dogedogedoge
In the system and I’m ruining the bugs
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(I am a developer of an open source, free software)
I used to sit in the discord server and help people with their issues all day. I used to put my discord tag on all the software, to offer support to anyone who needs. I used to immediately answer all my DMs, and help with problems even if they weren’t in my control or caused by me. I used to help the stupidest people ever. I used to reassure and help people who accused me of malicious intent, when they reached out to me first. I used to write people custom code, for free.
All I wanted was to be appreciated and a thank you, but apparently that is too much to ask for.
I would literally help people, like send them a line of code to fix their issue, and they wouldn’t even tell me “it worked” or anything, just no reply
In the space, I would always be ignored, no one cared what I had to say. My messages were brushed past and it felt like they were invisible. But, if someone needed help or wanted something from me, they will act friendly or like they care about what I say right up until they’ve got what they wanted, then it’s back to the usual program.
I eventually got sick of this. It made me feel so unappreciated, and made me think of all the time and energy I spent. I would get out of bed at 2am to help people man…
It made me angry, how could I be so generous yet no one gives me the time of day?
It made me feel so worthless, so unlovable, and honestly depressed. I left the space (there were other reasons too such as the other developers on the project leaving me specifically out of things, made me feel even more unwanted), for months I’d get DMs still and I just ignored them. One day one of the members who always seemed to mean well started to message me and start a normal conversation, but after a while, asked me to join back. I said hell no and just laughed at them. They started messaging me every day, asking to play games or whatever and to vc in the other server, and after a while I said fine I’ll join back. I was met with initial positive vibes like people celebrating I was back, but it quickly turned into the same thing, and I felt stupid for thinking it would be different… I’m still in there now but I just ignore everything
Helping people in my own time out of the kindness of my heart genuinely made me feel a sense of pride, but it’s everyone else’s fault that I never want to help anyone again
I used to sit in the discord server and help people with their issues all day. I used to put my discord tag on all the software, to offer support to anyone who needs. I used to immediately answer all my DMs, and help with problems even if they weren’t in my control or caused by me. I used to help the stupidest people ever. I used to reassure and help people who accused me of malicious intent, when they reached out to me first. I used to write people custom code, for free.
All I wanted was to be appreciated and a thank you, but apparently that is too much to ask for.
I would literally help people, like send them a line of code to fix their issue, and they wouldn’t even tell me “it worked” or anything, just no reply
In the space, I would always be ignored, no one cared what I had to say. My messages were brushed past and it felt like they were invisible. But, if someone needed help or wanted something from me, they will act friendly or like they care about what I say right up until they’ve got what they wanted, then it’s back to the usual program.
I eventually got sick of this. It made me feel so unappreciated, and made me think of all the time and energy I spent. I would get out of bed at 2am to help people man…
It made me angry, how could I be so generous yet no one gives me the time of day?
It made me feel so worthless, so unlovable, and honestly depressed. I left the space (there were other reasons too such as the other developers on the project leaving me specifically out of things, made me feel even more unwanted), for months I’d get DMs still and I just ignored them. One day one of the members who always seemed to mean well started to message me and start a normal conversation, but after a while, asked me to join back. I said hell no and just laughed at them. They started messaging me every day, asking to play games or whatever and to vc in the other server, and after a while I said fine I’ll join back. I was met with initial positive vibes like people celebrating I was back, but it quickly turned into the same thing, and I felt stupid for thinking it would be different… I’m still in there now but I just ignore everything
Helping people in my own time out of the kindness of my heart genuinely made me feel a sense of pride, but it’s everyone else’s fault that I never want to help anyone again
