
ToryToad
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I am really freaking out right now and hope you guys can help me.
My girlfriend of 2,5 years has cheated and I already forgave her. Now I learned that the sex was much worse than I expected and I don't know how to handle this.
It happened about 2 month ago. My girlfriend was at a party at the shared apartment of some of her friends. Nothing special. I wasn't in town as I had to work in a different city.
The next day she called me crying and told me that she had cheated. I was shocked. When I came back the day after that, we had a long talk. She didn't tell me much details and I didn't ask for it. She said that she had had a few drinks and just went with the flow and then had sex there. I actually didn't ask with whom.
As she seemed to be really sorry, I tried to get over it. It took me some time but I actually managed to really forgive her and I thought our relationship was on a good track again - her cheating wasn't a topic at all anymore. I admit that I was wondering about details from time to time but I didn't want to talk about it and thought that it doesn't matter.
However, I was very, very wrong.
Yesterday I talked to a guy who was there as well and he seemed to be very surprised that I had been able to forgive her. I tried to explain to him that I appreciated her honesy and that she never tried to hide it at all. I wasn't able to understand his confusion until I was finally brave enough to ask about details.
I almost blacked out when he told me.
To cut a long story short: it wasn't just "normal" sex with one guy. She apparently slept with at least three of them and did things she'd never do with me. I still have no words for it.
Actually I thought he was making this up but he had proof and I can't get this off my mind now. I don't know how to ever cope with this.
I know that I didn't ask for details but it still feels like she lied to me, even though she technically maybe didn't.
I hate that I went through a lot of mental trouble to keep this relationship alive and now have to learn this.
I am completely freaking out right now
My girlfriend of 2,5 years has cheated and I already forgave her. Now I learned that the sex was much worse than I expected and I don't know how to handle this.
It happened about 2 month ago. My girlfriend was at a party at the shared apartment of some of her friends. Nothing special. I wasn't in town as I had to work in a different city.
The next day she called me crying and told me that she had cheated. I was shocked. When I came back the day after that, we had a long talk. She didn't tell me much details and I didn't ask for it. She said that she had had a few drinks and just went with the flow and then had sex there. I actually didn't ask with whom.
As she seemed to be really sorry, I tried to get over it. It took me some time but I actually managed to really forgive her and I thought our relationship was on a good track again - her cheating wasn't a topic at all anymore. I admit that I was wondering about details from time to time but I didn't want to talk about it and thought that it doesn't matter.
However, I was very, very wrong.
Yesterday I talked to a guy who was there as well and he seemed to be very surprised that I had been able to forgive her. I tried to explain to him that I appreciated her honesy and that she never tried to hide it at all. I wasn't able to understand his confusion until I was finally brave enough to ask about details.
I almost blacked out when he told me.
To cut a long story short: it wasn't just "normal" sex with one guy. She apparently slept with at least three of them and did things she'd never do with me. I still have no words for it.
Actually I thought he was making this up but he had proof and I can't get this off my mind now. I don't know how to ever cope with this.
I know that I didn't ask for details but it still feels like she lied to me, even though she technically maybe didn't.
I hate that I went through a lot of mental trouble to keep this relationship alive and now have to learn this.
I am completely freaking out right now