'i missed out on teenage love but i don't care' - deluded coping mechanism

[sub6manletnozygos]

Normie often contend that teenage romance isn't necessary, or that its so awkward that its futile.
eg https://looksmax.org/threads/myth-of-teenage-love-jfl.1268333

That is wrong.

That's like a billionaire saying money doesn't matter.

Or a property owner insisting that renting is preferable to land ownership, or that homeless isn't ideal but also isn't that bad.

There are also incels who cope and insist they do not care about such social deficiencies.
eg https://looksmax.org/threads/i-missed-out-on-teen-love.1289471/ @Gengar
eg https://looksmax.org/threads/missed-out-on-teenage-love-and-i-dont-really-care.1250479 @NateJacobs

However, teenage love is a fundamental social milestone, necessary for neurotypical development of well adjusted citizens.
If you miss out on it, all your subsequent relations (social or romantic) are made in lieu of your deficiencies; you're in a permanent state of catchup, retrospective statis.

No matter how many subsequent enjoyable experiences you have, you will never make up for your social and romantic deficiencies because you can't gain the same breadth of neurological development from your social and sexual experiences, as when you were younger; your brain has formed, it is less elastic; you have become older, more formal, clinical; you are less naive and innocent and your mood isn't peppered with hormonal imbalances.

This means the emotional waves of romance are no longer all encompassing and dramatic. Instead, they are overly critical, even pessimistic, proactively and retrospectively, and punctuated by a permanent yearning to turn back time and experience what you never had when you should have had it (friendship and love in your youth). What if?

The old boomer (anyone over 20+), has become a pragmatic robotic, unable to love with naivety, youth, passion and innocence of his former self. You missed out and nothing you can do will ever compensate for it, nor can your denialism effectively deny these truths.

 

[sub6manletnozygos]

Most delude themselves to hide from the truth of their own failures, including old and autistic virgins.
However, I am a 27 yo virgin and I admit that I am social underdeveloped due to lacking such social milestones (friends and love during my youth).

 

[fuxkdakikez]

what if i really just don’t care though

 

[sub6manletnozygos]

what if i really just don’t care though

That is fine but one must realize it is coping mechanism.
I suspect that when many old virgins experience love for the first time, they either
A. marry the first girl who gives them attention, who may not be a good fit for their personality, and lead to poor compatibility and life outcomes; or
B. become degenerate sex addicts, forever trying to compensate for a lack of social experiences in their youth.
Neither are good, as both are unlikely to lead to a fruitful life.

 

[R1PPer]

Bububububububububububububububu

 

[anthony111553]

the only people i see talking about "teen love" are normie hasbeens with shit lifes

 

[dark triad]

What about long distance relationships at 15?
Imo they're not real

 

[chadhamed]

Yeh its mostly copers . But in gengar case i doubt he even though he had a chance
Truecel + brown

 

[sub6manletnozygos]

Bububububububububububububububu

What does that mean?

the only people i see talking about "teen love" are normie hasbeens with shit lifes

Selection bias. I imagine that's because you 'spend your time talking to normie hasbeens with shit lifes'.

I can just as easily say that people I've spoken to at university who all became lawyers, bankers, doctors, property developers how had fruitful social lives during high school, full of friendship and love.
The average successful white or blue collar business owner is not a blackpilled loser who kissed a female for the first time at 25 yo lol.
They are normal human being who go through standard social developmental milestones.

 

[the_machinist_786]

However, teenage love is a fundamental social milestone, necessary for neurotypical development of well adjusted citizens.
If you miss out on it, all your subsequent relations (social or romantic) are made in lieu of your deficiencies; you're in a permanent state of catchup, retrospective statis.

Post study plej

 

[superpsycho]

never began for late bloomercels

especially brutal when ur khhv at 18 while ur best friends were slaying by 16 years old and had been in LTR’s since 14-15

 

[autistic_tendencies]

Teen love would make you feel more depressed and empty because it would have most likely ended by now
I rather be a innocent ignorant incel

 

[esoterik]

what do u think about doing it at 20

 

[BigBoy]

I agree that its an important social milestone but you can just as easily overcome it if you lose your virginity at a later age, Like evern if you lose your virginity when youre like 22, its not over. Even 25 is not over. You can still make up for it and catch up.

 

[sub6manletnozygos]

Post study plej

It's largely baseless speculation from my mind, which is informed by the Victorian romantics, gothic betrayals like Wuthering Heights, the existentialists (particularly the Outsider and the Stranger, and Russian love stories like The Idiot, which transformed the way I view human nature, relationships, and the meaning of life. For example, in Wuthering Heights, the raw and unfettered emotional connections between Heathcliff and Catherine shape their entire existence. It become clear that an absence of love, or betrayal in love, is shown to lead to emotional decay, inner conflict, and sometimes madness, not unlike the modern loser; the 'looksmaxxer' or 'incel'.

