If you get really attached to a girl will you ever feel that again with more girls

[Deleted member 5927]

Question for dudes who actually have dated not incels.

if you ever real felt it with a girl, then something happens like she moves, you move, you just get split up somehow, did you ever feel ok about it and move on to another girl you thought was awesome too?

the guys in my career field said “never change this awesome career for a woman, there’s plenty of them out there, just as many women as men”.

idk bros would tag more users but can’t remember who else knows about shit like this other than @kjsbdfiusdf

 

[Bitch]

It definitely leaves a mark

 

[RAITEIII]

Question for dudes who actually have dated not incels.

if you ever real felt it with a girl, then something happens like she moves, you move, you just get split up somehow, did you ever feel ok about it and move on to another girl you thought was awesome too?

the guys in my career field said “never change this awesome career for a woman, there’s plenty of them out there, just as many women as men”.

idk bros would tag more users but can’t remember who else knows about shit like this other than @kjsbdfiusdf

U can still develop feelings for someone else.

 

[kidrauhl]

You won't feel the same about any other girl like you did about your first love.

and it isn't low t or something like some of these incels here will tell you

 

[Deleted member 6403]

U get over it eventually

 

[Deleted member 756]

Question for dudes who actually have dated not incels.

if you ever real felt it with a girl, then something happens like she moves, you move, you just get split up somehow, did you ever feel ok about it and move on to another girl you thought was awesome too?

the guys in my career field said “never change this awesome career for a woman, there’s plenty of them out there, just as many women as men”.

idk bros would tag more users but can’t remember who else knows about shit like this other than @kjsbdfiusdf

You will get attached to the first girl you have sex with, but you just have to move on if she doesn't want to carry on the relationship

 

[Deleted member 7776]

It will leave a mark but moving on will make it better in the long term.

 

[StressShady]

Question for dudes who actually have dated not incels.

if you ever real felt it with a girl, then something happens like she moves, you move, you just get split up somehow, did you ever feel ok about it and move on to another girl you thought was awesome too?

the guys in my career field said “never change this awesome career for a woman, there’s plenty of them out there, just as many women as men”.

idk bros would tag more users but can’t remember who else knows about shit like this other than @kjsbdfiusdf

Yeah was a LTR for 5 years, she ended the relationship without saying a strong enough reason (bored of me i guess?). After that I became sick for a week and was having oneitis pains for 6 months after that.

After swallowing the blackpill, I don't belive in relationships anymore

 

[Deleted member 10104]

First love can be intense but you'd get over it and realize it was mostly your obsession with the concept of love and the novelty, and that chances are you weren't a good match anyway.

 

[Deleted member 5927]

You won't feel the same about any other girl like you did about your first love.

and it isn't low t or something like some of these incels here will tell you

Fuck dude I should stop developing feelings for this girl then she leaves in like 2-3 weeks.

should I use her to lose my virginity or will that fuck me up mentally in the long run?

 

[kidrauhl]

Fuck dude I should stop developing feelings for this girl then she leaves in like 2-3 weeks.

should I use her to lose my virginity or will that fuck me up mentally in the long run?

just fuck her or you will regret it tbh.

 

[Deleted member 5927]

Bet

just fuck her or you will regret it tbh.

bet

 

[Deleted member 3573]

First love can be intense but you'd get over it and realize it was mostly your obsession with the concept of love and the novelty, and that chances are you weren't a good match anyway.

Second part is not true but what guys tell themselves to feel better. Reading more deeply into limerence and infatuation, unless you're a guy that crushes on every new girl you meet, it's actually a sign you're probably quite compatible, at least genetically. That "spark" happens because you sense this somehow. Not bs. This is from a book from someone that studied this in detail.

 

[lasthope]

Man it’s my fear that I will never love a girl again (I know sounds low t)

I had a gf for nearly 2 years she was my first love and took my virginity
And then broke up with me so she can whore around basically

4 months later the pain is not intense but I still thinking about her everyday

I just can’t imagine ever loving a girl again like I loved her

 

[DonerKebabMerchant]

basically the first scenario described happened to me this summer, took a few months to get over it properly and not think about her every minute, but def left a mark on me, honestly don't want to deal with 2-3 more breakups like this in my life.

