I used to think I simply couldn't tell the difference between niceness and interest. Turns out my dilemma is EVEN WORSE

[BadLuck7892]

There have been times when I mistook a foid's niceness for interest. So, for the longest time, I thought I just couldn't tell the difference between niceness and interest.

Then, after thinking on it, I remembered: There have been times when I found out a foid was into me, yet I had no fucking idea (not even the slightest inkling)

So a more accurate way to describe me is: I mistake niceness for interest. Yet when there's actual interest, I don't even pick up on it.

 

[widdi]

I think it’s also your brain saving yourself, because in my experience

Going up to a foid that’s nice to you: near 100% rejection rate, but always a soft rejection

Going up to a foid that’s kind of cold and distant but you instinctively feel that she’s into you: much lower rejection rate, but the chance of a harsh rejection increases exponentially too

People will often take the lower cost option, even if it has a lower expected value. Easier to buy a lotto ticket vs start a side hustle

 

[Jaynoyn523]

There have been times when I mistook a foid's niceness for interest. So, for the longest time, I thought I just couldn't tell the difference between niceness and interest.

Then, after thinking on it, I remembered: There have been times when I found out a foid was into me, yet I had no fucking idea (not even the slightest inkling)

So a more accurate way to describe me is: I mistake niceness for interest. Yet when there's actual interest, I don't even pick up on it.

I mean its not hard to tell if a girl likes you lmao, she'll make it obvious

 

[BadLuck7892]

I think it’s also your brain saving yourself, because in my experience

Going up to a foid that’s nice to you: near 100% rejection rate, but always a soft rejection

Going up to a foid that’s kind of cold and distant but you instinctively feel that she’s into you: much lower rejection rate, but the chance of a harsh rejection increases exponentially too

People will often take the lower cost option, even if it has a lower expected value. Easier to buy a lotto ticket vs start a side hustle

I got turned down every time I shot my shot with a college classmate I knew well.

Yet when I asked out some foid I barely knew from an elective class, she said yeah.

 

[BadLuck7892]

I mean its not hard to tell if a girl likes you lmao, she'll make it obvious

Then how come there have been multiple times I found out a foid I had no clue was into me, was into me?

 

[davidlaidisme67]

There have been times when I mistook a foid's niceness for interest. So, for the longest time, I thought I just couldn't tell the difference between niceness and interest.

Then, after thinking on it, I remembered: There have been times when I found out a foid was into me, yet I had no fucking idea (not even the slightest inkling)

So a more accurate way to describe me is: I mistake niceness for interest. Yet when there's actual interest, I don't even pick up on it.

Mogs me. Foids are rarely nice to me so that’s why I got so attached to my oneitis

 

[BadLuck7892]

As for why I say my dilemma is worse than simply being unable to tell the difference between niceness and interest:

Because it were a simple matter of being unable to tell the difference between niceness and interest, I could merely ask out every foid who's nice toward me. Eventually I'd find one who's genuinely into me.

But seeing as foids who've been into me never gave off any clues at all (at least not that I picked up on), the only "strategy" would be to ask out every foid who doesn't send off any clues.

That's not a feasible strategy. I'd have to do thousands and thousands of askouts (and I'd probably only get a few "yeahs")