I wanna have irl friends

i read every last word König and i feel with you deeply. maybe asking the psychologist about loneliness your next visit will make you better understand this issue. love.
Thank you. Its just it changes a lot. I told my psychologist i feel lonely via email, and then when I went to the psychologist and got asked if i feel lonely then I denied it cuz at that time I wanted to be alone again. It changes a lot and I think it depends if i take my meds or not. But most of the time I do. I think I will tell that next time I want to find ways were I can make friends :p:p:p
 
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Thank you. It’s just it changes a lot. I told my psychologist i feel lonely via email, and then when I went to the psychologist and got asked if i feel lonely then I denied it cuz at that time I wanted to be alone again. It changes a lot and I think it depends if i take my meds or not. But most of the time I do. I think I will tell that next time I want to find ways were I can make friends :p:p:p
don’t back out this time
 
Still I needa hardmaxx so bad u dont know ittttt :TriSad::TriSad::TriSad::TriSad: I just wanna be loved and treated good and not feel bad everytime I see a girl thats half my age and heightmoggs me, im so tired of living, of existing, im not made for this.
nothing wrong with hardmaxxing, unless it becomes and idol
 
nothing wrong with hardmaxxing, unless it becomes and idol
In which sense nothing wrong? An idol is smth that is more important than God. Hardmaxxing is changing the appearance of the body and not accepting the body God gave u. But I want it so bad I wanna get treated normal
 
In which sense nothing wrong? An idol is smth that is more important than God. Hardmaxxing is changing the appearance of the body and not accepting the body God gave u. But I want it so bad I wanna get treated normal
correct but you can hardmaxx to ”glorify God” by for example reaping the benefits of the halo effect, which could help you spread the gospel, but it wont matter what you do it for unless your heart desires only for you to do it for God
 
Very helpful. How can I start seeing ppl outside of school? I know nobody
"Js put yourself out there" is useless advice, I'd go to functions that repeatedly put you near the same people. You don't really need to know people first, friends are a side-effect of routine, not effort (put effort into the friendship not the force of the start:forcedsmile:). If you don't already have a routine outside of school that involves other people, other people will definitely won't get involved with you so the goal is to repeat exposure without pressure. I wouldn't stack multiple activities together to try meet people cuz you'd prolly get burnt out. You can get into things like martial arts because it's low pressure, bit gay but valid. Other things include climbing, boxing, extracurriculars, chess, volunteering, maybe a support group if youre true ND :chad: Definitely avoid random parties or social events because they're unstructured - you'll thrive more when there's a reason to be there. It's important to stay consistent, it matters more than being confident cuz people bond via familiarity. Use situational conversation starters like "Ohhh this is harder than i thought 👀👀" or "Ohhhh so boring 👀👀", just comment on what's happening. If it dies then that's fine, you'll see them again anyway. Js keep interactions short, your limit isn't failure so excuse yourself before exhaustion; this builds positive associations and not burnouts. Also don't aim for best friends. Aim for "the guy i talk to sometimes", most friendships start as nothing special.
 
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correct but you can hardmaxx to ”glorify God” by for example reaping the benefits of the halo effect, which could help you spread the gospel, but it wont matter what you do it for unless your heart desires only for you to do it for God
Wow I never thought in that way. I also asked myself that. Since in the Bible somewhere it says that ppl in a crowd couldn’t really sees Jesus since he looked ordinary like the other but woooowwww then I won’t be shy and can spread gospel and every1 will like it ur a true helpcell 😍😍
 
"Js put yourself out there" is useless advice, I'd go to functions that repeatedly put you near the same people. You don't really need to know people first, friends are a side-effect of routine, not effort (put effort into the friendship not the force of the start:forcedsmile:). If you don't already have a routine outside of school that involves other people, other people will definitely won't get involved with you so the goal is to repeat exposure without pressure. I wouldn't stack multiple activities together to try meet people cuz you'd prolly get burnt out. You can get into things like martial arts because it's low pressure, bit gay but valid. Other things include climbing, boxing, extracurriculars, chess, volunteering, maybe a support group if youre true ND :chad: Definitely avoid random parties or social events because they're unstructured - you'll thrive more when there's a reason to be there. It's important to stay consistent, it matters more than being confident cuz people bond via familiarity. Use situational conversation starters like "Ohhh this is harder than i thought 👀👀" or "Ohhhh so boring 👀👀", just comment on what's happening. If it dies then that's fine, you'll see them again anyway. Js keep interactions short, your limit isn't failure so excuse yourself before exhaustion; this builds positive associations and not burnouts. Also don't aim for best friends. Aim for "the guy i talk to sometimes", most friendships start as nothing special.
Brooo ur so helpful true helpcell 😻😻. I sadly can’t do sports, I get a lot of pain walking (I have had an injury and also I think I’m growing). I once went to chess only to get destroyed by some 6 year old boy after 3 moves 😭😭😭😭😭. The only sport I can do is swimming, but it’s loud, many ppl and loud. I only can do non impact sports that don’t involve jumping or fast running. I can jog here and there but not much. So swimming or gym would be available since I have adhd 😔. But yeah I still don’t know where I can make friends outside of school. At church is difficult and yk I, I don’t think I should have friends. I’m mean to ppl and stuff that’s why I isolated myself in the fist part. I think I should try to find ways to not feel lonely, instead of making friends.
 
