Inceldom is not the worst thing in the world.

[wojak]

Imagine being an incel, having not only the inability to attract a partner - but to also have abusive family members, causing you to become a mentalcel and the inability to make friends because of it.

I want to be loved. I'm a kind person. Why me?

 

[FiendFiend]

being incel is worse than being a kid in gaza

 

[Sceptical]

I want to be loved. I'm a kind person. Why me?

 

[crazyguy]

Imagine being an incel, having not only the inability to attract a partner - but to also have abusive family members, causing you to become a mentalcel and the inability to make friends because of it.

I want to be loved. I'm a kind person. Why me?

youre simply unlucky

 

[wojak]

being incel is worse than being a kid in gaza

I understand that there's a lot of evil in this world, but having only known what life is like from myself and from others around me, my happiness will be based on a level of what I can perceive to be good and bad. I can only imagine how bad it is for certain people, but I can't intrinsically feel it, so trying to grasp what some kid in gaza is going through is unfathomable and completely foreign to me.

Experiencing current emotional abuse, and trauma from past physical abuse from your caregivers really rocks the boat and having no support system means it's impossible to have any sense of self worth.

 

[FiendFiend]

I understand that there's a lot of evil in this world, but having only known what life is like from myself and from others around me, my happiness will be based on a level of what I can perceive to be good and bad. I can only imagine how bad it is for certain people, but I can't intrinsically feel it, so trying to grasp what some kid in gaza is going through is unfathomable and completely foreign to me.

Experiencing current emotional abuse, and trauma from past physical abuse from your caregivers really rocks the boat and having no support system means it's impossible to have any sense of self worth.

a kid in gaza has a loving massive family. Bro im part ukrainian trust me nigga being from a warzone is not as shit as people put it out to be. Your in it together with other people and mentally your in the same boat and its way less worse than being completely shut off like an incel who feels like he cant do shit or even show his face outside and has 0 social skills and is basicaly just lviing everyday indoors.

 

[wojak]

a kid in gaza has a loving massive family. Bro im part ukrainian trust me nigga being from a warzone is not as shit as people put it out to be. Your in it together with other people and mentally your in the same boat and its way less worse than being completely shut off like an incel who feels like he cant do shit or even show his face outside and has 0 social skills and is basicaly just lviing everyday indoors.

Yeah I agree. If I had to take everything I am, all of my negative thought patterns and poor mental health, and also add being in a war stricken country to that, of course that would be even worse but unfortunately I just can't empathise with anybody in situations like that, because I just cannot comprehend it at all. I have a Ukrainian friend who I haven't seen in over a year now, he was a cool dude.

 

[FiendFiend]

Yeah I agree. If I had to take everything I am, all of my negative thought patterns and poor mental health, and also add being in a war stricken country to that, of course that would be even worse but unfortunately I just can't empathise with anybody in situations like that, because I just cannot comprehend it at all. I have a Ukrainian friend who I haven't seen in over a year now, he was a cool dude.

yeah maybe if ur a soldier its fucking horrific, but if ur a civilian in either of those warzones shits not that bad, it ends probably in 1 or 2 years anyway, shit will be rebuilt like always, u were all in it together. Maybe the memories after will haunt u but in the moment its not bad at all.

Its like when u have been in a cold shower like 4 minutes in, u already got used it to it by then, humans can adapt so well easily in high stress envireonments if needed. Literally most lazy fat fuck ever if he is dropped off on a remote island will probbaly shred off the fat and find food eventually and survive.

 

[wojak]

yeah maybe if ur a soldier its fucking horrific, but if ur a civilian in either of those warzones shits not that bad, it ends probably in 1 or 2 years anyway, shit will be rebuilt like always, u were all in it together. Maybe the memories after will haunt u but in the moment its not bad at all.

Its like when u have been in a cold shower like 4 minutes in, u already got used it to it by then, humans can adapt so well easily in high stress envireonments if needed. Literally most lazy fat fuck ever if he is dropped off on a remote island will probbaly shred off the fat and find food eventually and survive.

Do you have any suggestions or tips on how to get over this feeling of low self worth? Do I need to just be a loud and obnoxious douchebag for people to react positively to me? Being quiet hasn't worked well at all - I just get bullied trolololol

 

[FiendFiend]

Do you have any suggestions or tips on how to get over this feeling of low self worth? Do I need to just be a loud and obnoxious douchebag for people to react positively to me? Being quiet hasn't worked well at all - I just get bullied trolololol

U get over this low feeling of self worth by ascending. Your either average or below average looking and may be above average normie iq so realise and pick up on social cues, no one fucks with u, no one hates u , no one likes u though so u just feel numb and worthless and that it wouldnt change if u existed or not.

