I feel a moral dilemma recently with online dating

[alien]

There's two women who I have dates with.
There's A, a few years older than me. Filipina single mom of a hapa daughter. Doesn't want more kids. We have more of a connection. We talked on the phone. We have been flirting very aggressively with each other. On the phone she was nervously laughing. She wears her heart on her sleeve more. I like her. I want her to be my gf. I've never felt this way about a woman before since my ex Yogapants from 3+ years ago. We have a date Monday.

B is a decade older than me, Filipina, I don't have as much of a connection with her. We have been flirting. But she feels more guarded. Because she's afraid that I won't like her when we meet. She is single, never married, childless in her 40s. She missed the window. I'm not as keen on this one. She was basically my backup plan in case A didn't work out. We have a date Friday.

On Sunday I wasn't sure if A actually liked me. I felt intimidated. Because I figured I would never be able to get with her. I figured some Chad would get her. So I messaged B as a backup plan. And I asked B out on a date. And she suggested Friday. It wasn't until Monday that I realized that A probably actualy did like me. I didn't muster up the courage to ask A on a date until Tuesday. A is with her daughter over the weekend so she suggested Monday for a date.

The date with B is first. I'm afraid that if I manage to sleep with her, she is going to start acting like my girlfriend or bring up exclusivity. But I really want A, whom I'm seeing Monday. And if it works out with A and if A asks for a relationship/exclusivity then I have to cut B loose.

I cast a wide net with online dating shot-gun messaging a bunch of girls. Because women are so flaky. They ghost, etc. It's never a good idea to put all your eggs in one basket. But now for once in my life I might actually be in a situation where I can fuck two girls. If I bang B and she starts acting like my girlfriend, I'm going to feel guilty. Because I want to be with A.

Women on the other hand trade up and discard without a care in the world in the world of dating. lol. So sometimes I feel like women deserve no mercy. But then I think to myself, "what if these girls are NAWALTs, I don't want to hurt their feelings."

 

[MrCucumber]

I wouldn't go out of my way to meet up with a girl older than me by even 1 day I think.

A few years ago I would of but only cause I was younger and liked older girls than. Now I am older and like younger girls lol.

 

[alien]

I wouldn't go out of my way to meet up with a girl older than me by even 1 day I think.

A few years ago I would of but only cause I was younger and liked older girls than. Now I am older and like younger girls lol.

Women my age and younger have the baby rabies. And the women significantly younger than me filter me out with their age filters (this is why TRP and r/mgtow are full of shit. Women don't hit the wall at 30. Men do.) So I find that older women are the best fit for a greying man in his mid-30s who doesn't want kids. Even the women my age who don't want kids think they are hot shit. It appears that women become more humble when they hit their late 30s.

I also don't feel like I'm settling at all for the filipina single mom (A). I would be really happy if she became my gf. She looks good.

The older filipina though, it would be settling.

 

[xForgotMyName]

DO NOT EVEN THINK ABOUT IT.

Do what is good for YOU.

even if you hurt their feelings(lol), they'll bounce back faster than you can say "money, money, money!!!"

 

[The Dude Abides]

You can have deep feelings for more than one girl at once. You are not a women who has a need to trade up.

 

[Darth Cialis]

Jfl at yellow fever copers.

Btw it's quite simple really, just don't fuck her or make it clear that you don't want a LTR before fucking.

 

[Deleted member 2205]

Oldcels over 30.
I'm truly sorry.

 

[fukmylyf]

was Yogapants your first lay?

 

[alien]

was Yogapants your first lay?

She wasn't. But I had sex with her more than any other woman. And the sex was the best I had. And she was the hottest. Had the highest sex drive and a freaky girl. I also feel more of a connection with her because we met off PSL.

I considered the Punjabi to be my first serious gf. But the Punjabi was so on and off with me almost from the jump that I consider Yogapants to be my first serious gf.

The way that I talk of Yogapants, you'd think I lost my virginity to her. rofl. I don't blame you for thinking that. haha. I bonded with her more than any other woman though.

Yogapants was psycho though. BPD. The filipina single mom seems to be more mentally/emotionally stable.

Oldcels over 30.
I'm truly sorry.

You're going to be my age one day too son.
It doesn't bother me that the single mom is a few years older than me. I think she is beautiful. And sweet. Online dating has been such a hard journey for me that I want to cash in my chips now. I become attached to the first attractive girl who likes me. That's how I am. My confidence has been so low for years. Yogapants was the first attractive woman I had sex with without paying for it. This is why I feel like she took my virginity in a way. This woman would be 2nd attractive woman I slept with for free if we have sex. rofl. I've suffered with low confidence for many years.

 

[Deleted member 2012]

Maybe just don’t sleep with B on Friday

 

[alien]

Maybe just don’t sleep with B on Friday

Yeah morally I'm thinking that I shouldn't sleep with her. But A is not a done deal yet. I have a very good feeling about A. But I'm worried she is going to lose interest in me.
Should I tell B about A? Tell her that I like her but there is this other girl I really like? Women HATE playing second fiddle to another woman. However from my experience women trade up and discard men without emotion constantly. It's hard to know where you really stand.

Like this other filipina single mom (let's call her C) that is way less attractive than A because her gut is bigger than her tits, she ghosted me after going to bed with her on the first date 3 1/2 weeks ago (I had a wet noodle, couldn't get my dick hard due to nerves and her gut was a turn off. Which is why I ordered Cialis and Viagra recently). She has on her profile she's looking for a LTR. And she asked me about my thoughts on having kids. And she pretended to like me even when I dropped her off home. So you can never really tell. Women can lie to your face.

Jfl at yellow fever copers.

I didn't plan on pursing Filipina women. They pursued me.
My first Filipina (C), she checked out my profile. So I sent her a message. And I could tell that she was thirsty based on her messages. Went to bed on the first date. She still goes online on the site 3 1/2+ weeks later. So I can only imagine how many white cocks she is taking. Is it common for women to just want ONS? I thought she ghosted me due to wet noodle. But if she's still on the site for this long, she must be riding a lot of white cocks. It turns me on actually thinking about all the white cock she's probably getting. Women are so lucky. If I was a girl I would take lots of black cocks. So I can relate to filipina sluts like her.

Filipina B, I don't think she checked out my profile first. I can't recall. I messaged her first. Seems thirsty but guarded. She thinks that I'm punching below my weight (I am). I only messaged her because I have faced so much rejection that I decided to lower my standards.

Filipina A, she messaged me first. She is the most thirsty (but I didn't know how thirsty she was until after I asked out B). I'm very thirsty for her too. I'm hoping we have sex on the first date and she becomes my gf. Because I want her so bad. It's been so long since I've had a qt3.14 gf.