BigJimsWornOutTires
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Sounds like her father needs complete control over her. Obviously. And/or not very good, or feel confident in a potential confrontation with a white guy that may, or may not, whip his Indian ass. It happens. If she continues on that route, he may disconnect her from the inheritance but later on add her back. But if something happens during that difficult time, she's fucked. If I was her, I would lose the guy and date older white men her father's age and see how he feels about that.
So, as the title says, my dad and I had a heated discussion because of my new boyfriend. I met him through college a couple months ago and we really clicked right away. The problem is, my dad is super conservative even though he has lived in the States for the past 25 years or so. When he found out that I have a white boyfriend, he got really mad. He always wanted me to marry an Indian guy and he cannot understand why I would "date outside my race", especially, he said, as there are a lot of Indian guys in our city and our social circle (he is quite big in tech).
I tried to explain to him that I am just not attracted to Indian guys. I tried to avoid going into specifics out of fear of hurting his feelings but he really pressed me. So I truthfully said that I find them unattractive because most of them are short, don't have nice facial features, and yeah, I also said that I am not fond of the skin color. My dad found this outrageous and accused me of hating our own people which is not at all true. I love my parents and my brothers, it is purely about sexual attraction. I started to cry and said some nasty things which I regret now. My dad said that he will consider not supporting me financially anymore and have me move out of our house if I continue the relationship with my BF. I am hoping that he didn't really mean it and said it out of anger but somehow I feel that he might after all. This was two days ago, and we haven't really talked since.
I had a good talk with my mother, though. She understands me, and even admitted that if she would have been born in the US she would have probably gone for a white guy too (my parents' marriage was an arranged one). She asked me to consider not dating white guys until I am finished with college and have a good job or at least as long as I depend on my father's money. She means well but I am really struggling. I have really strong feelings for my BF even though we haven't been together for very long. He is everything I always wanted in a guy. Tall, handsome, funny and kind. On the other hand, I really fear that my dad is following through with his threat.
What do I do? Should I listen to my mother and just finish college first and then date whoever I want? Should I just pretend to break it off? I really feel I can't talk to my dad sensibly about this issue. Any advice from people having similar problems with a very conservative parent?
"Hey, dad, what's up?" The older Chad attempts a befriending of the father.
"Um...you look older than me, sir." The father's disturbed.
"Ugh. Tell me about it. Last night, when she was grinding my face and sucking on my balls, I thought about that. Am I too old for her? Right? Ugh."
