I need all the dating advice help I can get.

[enchanted_elixir]

I don't even have money for a date lol
@Daddy's Home.

I think Im too high inhib
It'll only go down unless i can invent a scenario that gives me plausible deniability to break the ice "hey i need a pencil" or "the printer doesn't work, do you know where i can find another printer" or she gives me stronger IOIs

@chadisbeingmade @SlayerJonas

If I injected T, would I be dealing with this inhibition?

 

[Daddy's Home]

So, I am not OK with just trying this nonsense again.

So yeah, she's right, you don't deserve her..

2 months ago when I was at the bus stop in the morning to go to work on the company bus, there was one girl who was going to the same place as me on the same bus. I often saw her there, but we never interacted/looked at each other

This time it was different because the bus was changed, but she thought it was a different one, but I realized it from the passengers inside it who were waving to us to come (she was looking at her phone), at which point I called her and waved to her to come as well

When we got to the company building entrance door, I happened to be in front of her, and I opened the door and let her in (as well as other girls), and she said thank you

After 4 hours of work, I walked down a hallway to go to the bathroom on an upper floor where she happened to have her office, and out of the corner of my eye I saw her coming towards me from the right, but not quite, and she looked at me and smiled, but I didn't see it clearly because my eyes were tired from staring at screens at work too much, so I just thought it was just me, but I smiled anyway when she did that, and she saw it

As an idea, for like 6 months since I saw her almost weekly at the bus stop, she always dressed like this, absolutely always:

The day after what I told you above happened... guess what she was dressed like at 7 am at the bus stop..
Like fucking this bro.. wtf is this..

(but the corset was black, not white, and it had a lot more shape and looked a lot cooler)

So yeah..

I ignored her, I didn't do anything special, and on the bus that we were taking home at the end of the program, I was in one of the front seats near the door, she was getting off, and when she was about to get off she took a quick look at me, with a somewhat angry face, and said "goodbye" (without me doing or saying anything)

Yeah..

From the next day until now, she has never dressed like that again, and has continued to dress as I said above initially..

It was only when I got home that I truly realized what had really happened in the last 48 hours.

She could just have hair in her face often and the stares might be due to my fashion halo

Unfortunately life is short bro.. and girls don't waste time.. opportunities like this just come and go, and you're left with only regrets..

 

[ceceslayer]

i say go for it if shes glancing a lot then i feel like that must indicate she likes u

Should I collect more data, or what

 

[iraqi]

I'm doing matrix algebra
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hows that going for u

 

[Seth Walsh]

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So there’s this woman I saw about a week ago. The first time, I caught her staring at me once—I thought nothing of it.

But today, she came in and then she decided to sit right across from me again (moderate distance, facing me), and she started staring again, this time for longer. When I looked up and caught her, she held eye contact for about a second before looking away. After that, I noticed a few more quick glances when I wasn’t looking directly, and she kept fixing her hair.

What’s strange is that there were plenty of better seats available—like twenty or thirty empty chairs—and yet she chose that exact spot near me. Normally, people our age (Zoomers) sit where there are fewer people, or wherever’s most convenient, but this didn’t seem like that. It felt intentional.

Now, my default assumption—the “null hypothesis,” so to speak—is always that a woman doesn’t like me until there’s enough evidence to reject that claim. I don’t assume interest and risk deluding myself.

based on my framework of attraction cues: if a woman likes you, she’ll look at you, try to get closer, try to isolate you (to create opportunities), try to learn about you, figure out if you like her (risk assessment), and try to make you like her.

By that logic, if this situation is legit, she’s showing at least a couple of those signs—staring and closing distance.

The problem is, my framework kind of assumes that women will give enough (frequent or blatant) clear IOIs (Indicators of Interest) to detect attraction. That’s not necessarily true for women who are more reserved, cautious, or trying not to look obvious or desperate.

So now I’m stuck wondering if I’m just being delusional.

I’ve heard that if a woman doesn’t think you like her, she’ll stop giving IOIs altogether. I don’t want that to happen, but if it’s true, I’ll never get enough signals to confidently reject my null hypothesis—unless she makes it blatantly obvious (which usually only happens if you’re a “Chad-lite”+ or she already perceives you that way).

Now I’m confused and have approach anxiety since I don’t really do cold approaches.

What should I do, boys? I don’t want to approach and get rejected—or worse, get the “nice” treatment, where she’s polite but clearly not interested.

Best advice is just mindreading to understand that all girls that like you just want to preserve plausible deniability. Then you need to go after them without coming off desperate or needy. So just being cool, restraint, but actually talking to them works. Then you build comfort and familiarity.

If there's tension there, it's probably obvious there's feelings involved.

If it's just a girl you don't even know yet giving you signs then just talk to her.

 

[Daddy's Home]

And also remember, she will never do this bro.. so you will have to do something..

