If a htb has been together with a autistic guy for 3 years, When Will she leave him?

[Gengar’s Ghost]

I sent pm

Checking now.

 

[Gengar’s Ghost]

Update: she’s gl. But she also seems quirky, so it kinda makes sense she went for an aspie.

 

[Cuervo]

It’s better if you don’t. Trust me.

Source: was a oneitiscel, she got married and shat out a kid.

Meanwhile I’m a 29 year old dateless KHHV. Point is, even if you don’t like them, at least get on dating apps and whatnot just so you can get your dick wet. Don’t turn into a wizard like me.

She was still your oneitis when she married before having the child?

Yeah getting my cock sucked from time to time seems like a nice distraction for the moment. The problem is I don't really like promiscuous women, but maybe I can make an exception for a HTB and above

 

[Deleted member 92913]

If he is mtn, tall and diagnosed with autism, im guessing he is High functioning. Will she ever leave him? He is her first boyfriend

I don't think so

 

[Deleted member 71543]

Update: she’s gl. But she also seems quirky, so it kinda makes sense she went for an aspie.

Alr nigga where is my pm @notsocommonthumb

 

[Gengar’s Ghost]

She was still your oneitis when she married before having the child?

Yeah getting my cock sucked from time to time seems like a nice distraction for the moment. The problem is I don't really like promiscuous women, but maybe I can make an exception for a HTB and above

No, she was not my oneitis at that point. When someone told me, I responded with a mere “Oh.” And I didn’t feel anything inside. Not sure if that means I’m actually over her, or if I’m just dead inside. Probably a mix of both.

 

[Gengar’s Ghost]

Alr nigga where is my pm @notsocommonthumb

He just asked me how to invite you in PMs, and I just told him. Also said if he doesn’t know how to, then I can do it for him.

 

[Cuervo]

No, she was not my oneitis at that point. When someone told me, I responded with a mere “Oh.” And I didn’t feel anything inside. Not sure if that means I’m actually over her, or if I’m just dead inside. Probably a mix of both.

But was she like your ex or just someone u found incredibly hot lol

 

[greycel]

Idk

Just a feeling

Lowkey did not expect this from you
When a girl is taken, she's taken

She will never be yours, and she doesn't deserve to be

If you're hoping she will leave him for you, sorry to bust your balls, but she has chosen to be with him despite knowing that he is autistic. Be happy for them.
Go for another girl who is single, that girl will forever belong to somebody else
Your future wife is somewhere out there

Good point. She will always be more attached to the guys before you.

Yeah, but bro it's also the fact that if she decides to leave him for you, then she is not only a bad person... but she will also leave you for somebody else

 

[Deleted member 71543]

He just asked me how to invite you in PMs, and I just told him. Also said if he doesn’t know how to, then I can do it for him.

Allr mane

 

[Gengar’s Ghost]

But was she like your ex or just someone u found incredibly hot lol

Neither, that’s what makes it all the more pathetic. I was going through an emotionally difficult time because of events I don’t want to talk about it. And I discovered she went through a similar experience. Then, due to spending so much time inside my bedroom and constantly overthinking, I developed a oneitis and five years later, she rejected me. Didn’t surprise me but it did make me really depressed. I’m glad it’s all behind me now.

 

[Deleted member 71543]

Lowkey did not expect this from you
When a girl is taken, she's taken

She will never be yours, and she doesn't deserve to be

If you're hoping she will leave him for you, sorry to bust your balls, but she has chosen to be with him despite knowing that he is autistic. Be happy for them.
Go for another girl who is single, that girl will forever belong to somebody else
Your future wife is somewhere out there


Yeah, but bro it's also the fact that if she decides to leave him for you, then she is not only a bad person... but she will also leave you for somebody else

Org does not agree mane, they will say that any girl is never locked down if a better male shows up

 

[Gengar’s Ghost]

Yeah, but bro it's also the fact that if she decides to leave him for you, then she is not only a bad person... but she will also leave you for somebody else

What comes around, goes around. But you can’t really blame him or anyone else in his shoes for daydreaming about situations like that. The hearts wants what it wants.

