AlexAP
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I was asleep after doing a double shift at work. Definitely a needed rest, but something woke me up, and right in my line of sight was my bf, on his computer, rubbing his dick, to a girl that we both work with. A girl he told me I didn't have to worry about. I've asked him if he's been doing this over the course of the past month since he started talking to her, and he lied to me everytime. The pieces of his internet history that he forgets to delete is all telling though. He even attempted to act like it wasn't what it was, by claiming that he had a porn tab open, but not playing, so he was just "getting ready". He claims it's not a big deal because she barely talks to him in person and doesn't respond to his messages late at night.
I've never felt so disrespected in my life. I chose to take him for his word, just to find out its shit. I honestly think this is grounds to terminate the relationship, but of course he thinks I'm overreacting. It's funny because we've been going through a whole break up, get back together period for the last 2 years. What were the breakups over? Me questioning his sudden need for female friends, since getting attention from skinnier girls at work. I'm sure he's been flirting with them as well.
Our lives are super intertwined, so you can imagine how much of a headache this is going to be, especially since we have to live together since I have nowhere to go, and no money after paying both of our bills. I highly doubt reconciliation is plausible at this point. He's already been lying to me about it every time I've asked, and pretended like I was going crazy. I just need some advice on how to handle this because I've broken down twice since this happened last night. I'm glad I found out when I did, but I just feel so played. He's already tried convincing me that I'm winning because he comes home to me, but that's exactly the problem. I'm losing because he's focused on other girls, and probably comes home to have sex and fantasize about them, in my place.
We've been together for almost 10 years and it feels like the rug has been completely snatched from under me. Now I'm questioning absolutely everything. He keeps claiming he just wants to be able to talk to girls without me getting upset, but I only get upset because it's always some bs like this in the end, and it's not like he doesn't have female friends, he wants new ones now. Especially since he thinks his friends like me more than him.
I've never felt so disrespected in my life. I chose to take him for his word, just to find out its shit. I honestly think this is grounds to terminate the relationship, but of course he thinks I'm overreacting. It's funny because we've been going through a whole break up, get back together period for the last 2 years. What were the breakups over? Me questioning his sudden need for female friends, since getting attention from skinnier girls at work. I'm sure he's been flirting with them as well.
Our lives are super intertwined, so you can imagine how much of a headache this is going to be, especially since we have to live together since I have nowhere to go, and no money after paying both of our bills. I highly doubt reconciliation is plausible at this point. He's already been lying to me about it every time I've asked, and pretended like I was going crazy. I just need some advice on how to handle this because I've broken down twice since this happened last night. I'm glad I found out when I did, but I just feel so played. He's already tried convincing me that I'm winning because he comes home to me, but that's exactly the problem. I'm losing because he's focused on other girls, and probably comes home to have sex and fantasize about them, in my place.
We've been together for almost 10 years and it feels like the rug has been completely snatched from under me. Now I'm questioning absolutely everything. He keeps claiming he just wants to be able to talk to girls without me getting upset, but I only get upset because it's always some bs like this in the end, and it's not like he doesn't have female friends, he wants new ones now. Especially since he thinks his friends like me more than him.
