koalendo
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I'm mainly talking about LTR's here.
If she needs you to do extra then she barely likes you anyway, at least while getting to know each other and during the initial phases of the relationship, for example, if she needs you to take her out to a fancy dinner or be funny and entertaining 24/7 or give her expensive gifts or anything that is not your duty as a man in a relationship.
It means that you belong to a low place in her hierarchy of men, you're not low enough where she will never date you, but you're at that place where you are attractive enough to date only if you do extra stuff, and that's a bad place to be in, this type of girls will never truly respect you and more likely dump you later, you wanna be at that place where she wanna date you as long as your personality isn't a dealbreaker.
In addition to that, if she already finds you attractive and puts you high in her hierarchy of men, you will trick her brain into thinking you're a low value by acting like a low value man who have to simp for her, she will think "why is this supposedly high value man who got options are trying too hard and acting like unattractive men who have to do these things?, he's probably one of these men".
This is only for the initial phases, after she makes it clear that she wanna be with you and commits to you while you do almost nothing special to her, then you can start doing more and rewarding her and making your relationship tighter ONLY if she reciprocates.
If she needs you to do extra then she barely likes you anyway, at least while getting to know each other and during the initial phases of the relationship, for example, if she needs you to take her out to a fancy dinner or be funny and entertaining 24/7 or give her expensive gifts or anything that is not your duty as a man in a relationship.
It means that you belong to a low place in her hierarchy of men, you're not low enough where she will never date you, but you're at that place where you are attractive enough to date only if you do extra stuff, and that's a bad place to be in, this type of girls will never truly respect you and more likely dump you later, you wanna be at that place where she wanna date you as long as your personality isn't a dealbreaker.
In addition to that, if she already finds you attractive and puts you high in her hierarchy of men, you will trick her brain into thinking you're a low value by acting like a low value man who have to simp for her, she will think "why is this supposedly high value man who got options are trying too hard and acting like unattractive men who have to do these things?, he's probably one of these men".
This is only for the initial phases, after she makes it clear that she wanna be with you and commits to you while you do almost nothing special to her, then you can start doing more and rewarding her and making your relationship tighter ONLY if she reciprocates.
