Instagram: It's over. I'm an outcast

[spirili]

I've been trying to make friends on insta for 1 year. I put a poll question in my story, and only 16 people voted in it, out of 200 people who saw it. I was just brutally ignored. Almost no one wants to talk to me. That means most of the people I've dm'd were being fake nice to me. My whole life I've been pigeonholed as an outcast, and I just can't change that. I've wasted so much time liking their posts, taking great pics, trying to make them laugh, etc. No more. Fuck everyone. I fucking hate people. Bunch of phonies. I'm so angry right now. This brings back so many old memories of being socially rejected. From now on, I'm only using IG as a way for me to brag to those assholes.


Also it's not a looks issue. There are utter subhumans with better IG status than me. I'm so confused by that. How can people just sense that I don't fit in? I can't figure out what it is about myself (whether online or irl) that gives away that I'm an outcast.

@6ft4 @Solar @MiroslavBulldosex @Barry @Amnesia

 

[5footsix56]

Go ER

 

[Deleted member 19174]

grown man trying to make friends nigga your life suck PENIS

PACK IT INNNNNNNNNNNNNNN

 

[thereallegend]

Buy courtside NBA seats and sit with the stars

 

[enchanted_elixir]

From now on, I'm only using IG as a way for me to brag to those assholes.

They don't care about outcasts bragging, and if they do, it's because they're phony.

 

[Deleted member 23218]

I've been trying to make friends on insta for 1 year. I put a poll question in my story, and only 16 people voted in it, out of 200 people who saw it. I was just brutally ignored. Almost no one wants to talk to me. That means most of the people I've dm'd were being fake nice to me. My whole life I've been pigeonholed as an outcast, and I just can't change that. I've wasted so much time liking their posts, taking great pics, trying to make them laugh, etc. No more. Fuck everyone. I fucking hate people. Bunch of phonies. I'm so angry right now. This brings back so many old memories of being socially rejected. From now on, I'm only using IG as a way for me to brag to those assholes.


Also it's not a looks issue. There are utter subhumans with better IG status than me. I'm so confused by that. How can people just sense that I don't fit in? I can't figure out what it is about myself (whether online or irl) that gives away that I'm an outcast.

@6ft4 @Solar @MiroslavBulldosex @Barry @Amnesia

What do you brag about

 

[ranierean]

You don't make friends past school or college lol

 

[Deleted member 15164]

yeah what is up with that? is it like a hardcore personality issue? There are niggas that don't have the greatest personalities yet people still like them.

 

[Deleted member 31072]

You don't make friends past school or college lol

tbh this has been my experience

 

[StuntmanMike]

yeah what is up with that? is it like a hardcore personality issue? There are niggas that don't have the greatest personalities yet people still like them.

Yeah.Some niggas are literally low iq subhuman piece of shits but somehow they got great insta(high followers and likes)

 

[Barry]

I've been trying to make friends on insta for 1 year. I put a poll question in my story, and only 16 people voted in it, out of 200 people who saw it. I was just brutally ignored. Almost no one wants to talk to me. That means most of the people I've dm'd were being fake nice to me. My whole life I've been pigeonholed as an outcast, and I just can't change that. I've wasted so much time liking their posts, taking great pics, trying to make them laugh, etc. No more. Fuck everyone. I fucking hate people. Bunch of phonies. I'm so angry right now. This brings back so many old memories of being socially rejected. From now on, I'm only using IG as a way for me to brag to those assholes.


Also it's not a looks issue. There are utter subhumans with better IG status than me. I'm so confused by that. How can people just sense that I don't fit in? I can't figure out what it is about myself (whether online or irl) that gives away that I'm an outcast.

@6ft4 @Solar @MiroslavBulldosex @Barry @Amnesia

Very hard to say what the issue is, and you're going to get a lot of low effort replies because this is a public forum.

The poll thing is a fucking distraction mate and it means nothing. I don't know if I've ever voted on a story poll and I was a fucking IG addict at one point. It means nothing.

I'd say right away though that the start of what's going wrong is what you're trying to do here - I guess based on your post you're trying to make friends cold with IG by having an IG profile and then DM them cold and try to get to know them socially.

Reframe that mate; you build the IG to have higher status so that people want to get to know you IRL. Take the rage you have and use that. All the negative emotions you feel about being an outcast, that's what you want to make them feel when they look at your profile. Doesn't matter if you're an outcast or a loser or ugly.

One guy I followed for a while was an ugly eastern euro manlet. I don't know what PSL rating he'd gotten but it would have been "it's fucking over" because this guy was so comically short in every photo he had on his IG, it looked like the photographer was taking the piss out of him and trying to get him to rope.

