I'm a slave

[HTNcutecel]

to my biology. I live on autopilot seeking comfort. Addiction to repetitive tasks that seek to tip the balance of my dopaminergic reward system towards the positive, yet only leave me wanting more.

I didn't evolve to live in this modern age, we're the product of the lives of our prehistoric ancestors. As such our behavior reflects what would be best fit for a primal environment.

With the emergence of an unprecedented increase in mental illness it is obvious humans aren't able to adapt fast enough to this environment. Hopefully by coming to a better understanding of the human condition and the psychology behind behavior, breaking free will be possible.

Breaking free as in adapting to perfection within this environment, given the mental fortitude to pursue anything in life without being held back. "muh just get a lean muscular physique and become a millionaire bro jfl it's not that easy," but it should be that easy.

Survival of the fittest. Genetic superiority is determined by the most adaptable organisms. Chads are, determined by reductive reasoning, to be the most fit.

schizo ramblings are the best way to cope

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@noodlelover

 

[noodlelover]

We didn't evolve for this environment but we did evolve to be extremely adaptative.

The idea that you need a girlfriend to be happy is a false one that has been instilled in you from culture.

When you don't get something for long enough cravings go away, unless you are manually creating them because you believe you should have them. This is true for sex, cuddling, and love.

By all means work towards these goals, just understand that you don't need them to be happy.

 

[HTNcutecel]

The idea that you need a girlfriend to be happy is a false one that has been instilled in you from culture

Very true, however there is some amount of nuance due to our biological imperative to bear children, and having a girlfriend (access to sex) makes our brain think it's fulfilling that imperative. It's a matter of culture, as well as deep seeded biology.

When you don't get something for long enough cravings go away, unless you are manually creating them because you believe you should have them. This is true for sex, cuddling, and love.

True, it can be so difficult to ignore desires up to that point though when it comes to things like social media or any other addiction.

you don't need them to be happy

You don't need anything to be happy. I've placed these expectations on myself. Like you said culture plays a role, and with my time spent with family and friends and the internet there's a clear outline given to success. I'm too ambitious for my own good.

Anyway good analysis you deserve a follow

 

[noodlelover]

Very true, however there is some amount of nuance due to our biological imperative to bear children, and having a girlfriend (access to sex) makes our brain think it's fulfilling that imperative. It's a matter of culture, as well as deep seeded biology.

I could be wrong, but I think the biological programming is simpler than that.

I think biologically we have cues, that trigger cravings.

For example:

• Perceived opportunity to talk to a woman we find attractive that finds us attractive, we crave talking to a woman
• perceived opportunity to cuddle with a woman we crave cuddling with a woman
• perceived opportunity to have sex with that woman we crave having sex with that woman
• No baby around after a couple years of having sex with that woman, we loose desire to have sex with her and crave having sex with a different woman, because our biology is telling us something is wrong and we can't produce a baby.
• If we have a child then we crave earning more resources and providing a life for that child, or maybe we crave impregnating a new woman.

So I don't think there's any long term fulfillment, only a program made up of individual cravings, and temporary rewards.

Because of our giant brains and cultural transmission of cultural viruses we can crave something that our instincts don't cause us to crave because we don't have the cue for that craving in our lives.

If there's no opportunity to talk to a woman that's attracted to us, that we're attracted to then we should crave power-seeking, status-seeking, safety-seeking, and/or resource-seeking.

We could full fill that through video games and movies or accruing real world wealth by building something. resource acquisition is a mate attracting behavior we see in some species of animals, so it makes sense that we have some cue and craving for it, that we might not be able to access when our culture is creating cravings in us, for a stage of the mate seeking sequence that we are not at.

Like, if we are not attractive enough for women to want to talk to us, it doesn't make sense for our biology to crave talking to a woman. Talking to a woman isn't going to change our SMV now, nor would it change our SMV if we were a low status male living tens of thousands of years ago in a tribe.

The only thing we would naturally crave in that scenario is status and resource acquisition. Creating/gathering/building more for the tribe, and only when our SMV is high enough to trigger attraction in women would we naturally crave talking to them.

It's like culture is reinforcing the status and self worth narrative of getting women, so we don't crave what we should crave (and also enjoy) which is building, having fun, learning to be funny, making money, and building social relationships (Whatever's available for us to increase our SMV in our environment).

I don't think humans are ever suppose to be sad for more than a couple days, I think we're always suppose to enjoy whatever stage of the SMV improving process we are at, or mate seeking process, or food gathering process, or whatever immediate process we are in.

True, it can be so difficult to ignore desires up to that point though when it comes to things like social media or any other addiction.

That's true, but we also learn a huge amount from social media. So, I think it's just about balancing it.

We do crave ideas and strategies that help us, including comedic and conversational strategies (entertainment), which we can get through media.

I'm finding my interest in social media may be reduced now that I've effectively learned everything, or nearly everything possible useful from it.

You don't need anything to be happy. I've placed these expectations on myself. Like you said culture plays a role, and with my time spent with family and friends and the internet there's a clear outline given to success. I'm too ambitious for my own good.

Anyway good analysis you deserve a follow

 

[HTNcutecel]

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I'll adapt this perspective to my worldview in congruence with my ideals