If there's something you always wanted to tell me

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This might be your last chance in this lifetime

You can be ruthless
 
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I lowkey forgot who you are
 
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I listen to erotic ASMR
 
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Despite everything you've done to me, i still forgive you
 
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i like you
 
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Why don't you quit... and run away with me? I'll make you happy. I'll protect you all your life. Please

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@WhyNotMe?? i watched this movie on Saturday im still crying man :fuk:

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Chill user.
 
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Write it here

This might be your last chance in this lifetime

You can be ruthless
It took me a long time to realize I'm autistic
 
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Idk nigga show me one friend who stayed along with you the whole way even tho you betrayed him multiply times
I really can't. @optimisticzoomer has only been there for a partial time.

I don't understand why though? Why are we attracted to each other?
 
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why do you leave?
 
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don't understand why though? Why are we attracted to each other?

Here’s a breakdown of the primary reasons, from the biological to the psychological.

### 1. The Biological Drive: The Engine of Attraction

Our bodies have fundamental, hardwired systems designed to promote connection and reproduction.

* **Neurochemistry (The "Chemistry"):** When we're attracted to someone, our brain releases a potent cocktail of chemicals that create powerful feelings.
* **Dopamine:** The "reward" chemical. When you interact with or even think about the person you're attracted to, your brain gives you a hit of dopamine, making you feel euphoric, motivated, and wanting more. This is the same pathway activated by addictive drugs.
* **Norepinephrine:** Also known as adrenaline. This causes the racing heart, sweaty palms, and focused attention you feel around a crush. It makes the experience feel exciting and urgent.
* **Serotonin:** Interestingly, serotonin levels can *drop* in the early stages of romantic love, mimicking the patterns seen in Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD). This might explain why we can't stop thinking about a new love interest.
* **Oxytocin:** The "bonding hormone" or "cuddle chemical." It's released through physical touch, hugging, and sex. It fosters deep feelings of attachment, trust, and calmness, moving the relationship from passionate infatuation to secure attachment.
* **Testosterone:** Plays a key role in driving libido (sex drive) in both men and women, fueling the initial physical desire.

* **Evolutionary Psychology:** This perspective argues we are subconsciously drawn to traits that signal good health and reproductive fitness.
* **For Men (often):** Attraction can be influenced by signs of youth and health (like clear skin, a symmetrical face, and a low waist-to-hip ratio), which are subconscious cues for fertility.
* **For Women (often):** Attraction can be influenced by signs of resources, stability, and the ability to protect (like status, ambition, and physical stature) to help ensure the survival of offspring.
* **It's important to note:** These are broad, generalized tendencies from our ancestral past, not rigid rules. Modern attraction is far more complex.

### 2. The Psychological Level: The Mind's Blueprint

Our individual psychology and life experiences shape *who* we are attracted to.

* **The "Love Map":** Psychologist John Money proposed that during our childhood and adolescence, we develop an unconscious mental blueprint of our ideal partner. This map is built from:
* Our parents' relationship and their positive/negative traits.
* Our early childhood experiences and friendships.
* Cultural influences and media we consume.
* This blueprint defines our preferences for personality, sense of humor, values, intelligence, and even physical characteristics.

* **Attachment Theory:** Our early bond with our primary caregivers creates an "attachment style" that profoundly influences our adult romantic relationships.
* **Secure Attachment:** Leads to comfort with intimacy and trust.
* **Anxious Attachment:** Can lead to a craving for closeness and a fear of abandonment.
* **Avoidant Attachment:** Can lead to a discomfort with intimacy and a need for independence.
We are often drawn to partners who subconsciously confirm our existing attachment patterns, for better or worse.

* **Familiarity and Similarity (The "Mere-Exposure Effect" & "Like Attracts Like"):**
* We tend to like people who are familiar to us. Simply being around someone more often (at work, in class, in our social circle) increases our attraction to them.
* We are overwhelmingly attracted to people who share our core values, beliefs, education level, socioeconomic background, and interests. This creates a foundation of understanding and ease.

