I love my dad but im sad he respects his fiancee more than me

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Hey i just wanna talk to people about this. Im gonna start of by saying that im going to try and be as unbiased and truthful as i can but this is me telling my side so of course there is some subconscious bias. So to start my parents got divorced when i was 1, my mom cheated on my dad multiple times and he finally broke. I resent her alot for it but she is a good mom and i love her alot. When they got divorced it was 6 months each a year until I started school and i did school year with my mom and went to my dads winter and summer so i didn’t get to see my dad a whole lot( he lives in quebec my mom lived in Georgia, texas and Colorado since then). So up until i was probably around 3 it was just me and my dad when i went to him, but when i turned 3 around i think his gf moved in but honestly i dont remember i was 3 yk, but it was no longer just me and him. So i think i got jealous of the attention he gave her and i wasnt super warm to her, i remember that but dont remember ever being horrible to her or go out of my way to be mean just not warm . But i was like that up until around 10 then i started making an effort to be nice and try and talk to her more. I am 16 now and she is pretty chill when i just talk to her like that but it feels like every single little thing she trys to blow it up in me, like recently i got caught out in the rain walking back from a friends i put my clothes up to dry on the shower and when i came back from work they were on the trashcan. I got irritated and asked why she did that and she said it because she didn’t know where to put them, another thing i was with a friend and we were using those little like gelette like spray things and lighers to make a make shift flamethrower which was stupid and me and my dad talked abt it but she said i was a bad influence on my half siblings her kids and my dad doesn’t know how to discipline me so she will by not letting me come see my dad if she needs to. Things like that i feel like she just does not like me and like seeing my dad give me attention, but my dad never stands up for me, always justifies it by saying i wasnt good to her so shes distant, says that she needs to adjust. And we argue about that stuff me and my dad, shes the main reason our relationship isnt good. And it just makes me really sad bc shes driving a wesge in between us and at the rate its going id be surprised if im still in contact with him at 18( im 16) im pretty emotional writing this can u guys just lmk and please ask questions ill answer any u have.
 
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Hey i just wanna talk to people about this. Im gonna start of by saying that im going to try and be as unbiased and truthful as i can but this is me telling my side so of course there is some subconscious bias. So to start my parents got divorced when i was 1, my mom cheated on my dad multiple times and he finally broke. I resent her alot for it but she is a good mom and i love her alot. When they got divorced it was 6 months each a year until I started school and i did school year with my mom and went to my dads winter and summer so i didn’t get to see my dad a whole lot( he lives in quebec my mom lived in Georgia, texas and Colorado since then). So up until i was probably around 3 it was just me and my dad when i went to him, but when i turned 3 around i think his gf moved in but honestly i dont remember i was 3 yk, but it was no longer just me and him. So i think i got jealous of the attention he gave her and i wasnt super warm to her, i remember that but dont remember ever being horrible to her or go out of my way to be mean just not warm . But i was like that up until around 10 then i started making an effort to be nice and try and talk to her more. I am 16 now and she is pretty chill when i just talk to her like that but it feels like every single little thing she trys to blow it up in me, like recently i got caught out in the rain walking back from a friends i put my clothes up to dry on the shower and when i came back from work they were on the trashcan. I got irritated and asked why she did that and she said it because she didn’t know where to put them, another thing i was with a friend and we were using those little like gelette like spray things and lighers to make a make shift flamethrower which was stupid and me and my dad talked abt it but she said i was a bad influence on my half siblings her kids and my dad doesn’t know how to discipline me so she will by not letting me come see my dad if she needs to. Things like that i feel like she just does not like me and like seeing my dad give me attention, but my dad never stands up for me, always justifies it by saying i wasnt good to her so shes distant, says that she needs to adjust. And we argue about that stuff me and my dad, shes the main reason our relationship isnt good. And it just makes me really sad bc shes driving a wesge in between us and at the rate its going id be surprised if im still in contact with him at 18( im 16) im pretty emotional writing this can u guys just lmk and please ask questions ill answer any u have.
I say just try and be nice to her from now on but if she keeps being like that be a bitch back. She seems terrible
 
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love urself
 
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I say just try and be nice to her from now on but if she keeps being like that be a bitch back. She seems terrible
Yeah shes not a bad person i think she holds the grudge from when i was young and is a little immature for that, shes a good mom to her kids shes just not great to me
 
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I say just try and be nice to her from now on but if she keeps being like that be a bitch back. She seems terrible
I am sometimes a bitch back when we are arguing but not just like that to piss her off
 
Yeah shes not a bad person i think she holds the grudge from when i was young and is a little immature for that, shes a good mom to her kids shes just not great to me
Maybe try and talk it out idk. Just try different things
 
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did you let your dad know about how you feel?
 
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Maybe try and talk it out idk. Just try different things
Yeah ive tried to, idk i don’t think she’ll ever yk love me , i think if i really put effort into it she will let me be more but shes never been loving for what i can remember, i have an amazing stepdad and im more close to hin than my dad, im so happy to have him hes great but it makes me sad comparing my relationship with him and mine with my dad
 
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did you let your dad know about how you feel?
Multiple times, he is aware it happens he doesn’t add on to her arguments but he always ends up making excuses for her
 
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Yeah ive tried to, idk i don’t think she’ll ever yk love me , i think if i really put effort into it she will let me be more but shes never been loving for what i can remember, i have an amazing stepdad and im more close to hin than my dad, im so happy to have him hes great but it makes me sad comparing my relationship with him and mine with my dad
Multiple times, he is aware it happens he doesn’t add on to her arguments but he always ends up making excuses for her
ngl thats really fucked up dude.. i think you should give up on trying to get a better relationship with your step mom though she clearly seems like a total bitch.. as for your dad might be a long shot but i think hes just afraid of losing her like he did with your mom so hes just trying to keep her near him but you have to confront him about that
 

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