 

[ikramy]

Ohh yeah, wait until she puts her pussy on your face

 

[enchanted_elixir]

So yeah, she's right, you don't deserve her..

2 months ago when I was at the bus stop in the morning to go to work on the company bus, there was one girl who was going to the same place as me on the same bus. I often saw her there, but we never interacted/looked at each other

This time it was different because the bus was changed, but she thought it was a different one, but I realized it from the passengers inside it who were waving to us to come (she was looking at her phone), at which point I called her and waved to her to come as well

When we got to the company building entrance door, I happened to be in front of her, and I opened the door and let her in (as well as other girls), and she said thank you

After 4 hours of work, I walked down a hallway to go to the bathroom on an upper floor where she happened to have her office, and out of the corner of my eye I saw her coming towards me from the right, but not quite, and she looked at me and smiled, but I didn't see it clearly because my eyes were tired from staring at screens at work too much, so I just thought it was just me, but I smiled anyway when she did that, and she saw it

As an idea, for like 6 months since I saw her almost weekly at the bus stop, she always dressed like this, absolutely always:

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The day after what I told you above happened... guess what she was dressed like at 7 am at the bus stop..
Like fucking this bro.. wtf is this..

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(but the corset was black, not white, and it had a lot more shape and looked a lot cooler)

So yeah..

I ignored her, I didn't do anything special, and on the bus that we were taking home at the end of the program, I was in one of the front seats near the door, she was getting off, and when she was about to get off she took a quick look at me, with a somewhat angry face, and said "goodbye" (without me doing or saying anything)

Yeah..

From the next day until now, she has never dressed like that again, and has continued to dress as I said above initially..

It was only when I got home that I truly realized what had really happened in the last 48 hours.



Unfortunately life is short bro.. and girls don't waste time.. opportunities like this just come and go, and you're left with only regrets..

I have as much experience as you with that lol yet I’m still high inhib… btw, there’s this “make your own beads” thing in the center I’m at on campus, in the building I’m in so maybe I can do it and hope she comes over. She sits right next to the table it’s happening at.

She went to the bathroom and I tried to pretend to need to wipe my table and got some wipes such that she’d come in while I’m getting them so I could smile/say something, but she’s been taking forever (and she’s been doing this repeatedly)

 

[enchanted_elixir]

i say go for it if shes glancing a lot then i feel like that must indicate she likes u

She stopped glancing. I think she thinks I don’t like her. I didn’t smile back when she stared lol and I’ve given her no IOIs

 

[SplashJuice]

Not trying to jab here, but the first step is to stop overthinking it, if you write it all out like analysing a codeforces problem, it's counterproductive, not saying it's necessarily going to work for that particular girl but for situations pertaining to this in the future it's useful in the long run. *provided you have the looks and stats baseline ofc, assuming from this post u do have, implicitly given

 

[enchanted_elixir]

hows that going for u

So far it’s a breeze. But I just started the chapter.

 

[enchanted_elixir]

Maybe it’s that I wear concealer and use an eyebrow pencil so she’s staring at me, but it’s not obvious

 

[enchanted_elixir]

Yeah I’m too high inhib for this shit. Despite being at this looks level, the abused dog has never left me

 

[iraqi]

So far it’s a breeze. But I just started the chapter.

What u wnana be when older

 

[ceceslayer]

She stopped glancing. I think she thinks I don’t like her. I didn’t smile back when she stared lol and I’ve given her no IOIs

u lowk sold i think u have to go for the shot atp risk it for the biscuit

 

[enchanted_elixir]

u lowk sold i think u have to go for the shot atp risk it for the biscuit

I think I'm done unless she keeps it up with the IOIs or makes it easier to approach or does it outright, I'm not even sure she likes me, i feel like I'm seeing shit and even if i was certain, i'm too high inhib to do anything.

 

[ceceslayer]

I think I'm done unless she keeps it up with the IOIs or makes it easier to approach or does it outright, I'm not even sure she likes me, i feel like I'm seeing shit and even if i was certain, i'm too high inhib to do anything.

yea just wait till its blatant cus then u would easily make it

 

[registerfasterusing]

I’ve heard that if a woman doesn’t think you like her, she’ll stop giving IOIs altogether. I don’t want that to happen, but if it’s true, I’ll never get enough signals to confidently reject my null hypothesis—unless she makes it blatantly obvious (which usually only happens if you’re a “Chad-lite”+ or she already perceives you that way).

Yeah I think this may be what happened with the girl I was telling you about

There’s another girl who I think was giving very obvious IOIs to me for months though like probably 6 months straight. But now since school started she hasn’t given me any, although I never see her and we don’t share any classes

 

[enchanted_elixir]

am I cooked?

 

[enchanted_elixir]

I don’t think she interested (or isn’t anymore)

 

[StuckInLtnPrison]

She likes you bro but get more confirmation before going for it