I think a lot of my problems come from my mom having me at 42

[Prøphet]

The fact I am just dealing with such a relentless onslaught of malformations, conditions, and genetic disadvantages that no relative I know of has faced

I genuinely don’t know anyone else in even my extended family facing the caliber of issues that I am

Maybe I am a punishment to my parents for waiting too long past their natural prime

Even just being an aspie is hell and a social death sentence, then throw in a bunch of ocular diseases and illnesses, balding in high school, malformed jaw, etc it’s fucking over the moment I was conceived from bad genetic stock

 

[idontlikemyself6]

Really? This varies gender?(dumbass question o think)

 

[M1nordragon]

Sorry to hear that brother but what good will it do to you complaining and thinking about what should have been? You have to do your best with the tools you’re given.

Also be grateful to your parents for caring for you all these years

 

[idontlikemyself6]

Bcuz my dad had me at like 40 and i turn out Ok.

 

[IliaTopuria]

Does a old mom at birth mean bad genetics ?

 

[Prøphet]

Sorry to hear that brother but what good will it do to you complaining and thinking about what should have been? You have to do your best with the tools you’re given.

Also be grateful to your parents for caring for you all these years

I am doing my best

I just got a surgery to fix my strabismus and I think it’s already starting to relapse

So I’m probably going to need more

And then I need jaw surgery and implants and eye surgeries just to take back what I should’ve been born with, my birthright, looking like a normal average human being instead of a subhuman

So I get to slave away in my 20s just for that, on top of being an unsociable aspie people just hate as soon as they meet me

I would rather have been aborted than play this hand of cards

I won’t rope because I still have options, but this is not a life worth living

 

[bhsoda_destroyer]

Does a old mom at birth mean bad genetics ?

Yes even serious things like down syndrome

 

[Prøphet]

Really? This varies gender?(dumbass question o think)

I don’t think so

 

[IliaTopuria]

Yes even serious things like down syndrome

My mom was 38 when she had me like 38 and 1 month was it late ?

 

[Prøphet]

Sorry to hear that brother but what good will it do to you complaining and thinking about what should have been? You have to do your best with the tools you’re given.

Also be grateful to your parents for caring for you all these years

Also I have no reason to be grateful lol I was abused as a child by one parent and neglected by the other, I wish they had killed me than have to live with this burden

 

[bhsoda_destroyer]

My mom was 38 when she had me like 38 and 1 month was it late ?

Yes it was a little late very close to menopause age

 

[M1nordragon]

Also I have no reason to be grateful lol I was abused as a child by one parent and neglected by the other, I wish they had killed me than have to live with this burden

Okay in all seriousness, talk to a therapist, you have a lot of unsolved problems and venting on this forum will do you more harm then good.

 

[Prøphet]

Bcuz my dad had me at like 40 and i turn out Ok.

I think it’s more important for the mother because she carries you for 9 months

But the sperm quality does matter too just not as much maybe

 

[IliaTopuria]

Yes it was a little late very close to menopause age

Ik why I don’t love my mom now

Thanks for clarifying

 

[idontlikemyself6]

Ik why I don’t love my mom now

Thanks for clarifying

Brutal brutal

 

[Prøphet]

Okay in all seriousness, talk to a therapist, you have a lot of unsolved problems and venting on this forum will do you more hard then good.

I tried therapy before and they just try to reframe everything and make you pretend to accept everything

But the truth is no one who lived my life should feel content accepting what happened

I tried every kind of response to my burdens and none of it relieves me of what I have to face now here in the oresent

 

[Thatsall101]

The fact I am just dealing with such a relentless onslaught of malformations, conditions, and genetic disadvantages that no relative I know of has faced

I genuinely don’t know anyone else in even my extended family facing the caliber of issues that I am

Maybe I am a punishment to my parents for waiting too long past their natural prime

Even just being an aspie is hell and a social death sentence, then throw in a bunch of ocular diseases and illnesses, balding in high school, malformed jaw, etc it’s fucking over the moment I was conceived from bad genetic stock

why are you blaming your mother mijo, i understand if she abused you and you got mad at that, but you're mad at the act of her giving birth to you?. that's the most selfish statement I've ever heard

 

[Prøphet]

why are you blaming your mother mijo, i understand if she abused you and you got mad at that, but you're mad at the act of her giving birth to you?. that's the most selfish statement I've ever heard

Wtf are you talking about lol

I’m not the selfish one here

Giving birth past like 30 is selfish as fuck because you’re giving your kid worse chances at life

I never asked to have all these illnesses and conditions, that was forced on me

 

[CheezyPoof]

Does a old mom at birth mean bad genetics ?

Kind of, very increased chance of being nd and some other shit. My mom also had me at 42 and also am aspie. But that’s ok with me I don’t think it’s too bad in my case. But I have wondered about it being related to the age since it’s common knowledge there’s a correlation. I mean if you think about it it also is just logical. 42 really is pushing the limits of biology so some things might go wrong more easily

Edit now that I think about it maybe that’s why there’s more autism nowadays because women have children much later

 

[Thatsall101]

Wtf are you talking about lol

I’m not the selfish one here

Giving birth past like 30 is selfish as fuck because you’re giving your kid worse chances at life

I never asked to have all these illnesses and conditions, that was forced on me

no offense dude, i don't want to diminish what you go through. but you live in the west, you're young. probably have good money, except for very few things,

if you had the knowledge you could fix them. why would you blame your mother to give you a chance at life

 

[Prøphet]

no offense dude, i don't want to diminish what you go through. but you live in the west, you're young. probably have good money, except for very few things,

if you had the knowledge you could fix them. why would you blame your mother to give you a chance at life

I’m not blaming

I’m just saying the truth

It’s simple cause and effect

I probably wouldn’t be an aspie freak if I wasn’t born that late

I would get to have so many experiences I missed out on and not always be the odd one out and be outcasted every single time

I’m fucking tired

 

[Prøphet]

Kind of, very increased chance of being nd and some other shit. My mom also had me at 42 and also am aspie. But that’s ok with me I don’t think it’s too bad in my case. But I have wondered about it being related to the age since it’s common knowledge there’s a correlation. I mean if you think about it it also is just logical. 42 really is pushing the limits of biology so some things might go wrong more easily

Yeah I heard from age 30 to age 40 the risk increases about 500%

 

[Prøphet]

Edit now that I think about it maybe that’s why there’s more autism nowadays because women have children much later

Yes society is literally manufacturing incels atp not only diet vaccines brainrot technology and microplastics but also birth age

 

[Thatsall101]

I’m not blaming

I’m just saying the truth

It’s simple cause and effect

I probably wouldn’t be an aspie freak if I wasn’t born that late

I would get to have so many experiences I missed out on and not always be the odd one out and be outcasted every single time

I’m fucking tired

I'm diagnosed with autistim too, you seen like you're really hurting rn, I'm not gonna sit here n lecture you. js know I'm proud of you and I'm sure you can make it out of your situation