I tried to befriend a guy at college and he hated me for no reason

[BigBoy]

When you learn how to talk to people then come back and tell me how your experiences have changed, also try to make friends with people that share the same interests as you and not assholes.

easy for chad to say

 

[Deleted member 2403]

easy for chad to say

He most likely mogs the fuck out of me

 

[BigBoy]

He most likely mogs the fuck out of me

hes a htn

 

[Deleted member 2403]

hes a htn

There's some truth to what he's saying but he doesn't understand how hard it is for incels cause he's never lived like that before.

 

[Deleted member 2403]

Being fat is a failo regardless but when your face is fucked up Jesus Christ

were u talking about me or in general?

 

[getra]

were u talking about me or in general?

in general

 

[Hozay]

He most likely mogs the fuck out of me

I most likely do, but even when I was in highschool and had girls approach me and call me cute I was still lonely and went home after school everyday to play videogames and stay on the internet while "ugly" guys had more friends than me and looked like they were having fun walking with their friends. thats how bad my social skills were yeah i'm good looking. But even that didn't automatically save me and gave me a social circle. i remember my ex thought i had alot of friends because "i was cute". Social skills are more important to make friendships than looks, once i stopped being a shut in, then thats when i started making friends again.

 

[Schnitzel]

You're delusional if you think looks are important for male friendships. Please get out of this delusional mindset. this mindset alone is making you a social retard.

Ok let's get something straight, you're confusing possible with not possible. op doesn't think that looks are EVERYTHING for a male friendship. but, he says that it's absolutely effect the way people react to you, and he's right. you need to stretch it to really get it.
who will have a better chance of having lot of friends, a super good looking guy or a super ugly one? the answer is clear.


Now. op says that this particular person ignore him and don't give much of a fuck about him. but, when he saw him talking to another
tall white male, they instantly had a type of chemistry that op didn't have with this guy. and that make sense, people want to be friends with other high value people, it's a mirror of your own value. ''You Are The Average Of The Five People You Spend The Most Time With''?


unlike with females tho, I think this is curable. meaning with time op can change people minds even if he's a bit ugly, short or whatever.
op sounds high inhib but no way autistic. just need a chance tbh, he's not low iq and should be able to make friends. op definitely
need to work extra hard, extra caring (not in a bitch way) and be extra interesting to make people like him as a short average ethnic dude.

that's the world Hozay, wake up. earth to Hozay.

 

[Hozay]

Ok let's get something straight, you're confusing possible with not possible. op doesn't think that looks are EVERYTHING for a male friendship. but, he says that it's absolutely effect the way people react to you, and he's right. you need to stretch it to really get it.
who will have a better chance of having lot of friends, a super good looking guy or a super ugly one? the answer is clear.


Now. op says that this particular person ignore him and don't give much of a fuck about him. but, when he saw him talking to another
tall white male, they instantly had a type of chemistry that op didn't have with this guy. and that make sense, people want to be friends with other high value people, it's a mirror of your own value. ''You Are The Average Of The Five People You Spend The Most Time With''?


unlike with females tho, I think this is curable. meaning with time op can change people minds even if he's a bit ugly, short or whatever.
op sounds high inhib but no way autistic. just need a chance tbh, he's not low iq and should be able to make friends. op definitely
need to work extra hard, extra caring (not in a bitch way) and be extra interesting to make people like him as a short average ethnic dude.

that's the world Hozay, wake up. earth to Hozay.

I get you, i just think their social skills are the biggest issue at the moment.

 

[Deleted member 2403]

Ok let's get something straight, you're confusing possible with not possible. op doesn't think that looks are EVERYTHING for a male friendship. but, he says that it's absolutely effect the way people react to you, and he's right. you need to stretch it to really get it.
who will have a better chance of having lot of friends, a super good looking guy or a super ugly one? the answer is clear.


Now. op says that this particular person ignore him and don't give much of a fuck about him. but, when he saw him talking to another
tall white male, they instantly had a type of chemistry that op didn't have with this guy. and that make sense, people want to be friends with other high value people, it's a mirror of your own value. ''You Are The Average Of The Five People You Spend The Most Time With''?


unlike with females tho, I think this is curable. meaning with time op can change people minds even if he's a bit ugly, short or whatever.
op sounds high inhib but no way autistic. just need a chance tbh, he's not low iq and should be able to make friends. op definitely
need to work extra hard, extra caring (not in a bitch way) and be extra interesting to make people like him as a short average ethnic dude.

that's the world Hozay, wake up. earth to Hozay.

High iq analysis ngl

It's very obvious that both matter and the fact he brags about his success with women while trying to "help me" says it all about his true intentions. Trying to make others feel bad and betraying a feeling of superiority.

People do this so often, passively aggressively trying to hurt someone while faking support, so the other person feels really conflicted but can't totally have a reason to insult them back, so they can hurt someone without repercussions.

I'm trying to improve my social skills rn, I'm reading books on socializing and I'm hoping I can make at least 1 friend this year, but I'm also softmaxxing to have more perceived status.

 

[Hozay]

High iq analysis ngl

It's very obvious that both matter and the fact he brags about his success with women while trying to "help me" says it all about his true intentions. Trying to make others feel bad and betraying a feeling of superiority.

