I was genuinely afraid of having sex for a long time

[Jason Voorhees]

Ok so very few people know about this but I am comfortable talking about it now. For a long time the mere thought of emotional and physical intimacy was paralyzing for me.

Even into my late teens the mere idea of taking off my clothes and standing fully exposed before a woman triggered a deep panic. Porn and mastrubation was better than this. No judgement no anxiety no problem but actually having sex. It wasn't just being self consciousness I was legit panicking hard at the thought of it. The mere thought of being exposed next to a woman was terrifying for me. I was complete khvv all throughout high school and had 0 experience with women. Just talking them would sometimes making me nervous and even when I have a girl ready to give physical intimacy it scared me and made me nervous

The way I overcame that was by getting drunk out of my mind to numb all my senses and just let it happen without any sensation or feeling. It was a humilation ritual. It took many years to come out of that loop. If it weren't for alcohol I would probably never lost my virginity in the first place it was that debilitating

 

[Jason Voorhees]

@Chadeep @imontheloose

 

[Jason Voorhees]

@buccalfatremoval

 

[Jason Voorhees]

@BigBallsLarry

 

[Blasian-K]

I mean, I still don't have experiences, but, yes, the thought can be intimidating!

Also, the sex pill is a thing (@ all slayers). I feel performance anxiety is something that can hold dudes back as well.

I'll try getting blacked out tonight, though... (maybe I’ll update)

 

[BigBallsLarry]

I think this is normal to be honest.. there's a reason the first time is always bad. Both men and women are very scared and anxious of doing it.

 

[Jason Voorhees]

@Thief @Yliaster @Whatever

 

[TheGreatDetective]

I never really had performance anxiety or anything like that. But the one thing that has always legitimately terrified me is an unwanted pregnancy. That’s the only thing i think about before and after sex

 

[munnabhai]

Never had that feeling but only because any girl I’ve been with was more nervous or worried about pleasing me more than I was them

 

[Thief]

@Thief @Yliaster @Whatever

I thought the foreskin had to tear to fully insert the penis until I was like 16, frightening

 

[munnabhai]

I never really had performance anxiety or anything like that. But the one thing that has always legitimately terrified me is an unwanted pregnancy. That’s the only thing i think about before and after sex

I’ve bought so many plan b that weren’t needed out of anxiety man

 

[Aerand]

Tbh I feel this now, even if I’m not close to slaying at all lol. It’s just having to be vulnerable in front of a woman, or even someone else in that matter. I can only project the disgust I feel when I see myself onto them

 

[HappyChud]

Ok so very few people know about this but I am comfortable talking about it now. For a long time the mere thought of emotional and physical intimacy was paralyzing for me.

Even into my late teens the mere idea of taking off my clothes and standing fully exposed before a woman triggered a deep panic. Porn and mastrubation was better than this. No judgement no anxiety no problem but actually having sex. It wasn't just being self consciousness I was legit panicking hard at the thought of it. The mere thought of being exposed next to a woman was terrifying for me. I was complete khvv all throughout high school and had 0 experience with women. Just talking them would sometimes making me nervous and even when I have a girl ready to give physical intimacy it scared me and made me nervous

The way I overcame that was by getting drunk out of my mind to numb all my senses and just let it happen without any sensation or feeling. It was a humilation ritual. It took many years to come out of that loop. If it weren't for alcohol I would probably never lost my virginity in the first place it was that debilitating

true neurodivergent

 

[Medullary_Ray]

Glanced at the title and just clicked on it. “Jason Voorhees”. Galactic surprise. Totally get you though. Losing your virginity whole drunk ain’t a bad idea, but losing it to someone who cares about you is the stuff of dreams. Anyways I lost mine to a hooker. Amazing way to start off, I think.

 

[baunew]

I can’t talk to girls and I don’t drink, every party I’m at I actually can’t relax. I’ve had people make jokes about this infront of me and multiple girls laughed it’s actually so brutal. This was a great post boyo .

 

[Stardew]

Ok so very few people know about this but I am comfortable talking about it now. For a long time the mere thought of emotional and physical intimacy was paralyzing for me.

Even into my late teens the mere idea of taking off my clothes and standing fully exposed before a woman triggered a deep panic. Porn and mastrubation was better than this. No judgement no anxiety no problem but actually having sex. It wasn't just being self consciousness I was legit panicking hard at the thought of it. The mere thought of being exposed next to a woman was terrifying for me. I was complete khvv all throughout high school and had 0 experience with women. Just talking them would sometimes making me nervous and even when I have a girl ready to give physical intimacy it scared me and made me nervous

The way I overcame that was by getting drunk out of my mind to numb all my senses and just let it happen without any sensation or feeling. It was a humilation ritual. It took many years to come out of that loop. If it weren't for alcohol I would probably never lost my virginity in the first place it was that debilitating

I couldn't get hard or could barely get semi-hard when i started having intimacies
It would be better if you could get rid of the stress without alcohol tho
I got over the stress by focusing on every touch and sensation with my partner.

 

[Daddy's Home]

. If it weren't for alcohol I would probably never lost my virginity in the first place it was that debilitating

I think this is normal to be honest.. there's a reason the first time is always bad. Both men and women are very scared and anxious of doing it.

I was always like "ok, we can touch each other, being 2 strangers at the end of the day who vibe well together, hug, maybe even kiss, whatever..

..but wtf do you mean we go completely undress , being 2 strangers after all.. and see each other's private parts, wtf, that's weird as shit, who the fuck is doing that..

(not to mention escalating to touching each other in those areas / performing the sexual act itself ) "

And if you do end up doing it, you're always like "am I doing the right thing / isn't she bored / shouldn't I change positions?"

I think this is a problem with our generation as a whole, the increasing isolation and lack of interaction opportunities in childhood/adolescence more with people of the opposite sex of the same age that would make us more comfortable with both our bodies and theirs/their presence around us in general

(like touching in a joking/friendly way, playing, etc. whether it's sisters, cousins, girls from the neighborhood, girls from a larger circle of friends, etc.)

I've talked to my parents about this before, and they both grew up and lived in relatively isolated areas/communities, where everyone knew everyone/everyone was friends, and they told me how by my age they already had a shit ton of body counts and everyone basically fucked everyone until eventually everyone got married, because in adolescence there was basically nothing else to do but literally go out of the house on the street, touch some grass and go at some bitches house..

..to yell at her parents to call her out, she would come out, you walk around a bit, stop on a bench, hug and kiss, and then you leave through a more isolated place/forest/an area with running water where you fuck a bit and then wipe yourself with leaves from the trees and water from the river, and that was all.. something perfectly normal at 15-16 years old or whatever age..

 

[Jason Voorhees]

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