I care so much about what others think

[Noctiѕ]

I don’t live my life how I want to live. I constantly seek the approval and validation and attention of others. Your image and reputation is everything. How can I not care about it? What can I do?

 

[Eltrē]

You're human, this is normal

 

[Noctiѕ]

You're human, this is normal

How do I stop it? Or is it inevitable? I see ppl say to live your own life accordingly and not care about what others think. But it’s so hard no to. Everything about me I’m conscious of when I’m outside

 

[MtnLord]

It's ok man, i do too

 

[Eltrē]

How do I stop it? Or is it inevitable? I see ppl say to live your own life accordingly and not care about what others think. But it’s so hard no to. Everything about me I’m conscious of when I’m outside

You can stop it, or at least lessen it, by becoming narcissistic
Narcissism nearly always stems from deep-rooted insecurities

Though that's just trading one mental illness for another

 

[Noctiѕ]

You can stop it, or at least lessen it, by becoming narcissistic
Narcissism nearly always stems from deep-rooted insecurities

Though that's just trading one mental illness for another

There’s no winning in the end huh?

 

[tansel]

use it to fuel your motives to get plastic surgery

 

[Eltrē]

There’s no winning in the end huh?

Unfortunately early traumas usually never get resolved

The only way to have won is to have been taken care of properly by your guardians, the best thing you can do to soothe your wounds is making sure your child grows up well

 

[Noctiѕ]

Unfortunately early traumas usually never get resolved

The only way to have won is to have been taken care of properly by your guardians, the best thing you can do to soothe your wounds is making sure your child grows up well

I was loved a lot by my parents but my peers in school would constantly ignore me so much

 

[Eltrē]

I was loved a lot by my parents but my peers in school would constantly ignore me so much

Seems like they've still failed you, though in the genetics department rather than the affection one

You either have the genetics but get raped by your upbringing, or you have the upbringing but get raped by your genetics
How funny

 

[Noctiѕ]

Seems like they've still failed you, though in the genetics department rather than the affection one

You either have the genetics but get raped by your upbringing, or you have the upbringing but get raped by your genetics
How funny

Fuck bro so true. Every good looking or talented kid had neglectful parents. I was the complete opposite of that. I think if I had better nutrition and didn’t eat goyslop I’d develop way better. I don’t entirely blame my genetics for that.

 

[Truebloatcel]

I don’t live my life how I want to live. I constantly seek the approval and validation and attention of others. Your image and reputation is everything. How can I not care about it? What can I do?

Just do what makes you happy it's hard at first cause people judge a lot but once you realize that you really shouldn't give a fuck about what other people think of you it'll be way easier and the more you act the easier it'll be

 

[Eltrē]

Fuck bro so true. Every good looking or talented kid had neglectful parents.

It's such a funny thing to see, I can't tell whether it's just how humanity is supposed to be or if it was manufactured to create this golem society of ours

I do believe it's just humanity doing its thing though, raise a child perfectly and chances are they will not put in even a tenth of the same effort into raising their own, repeating that vicious cycle
Old strict family traditions usually fixed that, but that was usually limited to the wealthier people

I was the complete opposite of that. I think if I had better nutrition and didn’t eat goyslop I’d develop way better. I don’t entirely blame my genetics for that.

It's a nice thing to believe in but realistically the body is very efficient at what it does, goyslop, raw carnivore, ray peat or whatever other mainstream fad diet you can think of, none of it changes much

As long as you weren't completely malnourished (skin & bones), you developed pretty much normally

 

[Noctiѕ]

It's such a funny thing to see, I can't tell whether it's just how humanity is supposed to be or if it was manufactured to create this golem society of ours

I do believe it's just humanity doing its thing though, raise a child perfectly and chances are they will not put in even a tenth of the same effort into raising their own, repeating that vicious cycle
Old strict family traditions usually fixed that, but that was usually limited to the wealthier people

It's a nice thing to believe in but realistically the body is very efficient at what it does, goyslop, raw carnivore, ray peat or whatever other mainstream fad diet you can think of, none of it changes much

As long as you weren't completely malnourished (skin & bones), you developed pretty much normally

fuck so if I was born into a wealthy family I would still be an incel.

 

[Eltrē]

fuck so if I was born into a wealthy family I would still be an incel.

Probably not, it's literally impossible to stay poor / middle-class as a genuinely attractive person

 

[Noctiѕ]

Probably not, it's literally impossible to stay poor / middle-class as a genuinely attractive person

No I mean if I had the best nutrition and care if I were born into a wealthy family would I still grow up to be an incel?

 

[Eltrē]

No I mean if I had the best nutrition and care if I were born into a wealthy family would I still grow up to be an incel?

No clue, these hypotheticals will only make you feel worse, find a better use of your time, like jacking off or something

 

[Noctiѕ]

No clue, these hypotheticals will only make you feel worse, find a better use of your time, like jacking off or something

I don’t even jack off anymore. I don’t feel anything

 

[Eltrē]

I don’t even jack off anymore. I don’t feel anything

Truthfully I only feel alive these days when I'm extremely horny from abstaining

 

[CoderShaper]

You're human, this is normal

It's not normal, atleast not with how it works when you're ugly. Living through life with the same considerations as an invisible below average guy is soul crushing because you can't stop stressing and overthinking it but you can't bear any fruit from it either because being ugly means you'll never get the satisfaction of finally getting something out of all of it.

 

[Eltrē]

It's not normal, atleast not with how it works when you're ugly. Living through life with the same considerations as an invisible below average guy is soul crushing because you can't stop stressing and overthinking it but you can't bear any fruit from it either because being ugly means you'll never get the satisfaction of finally getting something out of all of it.

It is normal, you being ugly is what's not normal

That's like saying walking isn't a normal human thing to do, because you specifically are crippled

 

[Noctiѕ]

Truthfully I only feel alive these days when I'm extremely horny from abstaining

Nothing fees real to me anymore

 

[Matrix88]

sadly it matters this much to you just because you aren't HTN so u don't get haloed by anything u do