Xangsane
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After Iftar, my dad told me about how back in his country, girls who are friends with/are mutual with those who are well-off or connected with a Western ex-pat sometimes get invited to secret, drug-fuelled parties where they can get access to illegal alcohol they make themselves. Rampant sex and orgies are very common at such parties.
My father, who is conservative and took his clean lifestyle from home to the UK, has never been to such parties but one of his family members (who is also conservative) said he sometimes watches such loud, noisy, and annoying parties from the window of his home taking place, and gets information about such parties from his friends.
I felt nauseated and even wanted to cry because of what he told me. So far the girl I'm seeing and am in talks with to hopefully make my wife one day (she's from my dad's country of origin) is looking really promising but what if she's ever done things like this before, whether back home or at university?
Neither of us are even from even a remotely well-off background (I'm lower-middle class) but who knows if she's hiding something from me that she doesn't want to own up to? I feel so terrified.
She's so perfect, so cute and so sweet I really don't want to lose her.
With the exception of me losing my virginity at 23 and having sex just with one girl in my life (she cheated/betrayed me after giving me the illusion that she was everything I wanted, and I chose to split up with her only after two months because of her toxicity), I've lived a very clean, conservative life, free from pork, alcohol, drugs, and smoking. I'm currently repenting. I've been fasting every day so far this Ramadan.
Should I talk to her about these parties casually or should I just let it slip? Who knows if she did stuff like this in secret and is hiding it from her family, me and my family?
My father, who is conservative and took his clean lifestyle from home to the UK, has never been to such parties but one of his family members (who is also conservative) said he sometimes watches such loud, noisy, and annoying parties from the window of his home taking place, and gets information about such parties from his friends.
I felt nauseated and even wanted to cry because of what he told me. So far the girl I'm seeing and am in talks with to hopefully make my wife one day (she's from my dad's country of origin) is looking really promising but what if she's ever done things like this before, whether back home or at university?
Neither of us are even from even a remotely well-off background (I'm lower-middle class) but who knows if she's hiding something from me that she doesn't want to own up to? I feel so terrified.
She's so perfect, so cute and so sweet I really don't want to lose her.
With the exception of me losing my virginity at 23 and having sex just with one girl in my life (she cheated/betrayed me after giving me the illusion that she was everything I wanted, and I chose to split up with her only after two months because of her toxicity), I've lived a very clean, conservative life, free from pork, alcohol, drugs, and smoking. I'm currently repenting. I've been fasting every day so far this Ramadan.
Should I talk to her about these parties casually or should I just let it slip? Who knows if she did stuff like this in secret and is hiding it from her family, me and my family?
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