you probably dodged a bullet

 

[astatin]

Dnr, but don't tell her if she hasn't noticed yet lol.
I was at a party the other day and a foid told me my height is probably 5'9 when im literally 5'7 soo

 

[Matthew24]

I need advice because I'm completely stuck and I know I fucked up.

When I was 15, I met this girl online. We instantly clicked - like, better than I've ever connected with anyone. Our first call lasted all night and we just kept talking every single day after that. She understood me in ways no one else did. We went through the typical online relationship ups and downs, periods where we'd fade out because of school and life, but we always came back to each other.

Last year we made it official. For a year and a half straight, we talked every single day. She's genuinely the most important person in my life.

Here's where I fucked up: When I was 16, she asked about my height. I was short and insecure about it, and my brain told me to just lie cuz I'd grow taller later anyw.. So I told her I was 182cm (about 6'0"). Stupid, I know. I genuinely thought I'd hit that height eventually since my brother is tall, so I figured I'd just grow into the lie.

Spoiler alert: I didn't grow. I'm nowhere near that height. I'm actually the same height as her, And she's made it clear multiple times that she really values height in a partner - she's joked that if I were short, we wouldn't even be dating.

Four months ago, we planned to meet in person for the first time. I panicked and made up an excuse to cancel. She was devastated, we didn't talk for two weeks. We're talking again now, but the lie is eating me alive.

Here's the thing - she's been betrayed by everyone close to her. Her parents are divorced and constantly involve her in their drama, she's had a really rough life, and she's told me that I'm basically the only good thing she has left. She's said she's "pinned all her hopes on me."

I know I need to tell her the truth, but I'm terrified of what it'll do to her. This won't just be a normal breakup - it'll confirm her belief that everyone she loves will eventually betray her. At the same time, I can't keep lying to her, and we can't avoid meeting forever.

I can't just ghost her or block her - we share too much of our lives,Plus I genuinely love her and don't want to hurt her like that.

What the hell do I do? Do I tell her the truth and risk destroying her? Do I lie and break up with her over some dumb reason. ? I feel trapped and I know whatever I do is going to hurt her, but the longer I wait, the worse it gets.

I know some of y'all gonna say "it's online thing why does it matter" she's not that far from me (an 1Hr ride) plus , I fucking love her man.

What's ur real height,btw im 6'0" so i can take ur girl if u want