 

[greycel]

Org does not agree mane, they will say that any girl is never locked down if a better male shows up

It's just a cuck mindset for themselves
They can never possibly win in the long run, as none of them are TerraChads/GigaChads

It's also just untrue

 

[Cuervo]

Neither, that’s what makes it all the more pathetic. I was going through an emotionally difficult time because of events I don’t want to talk about it. And I discovered she went through a similar experience. Then, due to spending so much time inside my bedroom and constantly overthinking, I developed a oneitis and five years later, she rejected me. Didn’t surprise me but it did make me really depressed. I’m glad it’s all behind me now.

Oneitis for me is the same as limerence. It's a sucky feeling, glad you're over it bro. Rejection can make some people even feel suicidal

 

[greycel]

What comes around, goes around. But you can’t really blame him or anyone else in his shoes for daydreaming about situations like that. The hearts wants what it wants.

Let me ask you how you would feel knowing that somebody else out there was dreaming about your wife. Out of every girl they chose to fantasise about your wife you've known for years.
Wouldn't that infuritate you?

That's why I will never cross that boundary against someone else, or they have full right to do that to me

 

[Gengar’s Ghost]

Org does not agree mane, they will say that any girl is never locked down if a better male shows up

That only works for women with body counts. We are talking about a woman who has pair-bonded with only one man, and there’s no way in hell she will ever leave him. He could cheat on her and she would still not leave him. Pair-bonding is extremely powerful. Do you know understand why pre-marital sex is bad, and why major religions oppose it? Even Confucianism does and it’s not an Abrahamic religion.

 

[Gengar’s Ghost]

Oneitis for me is the same as limerence. It's a sucky feeling, glad you're over it bro. Rejection can make some people even feel suicidal

I don’t know what limerence means, I’ll look it up. But yeah, thanks, brother. I’m glad, too.

 

[Deleted member 56968]

Let me ask you how you would feel knowing that somebody else out there was dreaming about your wife. Out of every girl they chose to fantasise about your wife you've known for years.
Wouldn't that infuritate you?

That's why I will never cross that boundary against someone else, or they have full right to do that to me

Not like someone chooses who they like,

 

[Nick.Harte]

When 6'6 NT Tyrone walks infront of her, then she'll leave his autistic ass.

 

[Gengar’s Ghost]

Let me ask you how you would feel knowing that somebody else out there was dreaming about your wife. Out of every girl they chose to fantasise about your wife you've known for years.
Wouldn't that infuritate you?

That's why I will never cross that boundary against someone else, or they have full right to do that to me

Why would it infuriate me, or anyone else for that matter? It’s only something to be infuriate about if you’re trying to “steal” someone’s girlfriend or wife. Getting angry at someone because they like your partner is not only very irrational, it also reeks of insecurity. Not to mention, are you that mistrustful of your partner that you think she will leave you? A person who thinks like that really just has other issues he needs to resolve, first and foremost.

 

[greycel]

Not like someone chooses who they like,

You can continue to act for or against it
Making threads like these or reinforcing it just puts you in a deeper pit

Just look at yourself man. You're hoping for the downfall of two people who are happily together because you want to step in
That's incredibly disrespectful. It's honestly the highest form of disrespect. To take another man's woman
That's his.
She is his

And believe me, I know about oneitis. But I didn't even act on my oneitis who was single, and she had feelings for me. Because the rational part of me knew there was no future with her. She would never be my wife.
Now I've got no feelings associated to the person

Prioritise the rational part of you, don't be weak and give into the emotional

 

[Gengar’s Ghost]

Oneitis for me is the same as limerence. It's a sucky feeling, glad you're over it bro. Rejection can make some people even feel suicidal

Just looked it up. Well, if the object of my desire does not want me, then I simply learn to let it go. Therefore, I don’t think it was limerence in my case. I think my case was deeper than that. But I don’t really wanna think about it anymore, for obvious reasons.

 

[Gengar’s Ghost]

You can continue to act for or against it
Making threads like these or reinforcing it just puts you in a deeper pit

Just look at yourself man. You're hoping for the downfall of two people who are happily together because you want to step in
That's incredibly disrespectful. It's honestly the highest form of disrespect. To take another man's woman
That's his.
She is his

And believe me, I know about oneitis. But I didn't even act on my oneitis who was single, and she had feelings for me. Because the rational part of me knew there was no future with her. She would never be my wife.
Now I've got no feelings associated to the person

Prioritise the rational part of you, don't be weak and give into the emotional

I think you’re getting the wrong idea here. He isn’t plotting ways to make her leave her boyfriend. He’s just wondering if it’s possible if she were to ever leave him, and then in such a scenario he would like to be with her afterwards. That’s just how I’m seeing it. Nobody here is encouraging him to destroy another relationship, I’m sure. Or at least I wasn’t.

