i feel super undesirable, and like im going to be a failure

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ive felt like this for years
to preface im 16
i've always felt undesirable, ive always felt like i wont achieve any of my goals such as having kids, owning a home/having a nice apartment, having a wife/lover
 
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ive felt like this for years
to preface im 16
i've always felt undesirable, ive always felt like i wont achieve any of my goals such as having kids, owning a home/having a nice apartment, having a wife/lover
Your life hasn’t even started nigga, just wait till your 19, then you can rope
 
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You can definitely achieve all these things, many people do, have some confidence in yourself please.
 
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You can definitely achieve all these things, many people do, have some confidence in yourself please.
I'm not sure if i'm misremembering this, but I'm pretty damn sure I felt like I was destined to be a failure at 13 years old, or younger.
I wanna have confidence in myself, but I'm insecure about literally every physical trait of mine. Life doesn't even feel real most of the time, living feels like a chore. I have low confidence, low self esteem, and I'm ridiculously insecure.
 
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I'm not sure if i'm misremembering this, but I'm pretty damn sure I felt like I was destined to be a failure at 13 years old, or younger.
I wanna have confidence in myself, but I'm insecure about literally every physical trait of mine. Life doesn't even feel real most of the time, living feels like a chore. I have low confidence, low self esteem, and I'm ridiculously insecure.
Life changes quickly, I was super sad and lost when I was 13 since I grew up in a family with high expectations and remained this way till 17, note I was obese at 13 and still very fat at 16 so physical traits at the lowest, no confidence. Now I’m 18, still randomly in a sad mood sometimes but that’s life and I’m in a position which I wouldn’t have imagined myself being in when I was 16. Those 2 years mean a lot and things will change, in most ways you can think of. Also remember how many average joes achieve most of the goals you listed, some I’m sure are very below average physically. You’ll be fine, you’re aware of what you want to achieve just work towards it. Anything you’ve failed in already doesn’t matter since you’re only 16 so it can’t be too detrimental.
 
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Life changes quickly, I was super sad and lost when I was 13 since I grew up in a family with high expectations and remained this way till 17, note I was obese at 13 and still very fat at 16 so physical traits at the lowest, no confidence. Now I’m 18, still randomly in a sad mood sometimes but that’s life and I’m in a position which I wouldn’t have imagined myself being in when I was 16. Those 2 years mean a lot and things will change, in most ways you can think of. Also remember how many average joes achieve most of the goals you listed, some I’m sure are very below average physically. You’ll be fine, you’re aware of what you want to achieve just work towards it. Anything you’ve failed in already doesn’t matter since you’re only 16 so it can’t be too detrimental.
I don't wanna seem like a really negative person but under the circumstances I'm living in, life will probably be worse at 18.
I'm in awful poverty. I live in a tiny apartment with my siblings and my mom. My mom is incredibly mentally ill and yells at me basically everyday, is obese, and doesn't work. Rent has been unpaid for the longest time, my mom has no plans on losing weight and getting a job meaning we might get evicted soon, this apartment is full of bedbugs and cockroaches and mold and filth.

I wish the only problems I had were fear of the future and insecurities.

Oh yeah, and I got held back because I was so depressed I gave up on school. I'm now incredibly behind.
 
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I don't wanna seem like a really negative person but under the circumstances I'm living in, life will probably be worse at 18.
I'm in awful poverty. I live in a tiny apartment with my siblings and my mom. My mom is incredibly mentally ill and yells at me basically everyday, is obese, and doesn't work. Rent has been unpaid for the longest time, my mom has no plans on losing weight and getting a job meaning we might get evicted soon, this apartment is full of bedbugs and cockroaches and mold and filth.

I wish the only problems I had were fear of the future and insecurities.

Oh yeah, and I got held back because I was so depressed I gave up on school. I'm now incredibly behind.
That really sucks man, I hope things start looking up soon. I think the only thing you really can do is work very hard in school, which will be hard given the circumstances but better to try. Get some decent stats and try to land a scholarship, I don’t really know much about the US system sadly but if that’s not feasible it may be better to try to find some work literally anywhere. But I hope you know almost anyone would feel the same or worse living in such circumstances. Sounds like child abuse.
 
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ive always felt like i wont achieve any of my goals such as having kids, owning a home/having a nice apartment, having a wife/lover
You probably won’t achieve any of these goals that you’ve listed here, and that’s not a knock on you, it’s just the way things are rn.

Even a chad would have a hard time finding a good lover to bear his children and stay loyal to him and grow old with.

As for the house, economy is indeed fucked beyond belief and it’s clear there’s and agenda against the owning of homes since it is less profitable for the population to own homes rather than rent

It’s a tough situation but we gotta keep it pushing, I had the same worries and thoughts when I was 16 and I’ve just been cruising through life, what else can you do. Surf the Kali Yuga or whatever
 
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You probably won’t achieve any of these goals that you’ve listed here, and that’s not a knock on you, it’s just the way things are rn.

Even a chad would have a hard time finding a good lover to bear his children and stay loyal to him and grow old with.

As for the house, economy is indeed fucked beyond belief and it’s clear there’s and agenda against the owning of homes since it is less profitable for the population to own homes rather than rent

It’s a tough situation but we gotta keep it pushing, I had the same worries and thoughts when I was 16 and I’ve just been cruising through life, what else can you do. Surf the Kali Yuga or whatever
Ummmm i see really ugly people with wives and kids daily bro
 
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Ummmm i see really ugly people with wives and kids daily bro
Doesn't mean they're happily married, there's a distinction between married with kids, and happily married with a good woman raising children properly
 
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I am super undesirable and am a failure you've still got time
 
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ive felt like this for years
to preface im 16
i've always felt undesirable, ive always felt like i wont achieve any of my goals such as having kids, owning a home/having a nice apartment, having a wife/lover
Gotta work with what you have ig :(
 
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