I think wanting something is weakness(Help)

[Deleted member 115987]

I feel that showing interest to someone is a wekaness and i always run away from it like talking to somebody to become friends or talking to a girl to be in a relationship now i try to cancel this feeling but its always there.Am i a narcissist that is afraid of rejection?Do you guys have this problem?I never been an outgoing guy NEVER but now i feel like i should tkae the outgoing route so i can experience.

 

[Deleted member 115987]

I feel that showing interest to someone is a wekaness and i always run away from it like talking to somebody to become friends or talking to a girl to be in a relationship now i try to cancel this feeling but its always there.Am i a narcissist that is afraid of rejection?Do you guys have this problem?I never been an outgoing guy NEVER but now i feel like i should tkae the outgoing route so i can experience.

I might be afraid of a situation where i try to talk to people and they gave me a look and then start violating me like why are u talking to us? type of way like making me feel like a loser

 

[Notcel]

It’s fear of rejection

To get rid of it you have to improve your confidence but rejection will bring it back as a mechanism

 

[Deleted member 115987]

It’s fear of rejection

To get rid of it you have to improve your confidence but rejection will bring it back as a mechanism

I do think that i am not enough as a person due to my mental issues and past i am trying to fix it currently tho.

 

[Deleted member 115987]

I do think that i am not enough as a person due to my mental issues and past i am trying to fix it currently tho.

Tbh if i just love myself i wouldnt need anybody i can just straight up act but im ugly rn haha Brutal need to fix my ED

 

[Notcel]

I do think that i am not enough as a person due to my mental issues and past i am trying to fix it currently tho.

You matter dude and hopefully one day you get past the hurdles but 50% of the work on confidence is your own shit and 50% is how life treated you

 

[Deleted member 115987]

You matter dude and hopefully one day you get past the hurdles but 50% of the work on confidence is your own shit and 50% is how life treated you

True, thank you.

 

[Notcel]

Tbh if i just love myself i wouldnt need anybody i can just straight up act but im ugly rn haha Brutal need to fix my ED

Even if you’re ugly let yourself cope, and there are alot of ugly people you can’t have parties like nt people but if you want to hang out with others eventually you might get the opportunity

 

[Notcel]

True, thank you.

allow yourself a few copes but try to enjoy small things and the outdoors, hopefully you have a good adventure in this life

 

[Deleted member 115987]

allow yourself a few copes but try to enjoy small things and the outdoors, hopefully you have a good adventure in this life

I definitely dont find myself worthy enough to cahse what i want i always just cancel the feeling cuz im like'who cares if you want it you are worthless'so i just dont act definitely confidence problems n a mentalcel btw i write these stuff cuz when i speak about deep stuff that bother me it kinda helps me

 

[Deleted member 118164]

I feel that showing interest to someone is a wekaness and i always run away from it like talking to somebody to become friends or talking to a girl to be in a relationship now i try to cancel this feeling but its always there.Am i a narcissist that is afraid of rejection?Do you guys have this problem?I never been an outgoing guy NEVER but now i feel like i should tkae the outgoing route so i can experience.

do you feel insecure about yourself ( looks / mental state )

 

[Deleted member 115987]

do you feel insecure about yourself ( looks / mental state )

Yes

 

[Deleted member 118164]

Yes

why is that

 

[Deleted member 115987]

why is that

im ugly rn really bad health indicators bloat asymmetry shit posture and fat but im working on these rn

 

[Deleted member 118164]

im ugly rn really bad health indicators bloat asymmetry shit posture and fat but im working on these rn

yeah you can work on these but how do you even know you are ugly

 

[Deleted member 115987]

yeah you can work on these but how do you even know you are ugly

I look at myself and see the problems i have listed and i pretty much got rejected all my life but g ood news is i dont have bad bones so i still have hope.

 

[Deleted member 118164]

I look at myself and see the problems i have listed and i pretty much got rejected all my life but g ood news is i dont have bad bones so i still have hope.

yeah ive read what you said but tbh your physical shit is worsened only by your mentality as it looks you are just having an existential crisis ; getting rejected also has a lot to do with your confidence so imo just continue working on yourself and it will get better

 

[Deleted member 115987]

yeah ive read what you said but tbh your physical shit is worsened only by your mentality as it looks you are just having an existential crisis ; getting rejected also has a lot to do with your confidence so imo just continue working on yourself and it will get better

Understood.