 

[greycel]

Why would it infuriate me, or anyone else for that matter? It’s only something to be infuriate about if you’re trying to “steal” someone’s girlfriend or wife. Getting angry at someone because they like your partner is not only very irrational, it also reeks of insecurity. Not to mention, are you that mistrustful of your partner that you think she will leave you? A person who thinks like that really just has other issues he needs to resolve, first and foremost.

Idk man
This referring to it as "insecurity" is I feel how progressive liberals in the West have phrased it to shame the majorities, who like to exhibit traditional outlooks

Ig it comes down to that question. Would you like the idea of other guys being interested in your girl (i.e. you get respect for being with a girl that everyone wants), or would you rather nobody have your girl/ pay attention to her (so you don't get respect from other guys)?

I hate the idea of knowing other men out there are ogling MY wife. It's why I won't let her wear skimpy clothes, even though it's "socially acceptable"
It's why I understand the idea of Middle Eastern guys who try to keep their wives out of the eyes of others, by wearing hijab/burqa (even though I wouldn't go that far).
That's their woman. It's nobody's but theirs.
Not an insecurity thing, but what is mine is mine

I don't like the idea of sharing

 

[greycel]

I think you’re getting the wrong idea here. He isn’t plotting ways to make her leave her boyfriend. He’s just wondering if it’s possible if she were to ever leave him, and then in such a scenario he would like to be with her afterwards. That’s just how I’m seeing it. Nobody here is encouraging him to destroy another relationship, I’m sure. Or at least I wasn’t.

Idk I was thinking that too, until I saw this

 

[Gengar’s Ghost]

Idk man
This referring to it as "insecurity" is I feel how progressive liberals in the West have phrased it to shame the majorities, who like to exhibit traditional outlooks

Ig it comes down to that question. Would you like the idea of other guys being interested in your girl (i.e. you get respect for being with a girl that everyone wants), or would you rather nobody have your girl/ pay attention to her (so you don't get respect from other guys)?

I hate the idea of knowing other men out there are ogling MY wife. It's why I won't let her wear skimpy clothes, even though it's "socially acceptable"
It's why I understand the idea of Middle Eastern guys who try to keep their wives out of the eyes of others, by wearing hijab/burqa (even though I wouldn't go that far).
That's their woman. It's nobody's but theirs.
Not an insecurity thing, but what is mine is mine

I don't like the idea of sharing

You are definitely going with another angle on this subject. But now that we are talking about it… guys are simps. They will always ogle or fantasize about women, whether they’re taken or not. Men are very perverted. Even if your wife is a landwhale LTB, there’s always gonna be some guys who will see you two together and then have fantasies about your partner and whatnot. Not really something you can do anything about, you can’t control someone’s thoughts for example. I agree that women shouldn’t dress like sloots but no matter how a woman dresses, at the end of the day, guys will still ogle at her.

 

[Gengar’s Ghost]

Idk I was thinking that too, until I saw this

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I mean, he’s basically his enemy. Why should he cheer him? Or be happy for him? And not hate him? I mean, personally I wish my former oneitis the best and all that, nor do I hate her husband or want him dead, but I surely don’t want to see them together when I’m outside. So I just avoid the places they might go to or where I might see them. However everyone deals with things differently, and has different emotions. It’s not right for us to dictate how others should feel or deal with their emotions, and stuff like that.

 

[Deleted member 72469]

Depends on how autistic he is, even Elon Musk with his billions can't keep any girl for long

 

[greycel]

Depends on how autistic he is, even Elon Musk with his billions can't keep any girl for long

That's not because of his personality. It's because of the time he invests into the relationship

 

[Deleted member 72469]

That's not because of his personality. It's because of the time he invests into the relationship

Video games and twitter are more important

 

[Deleted member 56968]

You can continue to act for or against it
Making threads like these or reinforcing it just puts you in a deeper pit

Just look at yourself man. You're hoping for the downfall of two people who are happily together because you want to step in
That's incredibly disrespectful. It's honestly the highest form of disrespect. To take another man's woman
That's his.
She is his

