Is it even possible to become nt/socially skilled as someone who spent key years as an outcat?

[TeraCope54]

Tbh I don't think you can recover from being socially inept in teen years. Research shows some of your brain's regions are literally underdeveloped as a result of being a social outcast in your prime years. I read a bunch of books, from normie "how to build friends and influence people" to fat books on body language theory, plus waging in a supermarket (communication practice with customers) and I haven't moved a single bit. I'm still that same weird kid from school, absolutely zero sense of how to move around in a social world. Still zero friends. Still a khhv.

I'm completely defeated and demoralized. The secret to being an nt social butterfly that I was searching for for years doesn't exist. Now I fully believe that a man can never recover from being a social outcast in prime years, that shit literally changes your brain structure.

To be fair, not every non-nt is like me and you may have some hope because I'm a hard case. Last time I had a friend was 3rd grade elementary school, so for the majority of my elementary school and all of high school I never had a friend or hanged out with anyone ever. My family doesn't talk to me as well for years. This is probably why I can't "learn" social skills. It's something you live through, sometimes you develop with real life experience, you can't learn that shit from a book like I've been trying to.

Living while being non-nt + ugly is hell.

Well, back to waging tomorrow.

 

[Deleted member 6789]

Just talk to non nt gamer girls
If your gymmaxed and nt fashion maxed they will respect you

 

[Swolepenisman]

Drugs to rewire your brain tbh

 

[Gonthar]

Start from scratch, go work with kids, in a kindergarten, orphanage or something, and build your social skills from zero - play with them, talk to them, learn from them, etc.

 

[Deleted member 6785]

Start from scratch, go work with kids, in a kindergarten, orphanage or something, and build your social skills from zero - play with them, talk to them, learn from them, etc.

That’s fucking hardwork man lmao

 

[Deleted member 11221]

a couple months of jestermaxxing will transform you into a nt mogger, beware tho: there is NO social skills for your face or height

 

[Deleted member 9837]

Get a job as a cashier so you can interact with people use meetup and go to a new event daily, join your schools clubs and actively try to socialize and do drugs Like acid and shrooms weekly

 

[Matheus]

Trial by fire buddy, talking from experience. Only through pain and suffering do we evolve. Unless you're legit low functioning autist or something, get to meet-ups, talk to random people, idk, and persist.
Of course if you're ugly then sorry bro.

 

[TeraCope54]

Get a job as a cashier

I already do that. Months of communication practice made literally no difference. I have no idea why.

 

[Tusseleif]

Idk bro, I’m the same. Spent years of my teen life just sitting in my room playing games and texting no one. Now I’m a huge socially retarded aspie at 19, like a dead fish socially. I’m starting to give up cuz improving this shit feels almost impossible

 

[Deleted member 9837]

I already do that. Months of communication practice made literally no difference. I have no idea why.

Idk man works for most people who do it

try everything I told you and it doesn’t work out your neurotransmitters are fucked and sub 50th percentile

 

[Deleted member 4362]

No + this is why all the teencels that come here a retards

 

[Deleted member 11035]

Start from scratch, go work with kids, in a kindergarten, orphanage or something, and build your social skills from zero - play with them, talk to them, learn from them, etc.

This is honestly some of the best advice I've seen here. Volunteering at camps and orphanages can help you meet new people and also build your social skills. It also boosts your status as you seem like an honorable person who helps kids.

 

[lilhorizontal32]

Tbh sort of get what you are going through and my advice from having improved my social skills by a fair bit over the past few years, is to make a conscious effort to fill up your day with social interactions, whether that be through work, volunteering, the gym etc.

Just try and reduce the amount of time that you spend by yourself and you will hopefully pickup a lot of social behaviours subconsciously. Not saying you will be perfect, I'm still working on this myself, but it does help

Also seeing a psychologist and seeing what they have to say