I NEED HELP - part of my class is going to hang out next Monday

[Over]

Small part of my class is going to hang out this Monday and it instantly spiked my cortisol levels because the girl I like will be there too.

Setting so fair is:
Two girls, one superlandwhale and my oneitis that I talked to during english class (https://looksmax.org/threads/ive-talked-to-a-girl-today-during-lesson-school-task.89483/) are going to be there, and 3-4 guys (from which one is in very long LTR and I think rest is single).

Holy shit I dont know if I should go, they mentioned alcohol too and I actually never been drunk in my life EVER. Mind you it wasn't a direct invitation, they made a poll on who is going in our facebook group.
I am so fucking awkward man it's insane. I have no idea how to talk to people, this is my chance to socialise and maybe finally lose conversationless virginity with a girl but what am I going to talk about anyway?

"Hey Over where do you work?"
I never worked in my life

"Hey Over what do you like to do?"
I like to rot in my room and play PS4, masturbate or go gym

This could however be key turning point in my life if by some miracle group accepts me.



I will be tagging all Von Neumann IQ level users to this thread. I need your advice on what should I do, how should I behave and what should I expect: @6ft1 @BigBiceps @cardiologist @bassfreak @needsolution @Pietrosiek @cocainecowboy @eduardkoopman @IWantToMax @Gudru @RAITEIII @turkproducer @Tony

 

[Jimsonbobson505]

Small part of my class is going to hang out this Monday and it instantly spiked my cortisol levels because the girl I like will be there too.

Setting so fair is:
Two girls, one superlandwhale and my oneitis that I talked to during english class (https://looksmax.org/threads/ive-talked-to-a-girl-today-during-lesson-school-task.89483/) are going to be there, and 3-4 guys (from which one is in very long LTR and I think rest is single).

Holy shit I dont know if I should go, they mentioned alcohol too and I actually never been drunk in my life EVER. Mind you it wasn't a direct invitation, they made a poll on who is going in our facebook group.
I am so fucking awkward man it's insane. I have no idea how to talk to people, this is my chance to socialise and maybe finally lose conversationless virginity with a girl but what am I going to talk about anyway?

"Hey Over where do you work?"
I never worked in my life

"Hey Over what do you like to do?"
I like to rot in my room and play PS4, masturbate or go gym

This could however be key turning point in my life if by some miracle group accepts me.



I will be tagging all Von Neumann IQ level users to this thread. I need your advice on what should I do, how should I behave and what should I expect: @6ft1 @BigBiceps @cardiologist @bassfreak @needsolution @Pietrosiek @cocainecowboy @eduardkoopman @IWantToMax @Gudru @RAITEIII @turkproducer @Tony

Its over

 

[turkproducer]

drink 2 shots before you go, make sure you’re on a full stomach and just speak to people as normally as possible.. act like an NPC, but don’t force the conversation. Answer if someone’s talking to you, and talk when you feel as if you have something VALUABLE to say, don’t speak quick, makes you look beta, don’t speak too slow, makes you look autistic

 

[LookistWorld]

Go, drink but don't drink too much, and lie if you don't have a good answer to their questions. Don't become a social outcast and avoid these experiences just to rot in your room like I did.

 

[turkproducer]

but definitely make sure to say something at least fairly often, don’t be afraid to ask questions etc. Just relax

 

[LookistWorld]

drink 2 shots before you go, make sure you’re on a full stomach and just speak to people as normally as possible.. act like an NPC, but don’t force the conversation. Answer if someone’s talking to you, and talk when you feel as if you have something VALUABLE to say, don’t speak quick, makes you look beta, don’t speak too slow, makes you look autistic

He said he's never been drunk before, so I definitely wouldn't do the two shots before. Otherwise good advice.

 

[turkproducer]

He said he's never been drunk before, so I definitely wouldn't do the two shots before. Otherwise good advice.

