I fucked up every good opportunity in my life

[Saint Casanova]

I’ve had so many good opportunities to live a great life and I somehow managed to fuck them all up.

- Opportunity for a good career
-Opportunity for a fulfilling long term relationship with a nice girl
- Opportunity for a good friendship group
-Opportunity for various other successful ventures.

All of this I fucked up in two years.

Now it’s very unlikely I’ll get them back. Don’t ever waste your opportunities

 

[Saint Casanova]

And I honestly have to say I deserve my misfortunes.

I was very lucky to get these opportunities. So many people don’t have such luck yet I let it all go to waste.

It is what it is I guess

 

[soulless_npc]

I dropped out of school, lost countless jobs, and fucked up the very few opportunities with girls I've had in my life. Now I have no opportunity for anything. I should known what I know now ten years ago. I've never been playing with a fair hand.

 

[Saint Casanova]

I dropped out of school, lost countless jobs, and fucked up the very few opportunities with girls I've had in my life. Now I have no opportunity for anything. I should known what I know now ten years ago. I've never been playing with a fair hand.

Everyone has a different set of cards but my point is that if you got those opportunities, regardless of how many, and messed it up, that’s on you.

That’s the harsh truth behind it and the reason why I’m in this situation. I’ve taken personal responsibility and realised how stupid my actions were, even if they were somewhat swayed by external factors out of my control ( mental health, pressure, lack of knowledge ect)

 

[Saint Casanova]

I dropped out of school, lost countless jobs, and fucked up the very few opportunities with girls I've had in my life. Now I have no opportunity for anything. I should known what I know now ten years ago. I've never been playing with a fair hand.

And another issue is that I do believe we can both get some good opportunities back, but it would be much, much harder.

I personally just don’t have the energy left for that anymore

 

[soulless_npc]

And another issue is that I do believe we can both get some good opportunities back, but it would be much, much harder.

I personally just don’t have the energy left for that anymore

Well personally I'm turning 32 soon, but I def don't have the energy either. Being a wageslave so long burns you out. You only get youth once and you can't buy it back. And yeah it's harder because the social expectations on you only grow with age. Point being I should be way, way way further along.

I've had sex exactly once in my life. That puts me so far behind that I have the sexual experience of an average 20 year old incel guy, if that. And I dunno about you but with that problem always looming and the loneliness and depression, I lost motivation for everything. That's why I didn't finish college.

How can it be over when it never even started or happened?

 

[Saint Casanova]

Well personally I'm turning 32 soon, but I def don't have the energy either. Being a wageslave so long burns you out. You only get youth once and you can't buy it back. And yeah it's harder because the social expectations on you only grow with age. Point being I should be way, way way further along.

I've had sex exactly once in my life. That puts me so far behind that I have the sexual experience of an average 20 year old incel guy, if that. And I dunno about you but with that problem always looming and the loneliness and depression, I lost motivation for everything. That's why I didn't finish college.

How can it be over when it never even started or happened?

I lost motivation too and just feel down. My biggest issue is that I have no energy. I know if I had the energy I did back when I was doing well, I’d at least try to fix this miss.

I’m not sure what’s going on. It’s probably a mix of mental strain and health issues.

I still have a small inkling of hope that I’d turn it around somehow. Is it the same for you ?

 

[Aën Fаrhis]

Once you lose the wave you ain't coming back

 

[soulless_npc]

I lost motivation too and just feel down. My biggest issue is that I have no energy. I know if I had the energy I did back when I was doing well, I’d at least try to fix this miss.

I’m not sure what’s going on. It’s probably a mix of mental strain and health issues.

I still have a small inkling of hope that I’d turn it around somehow. Is it the same for you ?

Deep down I do, but it would require as much work on the inside as the outside. I have been so traumatized by the past ten years with trying to find my place in the world and create a solid identity which is where a lot of these issues stem from.

If I did I would be essentially attempting to try to re capture what I wish my 20s could have been, in my 30s.

Maybe that's pathetic, but life / people never cared about my feelings and needs anyways and I was always given the shit end of things, so do what makes you happy I guess. All you have in the end are memories and I would like to make better ones.

 

[Saint Casanova]

Once you lose the wave you ain't coming back

Brutal. Not even a smaller one ?

 

[Saint Casanova]

Deep down I do, but it would require as much work on the inside as the outside. I have been so traumatized by the past ten years with trying to find my place in the world and create a solid identity which is where a lot of these issues stem from.

If I did I would be essentially attempting to try to re capture what I wish my 20s could have been, in my 30s.

Maybe that's pathetic, but life / people never cared about my feelings and needs anyways and I was always given the shit end of things, so do what makes you happy I guess. All you have in the end are memories and I would like to make better ones.

Me too. I always grasp at the memories I had when I was happier.

The current predicament is that even if I do all this work to turn everything around, would it be worth it? Look at the trajectory of our society. It’s getting worse and worse. Vain, selfish, cold. Most women don’t have the capacity to love. They don’t have the capacity to be good motherly figures and same with men too. Sex will get boring after a while too

 

[Aën Fаrhis]

Brutal. Not even a smaller one ?

Consider yourself fortunate if it's the case

Me too. I always grasp at the memories I had when I was happier.

The current predicament is that even if I do all this work to turn everything around, would it be worth it? Look at the trajectory of our society. It’s getting worse and worse. Vain, selfish, cold. Most women don’t have the capacity to love. They don’t have the capacity to be good motherly figures and same with men too. Sex will get boring after a while too

I thought I had it bad in my teens and that it would get fixed in my adulthood. Hoho, how stupid and naive I was

 

[GynoGladiator]

any advice for a yung slime like me? (51 backwards)

 

[soulless_npc]

Me too. I always grasp at the memories I had when I was happier.

The current predicament is that even if I do all this work to turn everything around, would it be worth it? Look at the trajectory of our society. It’s getting worse and worse. Vain, selfish, cold. Most women don’t have the capacity to love. They don’t have the capacity to be good motherly figures and same with men too. Sex will get boring after a while too

Until I maxx what I can and really start putting myself out there and facing rejection again, I won't be able to say I gave it 100%, so I want to do all that and then if I still fail, I can at least say I gave it 100%. Otherwise it just lives on as a demon in your mind. That's how it feels to me anyway.

Yeah I don't expect to find a woman I could live the rest of my life with though unless she is incredibly counter culture and different and doesn't care about me not being rich, or I bat at a level which I likely never will bat at, meaning money. The first seems more likely.

 

[Im sorry mother]

As long as u arent over 22
U got plenty of time

 

[Saint Casanova]

Consider yourself fortunate if it's the case

I thought I had it bad in my teens and that it would get fixed in my adulthood. Hoho, how stupid and naive I was

I had it very good until 18 until it all went to absolute shit. Sometimes it can be so random too

 

[Saint Casanova]

any advice for a yung slime like me? (51 backwards)

The main thing is to not be scared to take on the opportunities you get. That was my biggest problem

 

[Saint Casanova]

Until I maxx what I can and really start putting myself out there and facing rejection again, I won't be able to say I gave it 100%, so I want to do all that and then if I still fail, I can at least say I gave it 100%. Otherwise it just lives on as a demon in your mind. That's how it feels to me anyway.

Yeah I don't expect to find a woman I could live the rest of my life with though unless she is incredibly counter culture and different and doesn't care about me not being rich, or I bat at a level which I likely never will bat at, meaning money. The first seems more likely.

We both need to give it one more shot tbh. I just need to find that energy