Also, the brain finishes largely forming at 25.

Maturation of the adolescent brain - PMC

Adolescence is the developmental epoch during which children become adults – intellectually, physically, hormonally, and socially. Adolescence is a tumultuous time, full of changes and transformations. The pubertal transition to adulthood involves ...

pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

This implies a 25 yo cut off for losing one's virginity and retaining some neurotypicality. This is because up until age 25, you still have enough neuroplasticity to learn and grow from novel social and romantic experiences as well, while not being so mentally engrained in pessimism, negativity, self criticism and insecurity (which plague 25 yo+ virgins), that late love is overly burdensome, and punctuated by self-criticism, and a yearning to move time backwards to rectify past social failures.

 

[lifeless]

the only people i see talking about "teen love" are normie hasbeens with shit lifes

Same with the people who are still stuck on highschool, even though they graduated a decade ago.

 

[sub6manletnozygos]

Same with the people who are still stuck on highschool, even though they graduated a decade ago.

Selection bias sir.

I can just as easily say that people I've spoken to at university who all became lawyers, bankers, doctors, property developers how had fruitful social lives during high school, full of friendship and love.

The average successful white or blue collar business owner is not a blackpilled basement dweller who kissed a female for the first time at 25 yo lol. They are normal human being who go through standard social developmental milestones, which endows them with the emotional, social and mental capacity, and self-esteem, to persevere and achieve high performance life outcomes.

 

[lifeless]

Selection bias sir.

I can just as easily say that people I've spoken to at university who all became lawyers, bankers, doctors, property developers how had fruitful social lives during high school, full of friendship and love.

The average successful white or blue collar business owner is not a blackpilled basement dweller who kissed a female for the first time at 25 yo lol. They are normal human being who go through standard social developmental milestones, which endows them with the emotional, social and mental capacity, and self-esteem, to persevere and achieve high performance life outcomes.

University≠highschool

 

[WELOVELOOKS]

Dammit I tried to click on @valentine threas and accidentally clicked on this dumb fucking thread. Shit thread OP gocbecome pedo and stop crying about Muh teen love

 

[SharpOrange]

I agree that its an important social milestone but you can just as easily overcome it if you lose your virginity at a later age, Like evern if you lose your virginity when youre like 22, its not over. Even 25 is not over. You can still make up for it and catch up.

never began for me at 22.
now i feel i can get any ltb but i have been sexless for so long i put it on pedestal and took oath to myself that i will only lose my khhv status to hqnp girl who loves me and is htb+ in looks.
i am now going towards standardcel volcel from incel.

Normie often contend that teenage romance isn't necessary, or that its so awkward that its futile.
eg https://looksmax.org/threads/myth-of-teenage-love-jfl.1268333

That is wrong.

That's like a billionaire saying money doesn't matter.

Or a property owner insisting that renting is preferable to land ownership, or that homeless isn't ideal but also isn't that bad.

There are also incels who cope and insist they do not care about such social deficiencies.
eg https://looksmax.org/threads/i-missed-out-on-teen-love.1289471/ @Gengar
eg https://looksmax.org/threads/missed-out-on-teenage-love-and-i-dont-really-care.1250479 @NateJacobs

However, teenage love is a fundamental social milestone, necessary for neurotypical development of well adjusted citizens.
If you miss out on it, all your subsequent relations (social or romantic) are made in lieu of your deficiencies; you're in a permanent state of catchup, retrospective statis.

No matter how many subsequent enjoyable experiences you have, you will never make up for your social and romantic deficiencies because you can't gain the same breadth of neurological development from your social and sexual experiences, as when you were younger; your brain has formed, it is less elastic; you have become older, more formal, clinical; you are less naive and innocent and your mood isn't peppered with hormonal imbalances.

This means the emotional waves of romance are no longer all encompassing and dramatic. Instead, they are overly critical, even pessimistic, proactively and retrospectively, and punctuated by a permanent yearning to turn back time and experience what you never had when you should have had it (friendship and love in your youth). What if?

The old boomer (anyone over 20+), has become a pragmatic robotic, unable to love with naivety, youth, passion and innocence of his former self. You missed out and nothing you can do will ever compensate for it, nor can your denialism effectively deny these truths.

just because they eventually end up shitty doesn't mean the relationships were completely worthless jfl. missing out on teen love has been proven to have detrimental mental affects & slightly stunt your social connection abilities

plus who cares if it doesn't last? everything in life is temporary the point is to have fun and enjoy them while they last. your adult relationship probably isn't going to last either according to divorce rates, does that make adult love worthless too?