Is it possible to NTMax if you've been bullied a lot in school?

[TheDragon]

I hate the phrase 'Just be confident' and 'Just have a good personality'
Good personality doesn't mean shit if you're unattractive. Beauty and the beast isn't real life.
You can't be confident if you're unattractive. You'll either get ignored by everyone or get outright bullied for your confidence and because of negative reinforcement theory, you'll naturally stop being confident.

I've been bullied a bit when I was younger due to the fact because I was chubby and looked asian even though I'm hapa. 8th grade was the worst. I went to an all-boys school and more than 50% of the kids were jocks. Obviously I got bullied a lot by the obnoxious athletic kids. It was kind of a good thing since my parents transferred me to a school that wasn't all boys and it also prompted me to gymmax but the bullying destroyed my last bit of confidence made me socially awkward as fuck. It's been about two years since I've moved I've made no (lasting) friends at all because of my awkwardness. Not even male friends. I've had girls talk to me but I always fuck up the conversation making them not want to talk to me. The most that has happened was when a girl invited me to hang out and the entire time I never made her laugh and didn't even talk much except for boring shit using the 'social skills' I learned from my therapist. I haven't talked to her since because I'm too awkward and for the fact she hangs out with my crush. How tf are you supposed to 'be confident' when you've been ignored and outright bullied many times in your life?

 

[Matthias8272]

Drugs is all there is but you won't magically learn social skills ofc

 

[Deleted member 18917]

I hate the phrase 'Just be confident' and 'Just have a good personality'
Good personality doesn't mean shit if you're unattractive. Beauty and the beast isn't real life.
You can't be confident if you're unattractive. You'll either get ignored by everyone or get outright bullied for your confidence and because of negative reinforcement theory, you'll naturally stop being confident.

I've been bullied a bit when I was younger due to the fact because I was chubby and looked asian even though I'm hapa. 8th grade was the worst. I went to an all-boys school and more than 50% of the kids were jocks. Obviously I got bullied a lot by the obnoxious athletic kids. It was kind of a good thing since my parents transferred me to a school that wasn't all boys and it also prompted me to gymmax but the bullying destroyed my last bit of confidence made me socially awkward as fuck. It's been about two years since I've moved I've made no (lasting) friends at all because of my awkwardness. Not even male friends. I've had girls talk to me but I always fuck up the conversation making them not want to talk to me. The most that has happened was when a girl invited me to hang out and the entire time I never made her laugh and didn't even talk much except for boring shit using the 'social skills' I learned from my therapist. I haven't talked to her since because I'm too awkward and for the fact she hangs out with my crush. How tf are you supposed to 'be confident' when you've been ignored and outright bullied many times in your life?

you can. Despite what autists here tell you, unless if you have down syndrome or actual diagnosed autism, then you're fine and can become NT, or at least pretend to be NT.

 

[Deleted member 19036]

you can. Despite what autists here tell you, unless if you have down syndrome or actual diagnosed autism, then you're fine and can become NT, or at least pretend to be NT.

even autist can act close to an nt person. if ypu saying ldar cuz you non nt its a biiig cope

 

[Deleted member 18917]

even autist can act close to an nt person. if ypu saying ldar cuz you non nt its a biiig cope

true, but it probably gets annoying after a while, but you can still definitely do it.

 

[Deleted member 19036]

true, but it probably gets annoying after a while, but you can still definitely do it.

life is a bitch bruh, but i will not be loser

 

[Deleted member 18917]

life is a bitch bruh, but i will not be loser

good job, try be as NT as possible, only Chad can get away with non NT

 

[Deleted member 19036]

good job, try be as NT as possible, only Chad can get away with non NT

yeah based and true

 

[Deleted member 17525]

Talk to a therapist if you have an option. If not you'll have to figure out yourself. You can start by figuring out what are you insecure about exactly and is that insecurity even a valid thing or not