Is it possible for a man to truly love his wife while cheating on her?

[JimmyDreamsOfZygos]

I’ve heard some people here say that it’s okay for a man to have a mistress and all that.

 

[AlexAP]

Yes, it's obvioulsy possible. But it's not worth if she finds out and divorce you.

 

[volcelfatcel]

Yes, it's obvioulsy possible. But it's not worth if she finds out and divorce you.

Men cheat because they lack sex or the woman gets fat. Women cheat because they are emotionally attached to a person

 

[AlexAP]

Men cheat because they lack sex or the woman gets fat. Women cheat because they are emotionally attached to a person

In studies I read the women who cheated said the major reason was that they weren't satisfied with their sex life.

Emotional reasons can play a role too, but I think it's mostly about lack of sexual satisfaction in the marriage for both genders.

 

[volcelfatcel]

In studies I read the women who cheated said the major reason was that they weren't satisfied with their sex life.

Emotional reasons can play a role too, but I think it's mostly about lack of sexual satisfaction in the marriage for both genders.

I wonder what is sexual satisfaction, is it that husbands tend to be passive in bed and boring?

 

[AlexAP]

I wonder what is sexual satisfaction, is it that husbands tend to be passive in bed and boring?

I think it is either the men getting out of shape or familiarity killing the excitement in the beginning of the relationship.

Here are some brutal stats. Women tend to generally lose interest in sex after a few years in a relationship, more than men.

The Bored Sex

Women, more than men, tend to feel stultified by long-term exclusivity—despite having been taught that they were designed for it.

www.theatlantic.com

"A 2012 study of 170 men and women aged 18 to 25 who were in relationships of up to nine years similarly found that women’s sexual desire, but not men’s, “was significantly and negatively predicted by relationship duration after controlling for age, relationship satisfaction, and sexual satisfaction.” Two oft-cited German longitudinal studies, published in 2002 and 2006, show female desire dropping dramatically over 90 months, while men’s holds relatively steady.

And a Finnish seven-year study of more than 2,100 women, published in 2016, revealed that women’s sexual desire varied depending on relationship status: Those in the same relationship over the study period reported less desire, arousal, and satisfaction."

 

[volcelfatcel]

I think it is either the men getting out of shape or familiarity killing the excitement in the beginning of the relationship.

Here are some brutal stats. Women tend to generally lose interest in sex after a few years in a relationship, more than men.

The Bored Sex

Women, more than men, tend to feel stultified by long-term exclusivity—despite having been taught that they were designed for it.

www.theatlantic.com

"A 2012 study of 170 men and women aged 18 to 25 who were in relationships of up to nine years similarly found that women’s sexual desire, but not men’s, “was significantly and negatively predicted by relationship duration after controlling for age, relationship satisfaction, and sexual satisfaction.” Two oft-cited German longitudinal studies, published in 2002 and 2006, show female desire dropping dramatically over 90 months, while men’s holds relatively steady.

And a Finnish seven-year study of more than 2,100 women, published in 2016, revealed that women’s sexual desire varied depending on relationship status: Those in the same relationship over the study period reported less desire, arousal, and satisfaction."

Weird how women want commitment from men but get bored when it's too safe or good? honestly blows my mind, I wonder if it's just lack of attraction and men becoming complacent with their looks or something, balding and getting fat are common things.

 

[AlexAP]

Weird how women want commitment from men but get bored when it's too safe or good? honestly blows my mind, I wonder if it's just lack of attraction and men becoming complacent with their looks or something, balding and getting fat are common things.

I think there are three possible reasons why women get bored:

1. The men got out of shape.
2. Women have a lower sex drive, so when the honeymoon phase is over, they just want it less, while men continue to want it.
3. Women are less prone to monogamy than men and want more variety.

1) is very likely true for older couples, but Idk if it's true for LTR in young people, as young men tend to stay in shape if they were in good shape at the beginning of the relationship.
2) could explain it. But I doubt if women really have a naturally lower sex drive (as I said in my thread about evopsych), they seem to actually desire sex the same as to beginning of the LTR, just not with the same partner.
3) would be sad, but would explain it best probably. They get bored of the same guy and want another. Most women stay for the social benefits of a LTR, but the lust is gone, while the man still wants it regularly.

Honestly, Idk what's the best explanation. LTR are a risk anyways I guess, that's life.

 

[JimmyDreamsOfZygos]

I think there are three possible reasons why women get bored:

1. The men got out of shape.
2. Women have a lower sex drive, so when the honeymoon phase is over, they just want it less, while men continue to want it.
3. Women are less prone to monogamy than men and want more variety.

1) is very likely true for older couples, but Idk if it's true for LTR in young people, as young men tend to stay in shape if they were in good shape at the beginning of the relationship.
2) could explain it. But I doubt if women really have a naturally lower sex drive (as I said in my thread about evopsych), they seem to actually desire sex the same as to beginning of the LTR, just not with the same partner.
3) would be sad, but would explain it best probably. They get bored of the same guy and want another. Most women stay for the social benefits of a LTR, but the lust is gone, while the man still wants it regularly.

Honestly, Idk what's the best explanation. LTR are a risk anyways I guess, that's life.

How to avoid this? Will I have to let my wife eat my ass to keep things interesting in the bedroom?

 

[AlexAP]

How to avoid this? Will I have to let my wife eat my ass to keep things interesting in the bedroom?

Idk how tbh. Trying new things can always help, also never having too much stress and having time enough for you two.

There are some couples who are together for 10+ years and say their sex life is as good as ever, so it's at least possible. But it maybe true that in some cases boredom can't be prevented, no matter what. It will always be a risk.

 

[volcelfatcel]

Idk how tbh. Trying new things can always help, also never having too much stress and having time enough for you two.

There are some couples who are together for 10+ years and say their sex life is as good as ever, so it's at least possible. But it maybe true that in some cases boredom can't be prevented, no matter what. It will always be a risk.

women are more adventurous in bed with men they like, easy way to see if she is attracted or not tbh