Idc about disrespecting him as I have no respect for him in the first place

And believe me, I know about oneitis. But I didn't even act on my oneitis who was single, and she had feelings for me. Because the rational part of me knew there was no future with her. She would never be my wife.
Now I've got no feelings associated to the person

we clearly Think differently, Youre obviously a much more logical and rational person than I am. What you have done is great but wouldnt Work for majority of guys

 

[Deleted member 56968]

Idk I was thinking that too, until I saw this

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Its not like imma do anything, but im still allowed to hate him wether or not its rational

 

[greycel]

Its not like imma do anything, but im still allowed to hate him wether or not its rational

No you're not
There's right and wrong

You "are allowed" to hate an orphan, who's minding his own business. But what sort of person does that make you?
It's not about whether you can, it's whether you should

And you know deep down this is a bad thing, because you wouldn't want anyone doing this to your wife
Put yourself in his shoes. If you had a wife, would you want this happening to you?

So don't do it to others.

Idc about disrespecting him as I have no respect for him in the first place

we clearly Think differently, Youre obviously a much more logical and rational person than I am. What you have done is great but wouldnt Work for majority of guys

There's no point in knowing what is right, if you don't act in accordance to it
Be strong

 

[Deleted member 92913]

They have been together for 3 years, they were eachothers first

Eww, yh thats strong bond.

 

[Dev_Frankfurt]

in 4 weeks, 3 days, 11 hours and 20 minutes starting from the moment you read this post

 

[Deleted member 56968]

No you're not
There's right and wrong

You "are allowed" to hate an orphan, who's minding his own business. But what sort of person does that make you?
It's not about whether you can, it's whether you should

Its not like im actively choosing to hate him, for me it feels as if he had something that belongs to me even though I know its not how it is in reality.

And you know deep down this is a bad thing, because you wouldn't want anyone doing this to your wife
Put yourself in his shoes. If you had a wife, would you want this happening to you?

no of course not, but I would still acknowlegde the other man, I would feel sad for him

So don't do it to others.


There's no point in knowing what is right, if you don't act in accordance to it
Be strong

 

[greycel]

Its not like im actively choosing to hate him, for me it feels as if he had something that belongs to me even though I know its not how it is in reality.

It's exactly this
You know it's wrong, are you going to keep on coping or

Stop cucking yourself brah focus on someone new

Before you say it, it is actually simple. It's a matter of time, not effort. You can't speed up the process but just face the right direction and let time carry you out

 

[Deleted member 92913]

And believe me, I know about oneitis. But I didn't even act on my oneitis who was single, and she had feelings for me. Because the rational part of me knew there was no future with her.

Mirin hard

 

[Deleted member 56968]

It's exactly this
You know it's wrong, are you going to keep on coping or

Im most likely going to keep doing it, I see her almost everyday and its not something I Can control

Before you say it, it is actually simple. It's a matter of time, not effort. You can't speed up the process but just face the right direction and let time carry you out

 

[Deleted member 92913]

@notsocommonthumb

I think, the best option is just to let her go. I understand it's difficult, especially when u see her almost every day.

I suspect she you have had crush on her for long, i had some experince with that, bit different, i ll try to make it short.

I had had this crush for 8 years, i was still kinda kid, naive, love at first sight, yh. We were classmates, i never did any move, i was shy and class environment, yk, its difficult. After 4 years she moved to another city, it really made me upset.

I would say it was my first "heartbreak", I hadn't done any move, i just let her go, wished her all good. But inside, i was upset, like i never told anyone, but i was thinking about her for months, it was during covid period, yh, never plucked up enough courage to ask her out.

I got over it eventually.

Then, after another 4 years, on random august in 2024, sunny day, i was thinking, i should try to get in touch with her, so i DMed her, invited her on date or "meeting", had lunch together, went on a walk, chatted, it was nice, we hugged each other.

Idk, i am HighLTN, she probably midMTB, but she was something different in my eyes, yh, for me she was true Eve. Love makes u rate higher.

Anyways, she left for uni in different country, we chatted for 2 months and once, I got message she found herself a boyfriend, told me she truly loves him and told me not to contact her anymore, she wants to be loyal to her bf.

Believe me or not, I kinda saw this coming and wasn't even heartbroken for long time, was gone in like week - i already experienced that one hearbreak in my head. I don't know her history, se*ual experince, etc. but she seemed decent to me.

Just let her go bro.

I still wish her all best, call me cuck, beta, etc.