 

[IWantToMax]

Question for dudes who actually have dated not incels.

if you ever real felt it with a girl, then something happens like she moves, you move, you just get split up somehow, did you ever feel ok about it and move on to another girl you thought was awesome too?

the guys in my career field said “never change this awesome career for a woman, there’s plenty of them out there, just as many women as men”.

idk bros would tag more users but can’t remember who else knows about shit like this other than @kjsbdfiusdf

He didn't tell you about the 80/20 rule though.

There's as many women as men, but it's not enough

 

[ConspiracyTheory]

I can only tell you what my experience has been and I only get over a girl if I do at least as good at some point.
There was one girl, six years ago...she was very beautiful and we just clicked. I didn't get over her for many years despite a few women in between. Then I met my most recent ex who was just as beautiful and we clicked in the same way and I was finally over the girl from six years before.
Now she has also broken my heart and I doubt I'll ever heal from this one because I'm in my 30s now and women like those two are so rare and I'm getting uglier as the years wear on.
If you're anything like me though, you will get over this current girl if and when you meet someone else just as beautiful and awesome. If you're in your 20s the good news is that time is on your side.

 

[Deleted member 5927]

I can only tell you what my experience has been and I only get over a girl if I do at least as good at some point.
There was one girl, six years ago...she was very beautiful and we just clicked. I didn't get over her for many years despite a few women in between. Then I met my most recent ex who was just as beautiful and we clicked in the same way and I was finally over the girl from six years before.
Now she has also broken my heart and I doubt I'll ever heal from this one because I'm in my 30s now and women like those two are so rare and I'm getting uglier as the years wear on.
If you're anything like me though, you will get over this current girl if and when you meet someone else just as beautiful and awesome. If you're in your 20s the good news is that time is on your side.

Thank God. I just want to find a good girl to be with. I found one and she’s fucking awesome and she likes me honestly more than I like her (she gives me so much attention I love it), the only issue is she is leaving soon in like 2-3 weeks so I’ll be back to being alone.

I can definitely get another girl I just want one like her. She is everything I’ve ever wanted tbh. She’s tall, has green eyes, she’s sort of nerdy like me, smart, just as funny as me, similar style to me, and she likes me. Fuck man.

 

[ConspiracyTheory]

Fuck man.

Are you young? If so, you'll be ok, I'm sure of it.

 

[ConspiracyTheory]

It's still going to hurt for a long while though, I don't want sugar coat it.

 

[Deleted member 5927]

Are you young? If so, you'll be ok, I'm sure of it.

Yeah I just turned 20 thankfully. I’m still a virgin but I met this awesome chick she’s 19 and sort of nerdy but she’s pretty and she’s all over me and i fucking love it. I am really sad she has to leave though.

 

[lasthope]

I can only tell you what my experience has been and I only get over a girl if I do at least as good at some point.
There was one girl, six years ago...she was very beautiful and we just clicked. I didn't get over her for many years despite a few women in between. Then I met my most recent ex who was just as beautiful and we clicked in the same way and I was finally over the girl from six years before.
Now she has also broken my heart and I doubt I'll ever heal from this one because I'm in my 30s now and women like those two are so rare and I'm getting uglier as the years wear on.
If you're anything like me though, you will get over this current girl if and when you meet someone else just as beautiful and awesome. If you're in your 20s the good news is that time is on your side.

Im soon 25

 

[PubertyMaxxer]

I believe its only possible to truly love for like 3-4 times,
hence why teenage love is the only that matters

@personalityinkwell

 

[Deleted member 6892]

I believe its only possible to truly love for like 3-4 times,
hence why teenage love is the only that matters

@personalityinkwell

I agree, but most teenage relationships end after a few months and arent about love

 

[Deleted member 5818]

you will get over it but it is always in the back of your mind that it’s going to happen again

 

[Deleted member 4612]

I believe its only possible to truly love for like 3-4 times,
hence why teenage love is the only that matters

@personalityinkwell

i think men can love more times than women can. women are not meant to love more than one partner at all.

