ElySioNs
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TLDR: I’m not physically / sexually attracted to my partner but I’m not willing to leave the relationship because of it. He will never be my type physically but ticks all other boxes. I’ve brought it up before but it hurt his feelings and we haven’t talked about it since. He has been wanting sex but I can’t bring myself to do it as often as he would like, any advice?
We have been together for a few months now but I have known him for 3 years. I fell in love with him very shortly after I met him but I was in a serious relationship at the time and didn’t want to compromise that so we lost contact up until recently when my relationship ended at the beginning of this year.
He is amazing, he treats me like a queen and this is the most loving relationship I’ve ever been in… but every time it comes down to having sex or physical intimacy I can’t get into it. It’s gotten to the point where I just want to ‘get it over with’ because I don’t enjoy it and I have a hard time understanding why. I have brought this up to him a few times but each time it hurts his feelings even when I approach it gently. In the 3 months that we’ve been together we’ve had sex 2-3 times and each time it’s ended with me being disappointed and him being satisfied.
Everything came to a head last night when I got home from work. He greeted me by hugging me and saying “{name}, I really want to fuck you” I tried not to blow it off but told him I was tired and I just wanted to put on my comfy clothes so I b-lined for the bedroom. He followed me to watch me change but grabbed me and pushed me over the bed playfully, I told him I wasn’t in the mood but I said “just get it over with” in a playful tone while laughing. He did not take it playfully and we ended up talking in circles about the same issue for over an hour. I just don’t know what to do or how to handle it, I love him more than I have ever loved anyone. I feel incredibly shallow and like I’m failing him as a partner but I can’t force myself to be physically / sexually attracted to him.
Any and all advice is welcome and very much appreciated.
We have been together for a few months now but I have known him for 3 years. I fell in love with him very shortly after I met him but I was in a serious relationship at the time and didn’t want to compromise that so we lost contact up until recently when my relationship ended at the beginning of this year.
He is amazing, he treats me like a queen and this is the most loving relationship I’ve ever been in… but every time it comes down to having sex or physical intimacy I can’t get into it. It’s gotten to the point where I just want to ‘get it over with’ because I don’t enjoy it and I have a hard time understanding why. I have brought this up to him a few times but each time it hurts his feelings even when I approach it gently. In the 3 months that we’ve been together we’ve had sex 2-3 times and each time it’s ended with me being disappointed and him being satisfied.
Everything came to a head last night when I got home from work. He greeted me by hugging me and saying “{name}, I really want to fuck you” I tried not to blow it off but told him I was tired and I just wanted to put on my comfy clothes so I b-lined for the bedroom. He followed me to watch me change but grabbed me and pushed me over the bed playfully, I told him I wasn’t in the mood but I said “just get it over with” in a playful tone while laughing. He did not take it playfully and we ended up talking in circles about the same issue for over an hour. I just don’t know what to do or how to handle it, I love him more than I have ever loved anyone. I feel incredibly shallow and like I’m failing him as a partner but I can’t force myself to be physically / sexually attracted to him.
Any and all advice is welcome and very much appreciated.