Some chopped niggas like dabo get a kick off being called chopped and i genually feel like somehow its their personality to be the chopped nigga of the group.

Your only way out of this hell is ascending to HTN. Theres no point rotting ur brain with drugs or what the fuck ever. See what u need to fix via surgery or softmax and fix it all.

 

[Deleted member 127193]

Do you have any suggestions or tips on how to get over this feeling of low self worth? Do I need to just be a loud and obnoxious douchebag for people to react positively to me? Being quiet hasn't worked well at all - I just get bullied trolololol

I’m going to therapy soon despite it probably being cope. I’m so high inhib I cannot have meaningful relationships with anyone and I can typically count how many words I say each day; sometimes they are 0. Plan B is going to a psychiatrist and getting diagnosed to be put on goy slop pills to make life slightly more bearable. Just have some hope for the future (my hope is currently therapy).

 

[wojak]

I’m going to therapy soon despite it probably being cope. I’m so high inhib I cannot have meaningful relationships with anyone and I can typically count how many words I say each day; sometimes they are 0. Plan B is going to a psychiatrist and getting diagnosed to be put on goy slop pills to make life slightly more bearable. Just have some hope for the future (my hope is currently therapy).

Do you live with people / family who you think may be either abusive or just generally neglectful? I started therapy when I was 13 (I'm early 20's now) but I've ruled most of it out to being in a toxic environment. I think therapy would help with understanding why things are the way they are and it's nice to have a professional agree with you when you might second guess yourself.

I think if you're living at home, or just in the vicinity of toxic people, getting away could help. I'm going to college at the end of the month, which will be my first time living alone as throughout my childhood I've gone back and forth between parents' houses, with the pursuit of finding a nurturing environment which I could never find.

If you're in a similar situation to me and you're in a position where you can leave then maybe work toward doing that. If you're thinking about heading off to college maybe think about doing that. Godspeed.

 

[Deleted member 127193]

Do you live with people / family who you think may be either abusive or just generally neglectful? I started therapy when I was 13 (I'm early 20's now) but I've ruled most of it out to being in a toxic environment. I think therapy would help with understanding why things are the way they are and it's nice to have a professional agree with you when you might second guess yourself.

I think if you're living at home, or just in the vicinity of toxic people, getting away could help. I'm going to college at the end of the month, which will be my first time living alone as throughout my childhood I've gone back and forth between parents' houses, with the pursuit of finding a nurturing environment which I could never find.

If you're in a similar situation to me and you're in a position where you can leave then maybe work toward doing that. If you're thinking about heading off to college maybe think about doing that. Godspeed.

I’m fortunately living with chill parents that I don’t really talk to as much as parents and son should. I was diagnosed with GAD as an 11 year old and I was on SSRI’s and went to therapy. I did both of these things for about half a year (things did not get much better, but there was some slight improvement). Since then my anxiety has gone to the social aspect of my life. I’ve constantly been in a state of flight when I talk to people. My first day of college which was about 3 weeks ago, I was shaking so bad I couldn’t write my name on the paper assignment. That’s when I realized how neglectful I was of my mental health.

I’m 18 years old and I have no social ability neither do I have any self-esteem. The panic attack I had on my first day of college was really the slap in the face I needed to see that I need help and I don’t have any excuse not to reach out for help.

Life is tough and I wholeheartedly hope the best for you.

 

[wojak]

I’m fortunately living with chill parents that I don’t really talk to as much as parents and son should. I was diagnosed with GAD as an 11 year old and I was on SSRI’s and went to therapy. I did both of these things for about half a year (things did not get much better, but there was some slight improvement). Since then my anxiety has gone to the social aspect of my life. I’ve constantly been in a state of flight when I talk to people. My first day of college which was about 3 weeks ago, I was shaking so bad I couldn’t write my name on the paper assignment. That’s when I realized how neglectful I was of my mental health.

I’m 18 years old and I have no social ability neither do I have any self-esteem. The panic attack I had on my first day of college was really the slap in the face I needed to see that I need help and I don’t have any excuse not to reach out for help.

Life is tough and I wholeheartedly hope the best for you.

I'd suggest trying to be as involved in your parents life as possible. If you are able to expose yourself daily to even just a 2 minute lighthearted conversation consistently, it'll help you with talking to strangers. I suffer from social anxiety but as I'm getting older it's getting easier. It's just about consistently partaking in social situations and not avoiding it. It's like avoiding going to the gym but expecting to have big muscles, it's not realistic.

What's helped me is truly focusing on what the other person is saying and silencing the inner voice which critiques me. When people talk, the voice in my head is too loud and it drowns what the other person is saying so of course I'll be socially inept if i'm not listening.

We got this.