2 shots on a full stomach is fine man.. you should only feel slightly tipsy

anyway he’s polish it’s in his blood to wear slazenger and drink beer

 

[Deleted member 1464]

Its over

You don't need to quote the OP when replying to a thread you fucking autist. You are the first reply on top of that.

 

[2peasinapod]

what do you expect whern you are a deadbeat failure

must be braindead not to be prioritising building an empire

 

[Jimsonbobson505]

You don't need to quote the OP when replying to a thread you fucking autist. You are the first reply on top of that.

Its over

 

[Over]

2 shots on a full stomach is fine man.. you should only feel slightly tipsy

anyway he’s polish it’s in his blood to wear slazenger and drink beer

It will be right after school so cznt really drink

 

[turkproducer]

what do you expect whern you are a deadbeat failure

must be braindead not to be prioritising building an empire

genetic arrogance maxxing

 

[LookistWorld]

You don't need to quote the OP when replying to a thread you fucking autist. You are the first reply on top of that.

I always do it so the OP likes my comment. It adds a personal connection

 

[turkproducer]

It will be right after school so cznt really drink

so where are you going lol? why is there alcohol involved

 

[Over]

what do you expect whern you are a deadbeat failure

must be braindead not to be prioritising building an empire

Dont bully bro

 

[LordNorwood]

drink 2 shots before you go, make sure you’re on a full stomach and just speak to people as normally as possible.. act like an NPC, but don’t force the conversation. Answer if someone’s talking to you, and talk when you feel as if you have something VALUABLE to say, don’t speak quick, makes you look beta, don’t speak too slow, makes you look autistic

This
Watch charisma on command vids it is soy as hell but is probably way better than what you're working with currently
If you are fearing an anxiety attack then take propranolol
Otherwise take a shot or two before going
Get drunk on your own first so you know what to expect, not too drunk
Good luck

 

[BigBiceps]

Do it. In the end we don't regret things we did, but things we didn't do.

 

[Over]

so where are you going lol? why is there alcohol involved

Thst landwhale girl got free house so it's either going to be a party at her's or we hang out walk around the city or go to a bar I don't know yet

 

[Pietrosiek]

You don't need to quote the OP when replying to a thread you fucking autist. You are the first reply on top of that.

Relax Goblin.

 

[turkproducer]

Thst landwhale girl got free house so it's either going to be a party at her's or we hang out walk around the city or go to a bar I don't know yet

ok well try to find out soon, if it’s a bar definitely drink 1-2 before, slowly so you understand what it’s like to be drunk

 

[Deleted member 685]

Just go

 

[Over]

ok well try to find out soon, if it’s a bar definitely drink 1-2 before, slowly so you understand what it’s like to be drunk

Well we going right after school so cant predrink otherwise I'd steal my mom's vodka and do two shots.

Do it. In the end we don't regret things we did, but things we didn't do.

Damn that's a powerful quote. I think I indeed got nothing to lose if I want to legit suicide. I am just afraid that I will be that silent guy or that guy who walks behind the group during hangouts.

 

[2peasinapod]

Dont bully bro

i dont get how you cant see this problem berfore it happens

ofc you need a job, hobbies, interests, alcohol exposure etc

you literally fell for the muh become 8PSL and women line up to suck your cock

 

[Over]

So there will be I think 4 guys for now, from which one has fiancee. I really want to talk to this girl I like but I dont know how damn. What if some subhuman AMOGs me and steals her? Only reason I want to go is her maybe this is my chance to ascend because her FB status says single.

i dont get how you cant see this problem berfore it happens

ofc you need a job, hobbies, interests, alcohol exposure etc

you literally fell for the muh become 8PSL and women line up to suck your cock

Yea I know you're right but atm I got no better options I cant get all that in just few days man fuck it

 

[BigBiceps]

Damn that's a powerful quote. I think I indeed got nothing to lose if I want to legit suicide. I am just afraid that I will be that silent guy or that guy who walks behind the group during hangouts.

