I need to take control

[AuraMaxxing]

I severely lack control over my life. I live simply by the rules set out by my parents with no sense of autonomy whatsoever.

I am tired of it all, tired of the missed opportunities, tired of being someone I’m not. I was super NT and popular as a kid, but I lost it all eventually as we grew up.

Why?

Because I remember when people would invite me to events, or whatever, I just couldn’t go because my parents simply didn’t let me. This over time caused people to not invite me anywhere and I just started getting perceived as the guy who’s no fun (because obviously I didn’t tell them the real reason, I would just come up with bs like I’m going to be studying)

I just want to feel in control, I want to feel as if I can make my own decisions without being judged for it or demolished by my parents. I hate being forced to be an incel when I really don’t have to be one.

I just am scared honestly, I don’t know how to tell my parents off. In my head I fantasize about standing up to them but that’s all it is, fantasies.

It makes me really stressed and depressed to think about but I genuinely don’t know what I can do (I do know I’m just scared)

I’m truly convinced most Indians aren’t incels because of looks, it truly is a very subhuman culture and a rather selfish one because to ethnic parents you’re nothing more than an asset to improve their future. They don’t see you as a human, they see you as a long term investment.

 

[Okamaw]

Slime your parents lmao

 

[j1000]

i know it hurts because it feels like you lost years of your life to rules you never agreed to and now you’re carrying the reputation of someone who “doesn’t show up” even though deep down you always wanted to be there you always wanted to live and connect and be seen the right way it’s not that you changed it’s that their control kept shrinking your world until you started believing that was your personality but it wasn’t you it was the cage they built around you and I promise you when someone like you finally gets even a little freedom you grow fast you reconnect with who you were before everything got restricted and you become someone even stronger because you actually understand what autonomy means you don’t need to fight them you just need to build your own life one step at a time and once you start doing that nobody not even your parents gets to define who you are anymore you will get your power back and the version of you that was missing all these years will finally get to breathe again.

 

[LTNUser]

i know it hurts because it feels like you lost years of your life to rules you never agreed to and now you’re carrying the reputation of someone who “doesn’t show up” even though deep down you always wanted to be there you always wanted to live and connect and be seen the right way it’s not that you changed it’s that their control kept shrinking your world until was missing all these years will finally get to breathe again.

It's over for most,there is no saving after this

 

[j1000]

It's over for most,there is no saving after this

We all grow; life is a learning experience. If you've never failed at anything, you've never tried anything new

 

[AuraMaxxing]

i know it hurts because it feels like you lost years of your life to rules you never agreed to and now you’re carrying the reputation of someone who “doesn’t show up” even though deep down you always wanted to be there you always wanted to live and connect and be seen the right way it’s not that you changed it’s that their control kept shrinking your world until you started believing that was your personality but it wasn’t you it was the cage they built around you and I promise you when someone like you finally gets even a little freedom you grow fast you reconnect with who you were before everything got restricted and you become someone even stronger because you actually understand what autonomy means you don’t need to fight them you just need to build your own life one step at a time and once you start doing that nobody not even your parents gets to define who you are anymore you will get your power back and the version of you that was missing all these years will finally get to breathe again.

Thank you man, this actually made me feel much better. I truly do believe once I am able to do shit again I will be back to the being the person I was destined to be, and deep down the person I am.

I just hate that I get perceived as anti social when deep down I’m pretty social and want to do the things kids my age do.

 

[Prøphet]

Yeah, strict parents are fucking brutal man. What no one realizes is they brutalize your life even after you’re an adult, the impact doesn’t really go away unless you yourself find a way to grow into what you want. Good luck bhai I’m facing similar things tbh