But he still had successful IG game because he made it look like he was a fucking drug dealer or some shit. I don't know what he did. Guy was borderline broke, it looked like. But still getting UK chav girls to hit him up because he went all out; had the ugly dog, champagne at the club, all that bullshit that makes girls go "OMG I wish I was out there getting something."

I get it; it's transactional, "chad can eat pizza and netflix and girls will want to fuck him"

If you think life is unfair, you have two choices.

one, you play the unfair game
two, you kill yourself

when you're a natural outsider, you have a certain game to play. i don't know how old you are, but if you're in your more than a teenager then being an outsider is probably your personality. you aren't going to be king jock captain of the team fucking the cheerleader. just accept it and play a different game. remember in this day and age, more than one guy gets to fuck the cheerleader.

With IG, you are trying to be one of those guys that fucks. there are guys with ripped bodies and no doubt they get girls (and guys) DMing them to fuck. i'm not one of them. There are guys doing the VIP nightclub thing. I'm not one of them either.


can't tell you what your angle is because I don't know you. But I can tell you that you need to find the reason you're going to be the guy that gets guys DMing him "sick bro how can I get what you have" and the girls DMing you "hey" because you watched their story.

Once you've found the reason, probably more than one reason, you make sure you have that shit in every fucking picture. every picture, reel, highlight and story says "this is why I'm fucking better than you and I'm out being awesome while you're sitting on the toilet being a fucking useless sack of shit."

that's the attitude that will get you IG success.

Now, you can and should have a DM outrech strategy, but based on your post you aren't there yet so focus on what I said above

 

[spirili]

The poll thing is a fucking distraction mate and it means nothing. I don't know if I've ever voted on a story poll and I was a fucking IG addict at one point. It means nothing.

No disrespect, but I strongly disagree. If the people who saw my story were my friends or wanted to be my friend, then they would have voted in my poll. But they just see me as some random online personality. They don't want to interact with me. One of my only real friends legit told me "If we weren't friends, I wouldn't have voted in your poll either."

I'd say right away though that the start of what's going wrong is what you're trying to do here - I guess based on your post you're trying to make friends cold with IG by having an IG profile and then DM them cold and try to get to know them socially.

Reframe that mate; you build the IG to have higher status so that people want to get to know you IRL. Take the rage you have and use that. All the negative emotions you feel about being an outcast, that's what you want to make them feel when they look at your profile. Doesn't matter if you're an outcast or a loser or ugly.

I've been trying to do both of these things. I've been trying to make my profile look very aesthetic and somewhat high class (upper middleclass is probably more accurate) with travel pics/videos saved as highlights. I can't post anything because I'll get no likes (that was the point of the poll question. Since it got very few responses, I can infer that I'll get no likes if I do post). I also throw in some funny memes occasionally to try not to seem like I take myself too seriously, in the hope that I would seem approachable.

Other guys I'm competing with on IG share very low effort stories about sports and other stuff that would never impress girls. Seriously, I rarely feel jealous when I look at their stories and posts. They're mostly just normies. But those guys are in the girls' social circles, so they have an advantage over me.

So yeah, I've been trying to make people jealous by showing a cool lifestyle, but it hasn't been working.

can't tell you what your angle is because I don't know you. But I can tell you that you need to find the reason you're going to be the guy that gets guys DMing him "sick bro how can I get what you have" and the girls DMing you "hey" because you watched their story.

Once you've found the reason, probably more than one reason, you make sure you have that shit in every fucking picture. every picture, reel, highlight and story says "this is why I'm fucking better than you and I'm out being awesome while you're sitting on the toilet being a fucking useless sack of shit."

Lol thanks for the laugh. Yeah like I said, I've been trying to do that. I think people mainly get jealous over guys who get all the girls. In that way, I'm obviously a failure. Another way is being rich and traveling a lot while the average schmuck is stuck grinding at work. I'm not there yet either, but I can LARP that. So basically, looks money status.




My strategy going forward is to just ignore everyone on IG from now on. I'm done liking posts and looking at stories. We're not friends. If people view my stories, it's because they're bored at home/school/work and I'm out having fun and taking interesting pics. I'm the prize. They're the fans. They're nothing to me now. That may sound egotistical, naïve, and dumb, but it's already happened with several girls. Eg. they ghost me, so I ignore them completely, and they still check my stories out of curiosity. This one nerdy chick rejected me, so I unfollowed her, and now she looks at literally every single pic and video I've ever shared on IG. It's like she's obsessed with me.