Even if you were the silent guy at first, you may eventually grow in to the group and you will get social experience. One thing that is great about socializing, is that it is a skill. Nobody is born good at it. Basicly ANYONE can become good at it if they just try.
Basicly, what I'm trying to say, is that don't let your fear restrict you in important moments like this. You may think they will laugh at you if you're awkward at first, but no. Average normie doesn't bother to think other peoples business for more than 5-10 minutes. After that whatever you said or however awkward it'd be, I guarantee you, they won't remember it, they don't care about it.
Go for it.

 

[RAITEIII]

Will comment later. Have to go out.

 

[eduardkoopman]

Holy shit I dont know if I should go, they mentioned alcohol too and I actually never been drunk in my life EVER. Mind you it wasn't a direct invitation, they made a poll on who is going in our facebook group.
I am so fucking awkward man it's insane. I have no idea how to talk to people, this is my chance to socialise and maybe finally lose conversationless virginity with a girl but what am I going to talk about anyway?

You have to go!

Even if it will be so, that you won't say 1 word in the whole event; you'll at least get comfortable. If you just have anxiety (and not other stuff like autism or something); then often exposure "therapy" is the best thing. Just spend as much time as possible in the envirnment/thing that you fear. And the anxiety/fear levels will frop from lets say 8/10 (average before) to for example 6/10 (afterwards).

Your only problem, is anxiety, nervoussness, right???

Don't get drunk. So drink little or maybe even no alcohol. Because you need to learn from such an event.

You set to much goals (outside of yoursefl), and you think to much.
Give yourself, very simple goals. And goals you control nearly 100%.
If I was you, I would for example set myself the following goals
1. listen to and enjoy the music;
2. move to the music
3. focus on having fun only,
4. say; :"hi" to 1 person,
5. if someone starts to speak with your or says hi. Greet/aswer back + ask 1 (open ended) question back.

If you for example you could do all above in that evening/event. You can already consider it a mayor success for you. Even if just half the tings, is already good.
Your only focus should imo be on: getting more comfortable in social environments and having some fun time.

because the girl I like will be there too.

Get that thing out of your head, because it makes you more nervous then you already are. I suggest you have zero planns/goals for that event when it comes to that girl. Zero, none.

"Hey Over where do you work?"
I never worked in my life

"Hey Over what do you like to do?"
I like to rot in my room and play PS4, masturbate or go gym

You don't have to be that honest. Just waffle around it, when it's that embarrassing. And most people are shit at asking questions, so in convo you are likely being the one doing all the question asking and barely getting a chance to inject your own story.

 

[onnysk]

Do it. In the end we don't regret things we did, but things we didn't do.

thats deep

 

[BigBiceps]

thats deep

Yeah I stole it from someone else. Good quote though.

 

[needsolution]

Do it... may be you will ascend thanks to some drunk girl or smth

 

[yang]

Go dude, as others said drink a bit before you go

 

[Over]

Do it... may be you will ascend thanks to some drunk girl or smth

Only two girls there from which one is giga fat.

You have to go!

Even if it will be so, that you won't say 1 word in the whole event; you'll at least get comfortable. If you just have anxiety (and not other stuff like autism or something); then often exposure "therapy" is the best thing. Just spend as much time as possible in the envirnment/thing that you fear. And the anxiety/fear levels will frop from lets say 8/10 (average before) to for example 6/10 (afterwards).

Your only problem, is anxiety, nervoussness, right???

Don't get drunk. So drink little or maybe even no alcohol. Because you need to learn from such an event.

You set to much goals (outside of yoursefl), and you think to much.
Give yourself, very simple goals. And goals you control nearly 100%.
If I was you, I would for example set myself the following goals
1. listen to and enjoy the music;
2. move to the music
3. focus on having fun only,
4. say; :"hi" to 1 person,
5. if someone starts to speak with your or says hi. Greet/aswer back + ask 1 (open ended) question back.

