ranierean
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This happened two days ago, but I'm still feeling so upset and angry by it. I'd been talking to a man I used to know in school for a couple of weeks, and I thought we were getting along really well. I struggle to make friends because of my ADHD, but he seemed genuinely interested in being my friend and that made me so happy. So of course I shared things with him and told him about my day etc, like you would with your friends.
I love having my nails done, but I haven't had the money to do it recently, so I was venting to him about how I hated not having nice nails. I made a joke about my nails feeling bald to me without having acrylics, and I sent him a picture of my nails. Apparently this picture included the tiniest ever little bit of my foot on display, because the next thing I know I've got a message from him telling me he has a foot fetish. There was so little of my foot in the picture (I'd taken it from a standing position) that I literally hadn't even noticed my foot was in it at all, this was literally a basic picture of my nails, so completely unsexual in any way you could've shown it to your mum happily.
I'm a bit creeped out by this, but I convince myself that he has to be joking, as he knows full well that I'm happily married and not interested in anyone else. Not to mention he knows I am still working through SA trauma from my teenage years. So thinking he was clearly joking I reply back with some laughing faces, and a joke about an ex of mine having a similar fetish. Well, turns out he wasn't joking. He starts telling me that my foot is sexy, that he likes the tattoo I have on it and it's making him hard. I was so stunned and taken aback that I didn't even know what to say, I just watched the messages come in and I honestly froze up and cried. Then he tells me he's going to go and masturbate. And he literally goes and jerks it to an innocent picture of my nails.
I feel so hurt and violated. This was a person I really stupidly trusted, and he was clearly just waiting for his opportunity to take advantage of me. I just wanted to make a friend for the first time in years, and he just wanted to creep on somebody. I cried for ages before my husband got home and I told him everything. Then to make it even worse, my husband went: "Maybe he was just joking and that's his sense of humour?". He wasn't joking, and even if he was, that isn't an ok joke to make with a SA survivor, not to mention a married person. I blocked him this morning, after the shock wore off, but I still feel so hurt and betrayed. I keep replaying the messages in my head and wondering if I did something wrong, or did something to invite that, even though I know I didn't. I don't think I can be friends with another man again, they always just see me as a sex object that they own. I feel so upset, angry, confused, and most importantly, violated. I don't understand why he did that.
Edit: A Reddit Cares, seriously? Don't be a troll.
I love having my nails done, but I haven't had the money to do it recently, so I was venting to him about how I hated not having nice nails. I made a joke about my nails feeling bald to me without having acrylics, and I sent him a picture of my nails. Apparently this picture included the tiniest ever little bit of my foot on display, because the next thing I know I've got a message from him telling me he has a foot fetish. There was so little of my foot in the picture (I'd taken it from a standing position) that I literally hadn't even noticed my foot was in it at all, this was literally a basic picture of my nails, so completely unsexual in any way you could've shown it to your mum happily.
I'm a bit creeped out by this, but I convince myself that he has to be joking, as he knows full well that I'm happily married and not interested in anyone else. Not to mention he knows I am still working through SA trauma from my teenage years. So thinking he was clearly joking I reply back with some laughing faces, and a joke about an ex of mine having a similar fetish. Well, turns out he wasn't joking. He starts telling me that my foot is sexy, that he likes the tattoo I have on it and it's making him hard. I was so stunned and taken aback that I didn't even know what to say, I just watched the messages come in and I honestly froze up and cried. Then he tells me he's going to go and masturbate. And he literally goes and jerks it to an innocent picture of my nails.
I feel so hurt and violated. This was a person I really stupidly trusted, and he was clearly just waiting for his opportunity to take advantage of me. I just wanted to make a friend for the first time in years, and he just wanted to creep on somebody. I cried for ages before my husband got home and I told him everything. Then to make it even worse, my husband went: "Maybe he was just joking and that's his sense of humour?". He wasn't joking, and even if he was, that isn't an ok joke to make with a SA survivor, not to mention a married person. I blocked him this morning, after the shock wore off, but I still feel so hurt and betrayed. I keep replaying the messages in my head and wondering if I did something wrong, or did something to invite that, even though I know I didn't. I don't think I can be friends with another man again, they always just see me as a sex object that they own. I feel so upset, angry, confused, and most importantly, violated. I don't understand why he did that.
Edit: A Reddit Cares, seriously? Don't be a troll.
