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Ik this isn't really the typical looksmax question, but I feel like it somewhat relates to the whole self-improvement / dating side of the forum, so I figured I'd ask here.
Basically, I have a girlfriend but I'm genuinely conflicted about whether I should stay with her or break up. I don't really know if I love her. Like, deep down, I feel like I know she isn't good for me long-term. Her father is basically absent, her relationship with her mother isn't great either, and even my own family doesn't really like her. Furthermore, before we even dated, she hooked up with one of my friends and a mutual, so idk; it sometimes gives me cuck vibes asw im ngl.
However, the thing is whenever I try to actually bring myself to break up with her I just fucking cant do it. We have argued quite a bit and gotten really close multiple times to ending this but idk for some reason I cant bring myself to do it. There are other girls out there that have given me hints that they are into me but for some reason I can't let this relationship go. We live really close to each other, so it's convenient, I genuinely fw her personality, and she's attractive as well. But at the same time, I have this feeling that I'm settling for something that isn't good for me or my future. What makes it even harder is that I can genuinely feel that her love for me is real. She cares about me a lot and I know she genuinely loves me. I'm scared that if I leave, I won't find another girl who loves me as much as she does.
I just feel like im in a constant dissonance with myself. Like I lowkey sometimes get embarrassed to be with her or even post her on my ig stories or fully announce her to the world but like at the same time I'll think she's beautiful and her personality is actually really good. I'm also wondering whether I'm just afraid of losing the security/convenience of having a girlfriend and potentially ending up with somebody that is half the person she is. Im scared that I won’t experience this type of love from a girl again as modern women are just shitty in general.
So I decided to ask you guys in this forum for advice. What should I do and lmk if y’all have been in a similar situation. If I were to end it how should I go about things or if I were to continue it how should I move forward.
Basically, I have a girlfriend but I'm genuinely conflicted about whether I should stay with her or break up. I don't really know if I love her. Like, deep down, I feel like I know she isn't good for me long-term. Her father is basically absent, her relationship with her mother isn't great either, and even my own family doesn't really like her. Furthermore, before we even dated, she hooked up with one of my friends and a mutual, so idk; it sometimes gives me cuck vibes asw im ngl.
However, the thing is whenever I try to actually bring myself to break up with her I just fucking cant do it. We have argued quite a bit and gotten really close multiple times to ending this but idk for some reason I cant bring myself to do it. There are other girls out there that have given me hints that they are into me but for some reason I can't let this relationship go. We live really close to each other, so it's convenient, I genuinely fw her personality, and she's attractive as well. But at the same time, I have this feeling that I'm settling for something that isn't good for me or my future. What makes it even harder is that I can genuinely feel that her love for me is real. She cares about me a lot and I know she genuinely loves me. I'm scared that if I leave, I won't find another girl who loves me as much as she does.
I just feel like im in a constant dissonance with myself. Like I lowkey sometimes get embarrassed to be with her or even post her on my ig stories or fully announce her to the world but like at the same time I'll think she's beautiful and her personality is actually really good. I'm also wondering whether I'm just afraid of losing the security/convenience of having a girlfriend and potentially ending up with somebody that is half the person she is. Im scared that I won’t experience this type of love from a girl again as modern women are just shitty in general.
So I decided to ask you guys in this forum for advice. What should I do and lmk if y’all have been in a similar situation. If I were to end it how should I go about things or if I were to continue it how should I move forward.
