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No trolls or “foid haters”. i need genuine advice
I’ve been dating my girlfriend for a little over 5 months. It’s the second time we’ve been together, and we were together for a bit last year. A little after we broke up, i found out from one of her friends that she had catfished me (incredibly naive and gullible of me, i know). Fast forward to late 2025, we begin talking again, after i apologized for doing some terrible shit to her. she later confesses that she still has feelings for me, and i decide to give her another chance, this time she doesn’t lie to me (i know this because i did some digging on the internet and found her moms facebook and old pictures of her, and they matched with what she looks like now). However, after a few weeks of dating we talked about how he tricked me, and she says something along the lines of “I’m such a good liar haha”. I didn’t think much of it at the time, but after a while it began to eat away at me. I began thinking about how she could lie and deceive me at anytime, and i could know nothing. more recently however i’ve been thinking about how she tells me “i love you” every day, and i say it back, hoping that someday ill eventually learn to love her again. however, as we’ve continued dating, it’s possible that i would never feel that way towards her.
Another grave problem is the intellectual gap between us. I find it hard to hold a conversation with her when she talks less articulately than a 5 year old. i’m not joking my toddler sister talks roughly the same as her. it’s gotten so annoying as to the point where i confronted her about it, and she stopped for a short period, but she’s started up again. it’s pissing me off. i want to talk about deeper topics than how adorable bunnies are. i don’t even like bunnies. kittens are better. i can’t stand it.
what should i do? should i end things? should i continue and hope that eventually she matures somewhat mentally? should i wait and hope that i learn to love her? i feel guilty for telling her an empty “i love you” every day. i hate to hurt people. i need genuine advice
if you’ve read this far, im extremely grateful. if you can please help me and give me advice. i would really appreciate it.
tl;dr: how do i learn to love someone who lied to me again?
I’ve been dating my girlfriend for a little over 5 months. It’s the second time we’ve been together, and we were together for a bit last year. A little after we broke up, i found out from one of her friends that she had catfished me (incredibly naive and gullible of me, i know). Fast forward to late 2025, we begin talking again, after i apologized for doing some terrible shit to her. she later confesses that she still has feelings for me, and i decide to give her another chance, this time she doesn’t lie to me (i know this because i did some digging on the internet and found her moms facebook and old pictures of her, and they matched with what she looks like now). However, after a few weeks of dating we talked about how he tricked me, and she says something along the lines of “I’m such a good liar haha”. I didn’t think much of it at the time, but after a while it began to eat away at me. I began thinking about how she could lie and deceive me at anytime, and i could know nothing. more recently however i’ve been thinking about how she tells me “i love you” every day, and i say it back, hoping that someday ill eventually learn to love her again. however, as we’ve continued dating, it’s possible that i would never feel that way towards her.
Another grave problem is the intellectual gap between us. I find it hard to hold a conversation with her when she talks less articulately than a 5 year old. i’m not joking my toddler sister talks roughly the same as her. it’s gotten so annoying as to the point where i confronted her about it, and she stopped for a short period, but she’s started up again. it’s pissing me off. i want to talk about deeper topics than how adorable bunnies are. i don’t even like bunnies. kittens are better. i can’t stand it.
what should i do? should i end things? should i continue and hope that eventually she matures somewhat mentally? should i wait and hope that i learn to love her? i feel guilty for telling her an empty “i love you” every day. i hate to hurt people. i need genuine advice
if you’ve read this far, im extremely grateful. if you can please help me and give me advice. i would really appreciate it.
tl;dr: how do i learn to love someone who lied to me again?