If you for example you could do all above in that evening/event. You can already consider it a mayor success for you. Even if just half the tings, is already good.
Your only focus should imo be on: getting more comfortable in social environments and having some fun time.



Get that thing out of your head, because it makes you more nervous then you already are. I suggest you have zero planns/goals for that event when it comes to that girl. Zero, none.


You don't have to be that honest. Just waffle around it, when it's that embarrassing. And most people are shit at asking questions, so in convo you are likely being the one doing all the question asking and barely getting a chance to inject your own story.

Ok I think I will go. Everyone that is going knows each other it seems to me, because there was one integration hangout before that I missed. Damn I don't know how can I not fall into oneitis loop because I really like this girl and I think I might have a chance at her look wise, almost everyone from my class are legit PSL4 or lower, one guy that is comming is NW3 at 21. I just dont know what to talk about with normies man.

Also important thing is that someone might take some random pictures of how its going, and I will risk seeing myself on those which is absolute suifuel for me because you already know I cannot even take a selfie of myself (it's ruining me from inside).

 

[Gosick]

your 23 and still in highschool?

 

[Over]

your 23 and still in highschool?

I dropped out because I couldnt leave the house I didnt want people to see my face

 

[eduardkoopman]

Damn I don't know how can I not fall into oneitis loop

For most people, distraction does the trick. Since most people, their mind can only think/do 1 thing at a time. I don't know in your case, how servere it is though. I hope you're mentally regular enough that it works. And don't have something like OCD or something like that, because then all my advice doesn't work. All my suggestions only can wpork I think for pretty general/generic menatlly speaking people.

because I really like this girl and I think I might have a chance at her look wise,

If i could, I would forbid you to think about this. I suggest you don't think this anymroe. Think about other things

almost everyone from my class are legit PSL4 or lower, one guy that is comming is NW3 at 21.

I would suggest not to think about looks either. parties, get togethers; are about fun and relaxing. Not about measuring looks levels, and other annoying daily life shit.

I just dont know what to talk about with normies man.

No need to, most often. Asking questions, is enough skill. Ask the right questions, and feed people back their own words, and they will be talking all evening about the things they like/enjoy and distract themselfes with

Also important thing is that someone might take some random pictures of how its going, and I will risk seeing myself on those which is absolute suifuel for me because you already know I cannot even take a selfie of myself (it's ruining me from inside).

This is imo, a bad comment from yourself. Pictures of you at social events, is great. You should even use, keep, share or whatever these type of pictures on your social media/facebook/instagram thing. To build your online/social media pressence up; which can help if you also plan to at some pont solicite women online/dm slidding or whatever they call it

 

[Over]

For most people, distraction does the trick. Since most people, their mind can only think/do 1 thing at a time. I don't know in your case, how servere it is though. I hope you're mentally regular enough that it works. And don't have something like OCD or something like that, because then all my advice doesn't work. All my suggestions only can wpork I think for pretty general/generic menatlly speaking people.

If i could, I would forbid you to think about this. I suggest you don't think this anymroe. Think about other things


I would suggest not to think about looks either. parties, get togethers; are about fun and relaxing. Not about measuring looks levels, and other annoying daily life shit.
No need to, most often. Asking questions, is enough skill. Ask the right questions, and feed people back their own words, and they will be talking all evening about the things they like/enjoy and distract themselfes with

This is imo, a bad comment from yourself. Pictures of you at social events, is great. You should even use, keep, share or whatever these type of pictures on your social media/facebook/instagram thing. To build your online/social media pressence up; which can help if you also plan to at some pont solicite women online/dm slidding or whatever they call it

Ok bro thanks for answers I will be asking the girl soon if I can go (the host) atm I am charismaOncommandmaxxing lmao I also might have problem because you cant drink alco if you are taking escitalopram so I cant get drunk idk what can happen some people on reddit say they even blackout mmhmmhm so I might only drink a bit and say "nah can't do more because muhh gym gainz"

Thx for good answers boyos I will be making topic with update whenever thing happens
This will either be my ascension or another nail to the coffin

 

[Pendejo]

Reading all these replies i feel like if i was browsing Reddit jfl.