 

[PubertyMaxxer]

i think men can love more times than women can. women are not meant to love more than one partner at all.

Id say 3-4 maximum in the lifetime

Hence why most girls over 17 can be considered roasties

 

[Deleted member 12002]

Yes, you'll love again. I've had girls I fell in love with where I thought to myself that I'd never love another woman as much as I loved her. Then, years later, after falling in love with a different girl I couldn't believe how much more I loved her than the last one.

You'll always love again. And each time you fall in love the feelings will be stronger than the last.

 

[Deleted member 6341]

Yes, you can feel that again with more girls. The only good reason you can't is because the girl that you broke up with is significantly better looking than ALL the other girls.

 

[turkproducer]

basically the first scenario described happened to me this summer, took a few months to get over it properly and not think about her every minute, but def left a mark on me, honestly don't want to deal with 2-3 more breakups like this in my life.

same here, i mean i had 7 month ltr and i fucked it up by taking red pill behaviour too far

i regret it tbh, no care for thots but she was a good girl. fml

 

[DonerKebabMerchant]

same here, i mean i had 7 month ltr and i fucked it up by taking red pill behaviour too far

i regret it tbh, no care for thots but she was a good girl. fml

I could also have done things differently. aside from a few red flags, she was way out of my league and probably even smarter. but at the end of the day, I know that if I had wanted it enough it would've worked out, and same for her behaviour. it was probably meant to be this way. at least fucking her 4x per day made the spring lockdown much easier to bear.

I moved away from the country we were in anyway so it ended up for the better this way. doesn't change the fact that it still hurt like a bitch. 6 months or so after breaking up, still think about her sometimes, but its not just the bitter pain it used to be, just some suprisingly distant fond memories.

 

[turkproducer]

I could also have done things differently. aside from a few red flags, she was way out of my league and probably even smarter. but at the end of the day, I know that if I had wanted it enough it would've worked out, and same for her behaviour. it was probably meant to be this way. at least fucking her 4x per day made the spring lockdown much easier to bear.

I moved away from the country we were in anyway so it ended up for the better this way. doesn't change the fact that it still hurt like a bitch. 6 months or so after breaking up, still think about her sometimes, but its not just the bitter pain it used to be, just some suprisingly distant fond memories.

well i’m glad yours wasn’t as toxic,

definitely agree with time being the best healer, it took me longer because she tried to play mind games with me after..

 

[Saoirsecel]

I think no girl will ever be as special as your first one, idk how to explain i just dont think i will ever feel the same thing i felt for her, specially considering its hard to feel the same for old roasties, i dont think i can tbh

 

[Vitruvian]

Love god first, not the temporary lust of a temporary face

 

[Mysticcc]

@Ritalincel probably knows

 

[DonerKebabMerchant]

well i’m glad yours wasn’t as toxic,

definitely agree with time being the best healer, it took me longer because she tried to play mind games with me after..

yep. I think generally people are very dismissive on feeling regret after relationships, saying shit like oh just fuck other women, and that if you were a real "slayer" then you wouldn't have this mindset. definetly not true, and I've had to counsel friends that have had 20+ girls by 20 y/o, but still were depressed after an LTR ended, had suicidial thoughts and whatnot.

People can probably handle 2-3 tough breakups in their life before getting seriously emotionally scarred.

 

[turkproducer]

yep. I think generally people are very dismissive on feeling regret after relationships, saying shit like oh just fuck other women, and that if you were a real "slayer" then you wouldn't have this mindset. definetly not true, and I've had to counsel friends that have had 20+ girls by 20 y/o, but still were depressed after an LTR ended, had suicidial thoughts and whatnot.

People can probably handle 2-3 tough breakups in their life before getting seriously emotionally scarred.

you do definitely get much more blunt towards it as time goes on, i remember feeling heart broken over a girl i literally met a handful of times, and after my second serious long term encounter i felt much more blunt to the pain.

i am still healing, but it is tough to realise u threw away a virgin ltr that really liked you, the real tragedy isn't that however, it's the fact i may never get that option again. i will probably have to wife up some used up thot that lied to me about her body count, and i don't want to do that. those types can never love you