correct but you can hardmaxx to ”glorify God” by for example reaping the benefits of the halo effect, which could help you spread the gospel, but it wont matter what you do it for unless your heart desires only for you to do it for God
Screenshotted this gem 💎
 
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"Js put yourself out there" is useless advice, I'd go to functions that repeatedly put you near the same people. You don't really need to know people first, friends are a side-effect of routine, not effort (put effort into the friendship not the force of the start:forcedsmile:). If you don't already have a routine outside of school that involves other people, other people will definitely won't get involved with you so the goal is to repeat exposure without pressure. I wouldn't stack multiple activities together to try meet people cuz you'd prolly get burnt out. You can get into things like martial arts because it's low pressure, bit gay but valid. Other things include climbing, boxing, extracurriculars, chess, volunteering, maybe a support group if youre true ND :chad: Definitely avoid random parties or social events because they're unstructured - you'll thrive more when there's a reason to be there. It's important to stay consistent, it matters more than being confident cuz people bond via familiarity. Use situational conversation starters like "Ohhh this is harder than i thought 👀👀" or "Ohhhh so boring 👀👀", just comment on what's happening. If it dies then that's fine, you'll see them again anyway. Js keep interactions short, your limit isn't failure so excuse yourself before exhaustion; this builds positive associations and not burnouts. Also don't aim for best friends. Aim for "the guy i talk to sometimes", most friendships start as nothing special.
Ah uhm I forgot hehehe. There is kinda a speaking barrier since I don’t speak the native language perfectly but I speak it on a b1 b2 level
 
Brooo ur so helpful true helpcell 😻😻. I sadly can’t do sports, I get a lot of pain walking (I have had an injury and also I think I’m growing). I once went to chess only to get destroyed by some 6 year old boy after 3 moves 😭😭😭😭😭. The only sport I can do is swimming, but it’s loud, many ppl and loud. I only can do non impact sports that don’t involve jumping or fast running. I can jog here and there but not much. So swimming or gym would be available since I have adhd 😔. But yeah I still don’t know where I can make friends outside of school. At church is difficult and yk I, I don’t think I should have friends. I’m mean to ppl and stuff that’s why I isolated myself in the fist part. I think I should try to find ways to not feel lonely, instead of making friends.
its ok to use a protective behaviour, it's good youre trying son
 
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Brooo ur so helpful true helpcell 😻😻. I sadly can’t do sports, I get a lot of pain walking (I have had an injury and also I think I’m growing). I once went to chess only to get destroyed by some 6 year old boy after 3 moves 😭😭😭😭😭. The only sport I can do is swimming, but it’s loud, many ppl and loud. I only can do non impact sports that don’t involve jumping or fast running. I can jog here and there but not much. So swimming or gym would be available since I have adhd 😔. But yeah I still don’t know where I can make friends outside of school. At church is difficult and yk I, I don’t think I should have friends. I’m mean to ppl and stuff that’s why I isolated myself in the fist part. I think I should try to find ways to not feel lonely, instead of making friends.
you can make friends literally anywhere, it just depends on whether you have the Courage or not. Also if you’re looking to spread the gospel in person, it wont help if you have social anxiety.
 
you can make friends literally anywhere, it just depends on whether you have the Courage or not. Also if you’re looking to spread the gospel in person, it wont help if you have social anxiety.
Social anxiety is only cuz I’m short and have not hardmaxxed
 
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I understand, but if you truly want friends, you have get out of your comfort zone
Give me ideas where (places) i can make friends. But not too busy places
 
the library, a church, a park
Okay thank you.
Library is very hard since I would have to go talk to them
Church is okay
Park imma never ever gunna do
Thanks though
 
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Okay thank you.
Library is very hard since I would have to go talk to them
Church is okay
Park imma never ever gunna do
Thanks though
ill give you some more later
 
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Hangout with the werid kids
 
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