 

[LookistWorld]

Reading all these replies i feel like if i was browsing Reddit jfl.

Dear user,

I am writing this comment in order to inform you that I have upvoted this post. I know I know. Take a moment to breath. Take it in buddy. It's okay. Truly, you deserve this upvote for such a fantastic post and I'm more than happy to hand it over.

No no.- Don't thank me. (I can see you typing the comment now haha). Please please. I'm a humble man I don't need your thanks.

With that said I have to tell you that I will be following your progression in the fantastic world of Reddit so keep it up. Maybe, just maybe. You'll do something worthy of my upvote again some day.

You have a fantastic day fellow user.

Kind regards and many thanks, From Me, the notable redditor

Spoiler

hope this helps with your immersion

 

[eduardkoopman]

I also might have problem because you cant drink alco if you are taking escitalopram so I cant get drunk

Then don't drink, or only tiny amount. Just take forever drinking 1 beer. And just come up with an excuse, if you dan't wanna say you're on meds.
I don't drink alcohol. Everyone agrees with me that I don't, because i always tell them I get violent under alcohol. And then i tell the story that the last time I drunk, I trew my gf I had at that time violently out of the bed when she cuddled up to me (i don't even remember I did that, but i did). I always becaome depressed, aggressive and introverted as fuck, with alcohol consumption; so it has a shit effect on me.

This will either be my ascension or another nail to the coffin

imo, just going already = ascension. You need to "batlle" you nervousness, mood, etc.. more then anything else in life.

 

[Over]

Reading all these replies i feel like if i was browsing Reddit jfl.

You dont like it? I found it very helpful and nice. Look even @Ritalincel didnt post my frozen barrett avi
FUCK I ASKED THE HOST IF I CAN COME AND SHE SEEN THE MESSAGE ALONG WITH TWO OTHER PEOPLE BUT ZEEERROOOOO RESPONSES FUUUCK MAN

 

[Pendejo]

Your are 23 years old but what about your classmates, how old are they?

Do you have any close friend in your class?

 

[Maxillacel]

You dont like it? I found it very helpful and nice. Look even @Ritalincel didnt post my frozen barrett avi
FUCK I ASKED THE HOST IF I CAN COME AND SHE SEEN THE MESSAGE ALONG WITH TWO OTHER PEOPLE BUT ZEEERROOOOO RESPONSES FUUUCK MAN

just be confident bro what can go wrong its not like you're gonna see your oneitis make out with a chad

 

[Over]

Your are 23 years old but what about your classmates, how old are they?

Do you have any close friend in your class?

Ranging from 18 to 26 years old. Its school for adults. No I have no friends at all but I talked to few people in total so far.
I can imagine things going like this:

 

[Deleted member 3583]

It does not sound like you were even invited tbh op

 

[HurtfulVanity]

Well we going right after school so cant predrink otherwise I'd steal my mom's vodka and do two shots.


Damn that's a powerful quote. I think I indeed got nothing to lose if I want to legit suicide. I am just afraid that I will be that silent guy or that guy who walks behind the group during hangouts.

Put about 2 shotw in a water bottle and keep it in your bag till after school

 

[Over]

It does not sound like you were even invited tbh op

Nobody was. The host just asked who is up for it and few people signed up
Still no response rip it's over over over over over

 

[Deleted member 3583]

Nobody was. The host just asked who is up for it and few people signed up
Still no response rip it's over over over over over

Is somebody going to ask you if you are going?

 

[Over]

Is somebody going to ask you if you are going?

No the message was written today and mind you its weekend only school not every day school (for people who are working)

 

[Deleted member 3583]

No the message was written today and mind you its weekend only school not every day school (for people who are working)

Ok, you should attend. Good luck

 

[Over]

Ok, you should attend. Good luck

Yea I'm still waiting for response man I see she read the message but didnt respond........