I know I truly loved her, I still like her, wish them all good. but boyfriend is no-go zone, it actually helped me to loose the attachment.

Ifrc ur 18, maybe try to ask some other girls, maybe they are single. I am 20, I think, recently lost girl who liked me at some point (she gave me iois), or idk maybe she was just playing with my feelings, but when i finally asked her on a date, she told me she has bf already, and that she is sorry (I waited for 8 months)

Truth is, at 20 many good girls are already in relationship, at least where i live.

Peace

 

[Deleted member 56968]

@notsocommonthumb

I think, the best option is just to let her go. I understand it's difficult, especially when u see her almost every day.

I suspect she you have had crush on her for long, i had some experince with that, bit different, i ll try to make it short.

I had had this crush for 8 years, i was still kinda kid, naive, love at first sight, yh. We were classmates, i never did any move, i was shy and class environment, yk, its difficult. After 4 years she moved to another city, it really made me upset.

I would say it was my first "heartbreak", I hadn't done any move, i just let her go, wished her all good. But inside, i was upset, like i never told anyone, but i was thinking about her for months, it was during covid period, yh, never plucked up enough courage to ask her out.

I got over it eventually.

Then, after another 4 years, on random august in 2024, sunny day, i was thinking, i should try to get in touch with her, so i DMed her, invited her on date or "meeting", had lunch together, went on a walk, chatted, it was nice, we hugged each other.

Idk, i am HighLTN, she probably midMTB, but she was something different in my eyes, yh, for me she was true Eve. Love makes u rate higher.

Anyways, she left for uni in different country, we chatted for 2 months and once, I got message she found herself a boyfriend, told me she truly loves him and told me not to contact her anymore, she wants to be loyal to her bf.

Believe me or not, I kinda saw this coming and wasn't even heartbroken for long time, was gone in like week - i already experienced that one hearbreak in my head. I don't know her history, se*ual experince, etc. but she seemed decent to me.

Just let her go bro.

I still wish her all best, call me cuck, beta, etc.

I know I truly loved her, I still like her, wish them all good. but boyfriend is no-go zone, it actually helped me to loose the attachment.

Ifrc ur 18, maybe try to ask some other girls, maybe they are single. I am 20, I think, recently lost girl who liked me at some point (she gave me iois), or idk maybe she was just playing with my feelings, but when i finally asked her on a date, she told me she has bf already, and that she is sorry (I waited for 8 months)

Truth is, at 20 many good girls are already in relationship, at least where i live.

Peace

I have liked her for the last 3 and a half years, in that time i have had other “crushes” besides her but nothing really felt the same. Idk ive always been kinda weird and girls would Call me out on it, but she doesnt mind. All the other crushes ive had felt more sexual than anything but with her i wouldnt even Care if we didnt have sex, I just want her to be mine idk if that sounds cringe what i hate about her boyfriend is everytime he talks about her its always about her body and how their sex is, i hate the idea that some disgusting brute is ruining her and that she Will probably be with him for the rest of her life

like @greycel Said its wrong to want Them to break up, but I cant help myself to want that. She is the first Girl I ever really could have an actual talk with, every other Girl seems like soulless pits with no conciousness. Even now I know I Will probably never get a chance with her and im 100% certain I Will do something stupid and embarrassing while drunk at our graduation party

 

[Deleted member 92913]

All the other crushes ive had felt more sexual than anything but with her i wouldnt even Care if we didnt have sex

, nice person u are. I was also like this, probably still am. I think finding about her hoe phase or sum would help you snap out of it, but if she is decent, chances are there were none.

what i hate about her boyfriend is everytime he talks about her its always about her body and how their sex is, i hate the idea that some disgusting brute is ruining her and that she Will probably be with him for the rest of her life

I get u man, we see it as ruining, foids think of it differently.

like @greycel Said its wrong to want Them to break up, but I cant help myself to want that. She is the first Girl I ever really could have an actual talk with, every other Girl seems like soulless pits with no conciousness.

I mean, its difficult not to want that, for me, the fact she has already been intimate with someone else would probably be enough. But if she is really pretty + personality, yh, difficult.

Even now I know I Will probably never get a chance with her and im 100% certain I Will do something stupid and embarrassing while drunk at our graduation party

I once talked to one crush while drunk, yh, it was really cringe when i came back to sober, I regretted it for a while after lol.