People do this so often, passively aggressively trying to hurt someone while faking support, so the other person feels really conflicted but can't totally have a reason to insult them back, so they can hurt someone without repercussions.

I'm trying to improve my social skills rn, I'm reading books on socializing and I'm hoping I can make at least 1 friend this year, but I'm also softmaxxing to have more perceived status.

No, i'm trying to show you that good looking people can be in the same situation as you if their social skills are dogshit. i'm not bragging at all lmao.

 

[Hozay]

High iq analysis ngl

It's very obvious that both matter and the fact he brags about his success with women while trying to "help me" says it all about his true intentions. Trying to make others feel bad and betraying a feeling of superiority.

People do this so often, passively aggressively trying to hurt someone while faking support, so the other person feels really conflicted but can't totally have a reason to insult them back, so they can hurt someone without repercussions.

I'm trying to improve my social skills rn, I'm reading books on socializing and I'm hoping I can make at least 1 friend this year, but I'm also softmaxxing to have more perceived status.

You're sitting here wondering why the guy is talking to the other guy when your social skills fucking suck.

 

[Deleted member 2403]

No, i'm trying to show you that good looking people can be in the same situation as you if their social skills are dogshit. i'm not bragging at all lmao.

Keep lying to try to get me to agree with you

 

[Hozay]

Keep lying to try to get me to agree with you

Keep making excuses on why you can't make friends because you have the social skills of a rock, no its my looks! my looks will do the talking!

 

[Deleted member 2403]

You're sitting here wondering why the guy is talking to the other guy when your social skills fucking suck.

Strawman's me

 

[Schnitzel]

You're sitting here wondering why the guy is talking to the other guy when your social skills fucking suck.

Sometimes they don't even have much in common, they just talk to each other to show off. I've seen people talk to each other and having 10 iq conversations about basically nothing, they just had the need to talk to each other, based on looks, respect. before they even opened their mouth. that's why the chemistry. it's probably NOT because they are so perfect to each other and have JUST THE RIGHT interests.


op, don't waste much time on this guy (your so call friend) if it doesn't work it doesn't work. make sure not to come as a needy guy, don't push too hard. I refuse to believe that no one will like you, remember that most of human communication is non verbal, this guys don't even make sense sometimes, stupid ass conversations about nothing, but they play it cool, laugh, not acting shy or needy.
don't be a fucking radio, try to laugh and just flow with the conversation, that's really what they do. watch them.


the more people see you without knowing you, the harder it becomes later on. the more people watch you being lonely, the harder.
you know that moment when you're about to do something really stupid or scary and you feel a weird buzz / chill in your head?
push through, talk to many people. you can't have just 1 shot. all this people move and talk like it's a 60seconds dating show. from one to another. finally, you'll meet someone you'll like, well..hopefully.

 

[Deleted member 11053]

One advice i can give u is that when u approach peoples do it cause there is genuinely something that interests you in them not cause you just want to be friends with them, if you approach them just for the sake of trying to be friend with them u will come off as needy and they will not respect u plus u will lose the opportunity of befriending them, since now they will already have a bad opinion of you subconsciously.

Ik its unfair cause imo approaching people just for trying to be friends with them work most of the times when ur not ugly and ur not seen as a status failo but in ur case u can't really approach peoples and try to be friend with them like every one else, they will automatically understand what ur trying to do and make it harder on purpose.

 

[IdiAmin]

Maybe he thought you wanted to suck his dick lmao

 

[Deleted member 11053]

One advice i can give u is that when u approach peoples do it cause there is genuinely something that interests you in them not cause you just want to be friends with them, if you approach them just for the sake of trying to be friend with them u will come off as needy and they will not respect u plus u will lose the opportunity of befriending them, since now they will already have a bad opinion of you subconsciously.

Ik its unfair cause imo approaching people just for trying to be friends with them work most of the times when ur not ugly and ur not seen as a status failo but in ur case u can't really approach peoples and try to be friend with them like every one else, they will automatically understand what ur trying to do and make it harder on purpose.

Like when u approach peoples just for trying to be friends with them it scream please accept me as a friend and most of the times it work, peoples will understand it and try to get u involve and save u but if ur ugly or a status failo they will be disgusted and not really want to help u.

If u approach just cause u want to ask something that interest u, u will not come off as needy and there is a chance a chemistry spark from that simple interest and the conversation carry on cause u didn't come off as needy in the first place and he didn't knew ur true intentions so he didn't put a barrier between you two and he can get caught off guard enjoying talking with you .

Ofc Its just my opinion based on what I've seen and what I've done myself i could be wrong and i probably missed some things plus some people are different than me.

 

[Deleted member 11053]

Like when u approach peoples just for trying to be friends with them it scream please accept me as a friend and most of the times it work, peoples will understand it and try to get u involve and save u but if ur ugly or a status failo they will be disgusted and not really want to help u.

If u approach just cause u want to ask something that interest u, u will not come off as needy and there is a chance a chemistry spark from that simple interest and the conversation carry on cause u didn't come off as needy in the first place and he didn't knew ur true intentions so he didn't put a barrier between you two and he can get caught off guard enjoying talking with you .

Ofc Its just my opinion based on what I've seen and what I've done myself i could be wrong and i probably missed some things plus some people are different than me.

And even if he enjoyed talking with u he can still choose to not be associated with u cause of others but imo your chances of being accepted are better that way