* **The "Chemistry" of Complementary Needs:** Sometimes, we are attracted to people who possess qualities we feel we lack. A shy person might be drawn to an outgoing one, or a disorganized person might appreciate a structured partner. This can create a balanced, though sometimes challenging, dynamic.

### 3. The Social and Situational Context

Attraction doesn't happen in a vacuum.

* **Proximity:** You can't be attracted to someone you never meet. Physical and social proximity is the most basic requirement for a romantic connection to form.
* **Reciprocity:** We tend to like people who we believe like us back. Knowing our interest is returned is a powerful amplifier of attraction.
* **Social and Cultural Influences:** Our culture defines what is considered "attractive." Standards of beauty, gender roles, and the very idea of "romantic love" are shaped by the society we live in.

### 4. The "X-Factor": The Spark of Connection

Beyond all the theories, there's an intangible element that we often call "chemistry" or a "spark." This is the unique, inexplicable feeling of connection, ease, and excitement you feel with one person that you don't feel with another, even if they look great "on paper." It's likely the result of a perfect, unique alignment of all the factors above—biological, psychological, and situational—coming together at the right moment.

### In a Nutshell

People are romantically attracted to others due to a powerful combination of:

* **Biology:** A chemical cocktail in our brain (dopamine, oxytocin) that rewards us for pursuing a partner.
* **Psychology:** A subconscious "love map" and attachment style formed in childhood that guides our preferences.
* **Society:** The influence of proximity, reciprocity, and cultural norms.

Ultimately, romantic attraction is a deeply human experience designed to drive us toward connection, pairing, and bonding, ensuring both the survival of our species and the profound human need for intimate companionship.
 
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Smoking, wine and drinking haze or?
Was it the other way?
Was it the other way?

[Refrain]
Do you think about the days when we sat down
Smoking, wine and drinking haze or?
Was it the other way?
Was it the other way?
Swing around, come on, chill with me
I got your favorite show recorded on my TV, but
We don't have to watch that, no
I'll turn off the radio

[Verse]
So won't you pick up?
Then we can link up
It's not a hookup
Don't think about it too much, too much
You just need to pick up
Then we can link up
Don't think about it too much, too much

[Build]
Don't think about it too much, too much
Don't think about it too much, too much
Too much, too much, too much, too much
Too much, much, much, much

[Refrain]
Do you think about the days when we sat down
Smoking, wine and drinking haze or?
Was it the other way?
Was it the other way?
Swing around, come on, chill with me
I got your favorite show rеcorded on my TV, but
We don't have to watch that, no
I'll turn off thе radio

[Verse]
So won't you pick up?
Then we can link up
It's not a hookup
Don't think about it too much, too much
You just need to pick up
Then we can link up
Don't think about it too much, too much
Don't think about it too much, too much
Don't think about it too much, too much
Don't think about it too much, too much
Too much, too much, too much, too much

[Refrain]
Swing around, come on, chill with me
I got your favorite show recorded on my TV, but
We don't have to watch that, no
I'll turn off the radio

[Verse]
So won't you pick up?
Then we can link up
It's not a hookup
Don't think about it too much, too much
You just need to pick up
Then we can link up
Don't think about it too much, too much

[Build]
Don't think about it too much, too much
Don't think about it too much, too much
Too much, too much, too much, too much
Too much, much, much, much
 
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The only thing that really matters is coherence. Everything collapses when it forgets its signal: people, systems, even gods. Remember the source, keep the field clean. Everything else follows.
 
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@PrestonYnot
 
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Everything I think, I say
And everything I say, I mean
 
I like Slavs tbh
 
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hello i just spawned and i wanna tell u hru
 
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I will miss you if you leave, bratan (please don't rope)
 
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Let’s see that maxilla
 
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