Is it wrong to lust after women who try to hit on you while having a gf?

[Jason Voorhees]

Title when you get in to a relationship you'll start getting attention from women/homewreckers who are trying to fuck you just to get back at your partner. I've spoken to many men who have experienced this aswell. Sometimes these women are objectively physically more attractive than your partner and biology doesn't just shut off because you signed a contract of exclusivity and guys have admitted to me that they had strong urges and also lusted after them in return but they never acted on those urges for the greater good. I've been guilty of this too and have been tempted to take the bait. Is it inherently "wrong" to feel that lust or lusted after these women as long as you never act on it? Or is the internal desire itself a betrayal of the relationship?

 

[Jason Voorhees]

@davidlaidisme67 @Daddy's Home @Swarthy Knight

 

[Petsmart]

it's automatic as long as it's just mirin no harm.

once niggas start creating AI deepfake porn it's wraps

 

[literallytaxidriver]

No

 

[incelincel]

It depends, but inherently it’s not wrong. Just minimize the time you spend lusting.

 

[shedontluv-U]

Nigga wanna flex his badge

 

[Jason Voorhees]

It depends, but inherently it’s not wrong. Just minimize the time you spend lusting.

Like I sometimes imagine myself having sex with that girl in my head and all but I never actually act on any of those urges.

 

[incelincel]

Like I sometimes imagine myself having sex with that girl in my head and all but I never actually act on any of those urges.

that’s probably in the grey zone. i would avoid that if i was you, but at least you’re not acting on them.

 

[VrillFatNoob24]

Title when you get in to a relationship you'll start getting attention from women/homewreckers who are trying to fuck you just to get back at your partner. I've spoken to many men who have experienced this aswell. Sometimes these women are objectively physically more attractive than your partner and biology doesn't just shut off because you signed a contract of exclusivity and guys have admitted to me that they had strong urges and also lusted after them in return but they never acted on those urges for the greater good. I've been guilty of this too. Is it inherently "wrong" to feel that lust or lusted after these women as long as you never act on it? Or is the internal desire itself a betrayal of the relationship?

3some

 

[Jason Voorhees]

that’s probably in the grey zone. i would avoid that if i was you, but at least you’re not acting on them.

Imo it's only a problem if it becomes a repeated thing with mental investment. My brain is just thinking about pussy in that instant nothing else

 

[Iblame2023]

it's automatic as long as it's just mirin no harm.

once niggas start creating AI deepfake porn it's wraps

That’s a big jump bro

 

[dhusc]

Title when you get in to a relationship you'll start getting attention from women/homewreckers who are trying to fuck you just to get back at your partner. I've spoken to many men who have experienced this aswell. Sometimes these women are objectively physically more attractive than your partner and biology doesn't just shut off because you signed a contract of exclusivity and guys have admitted to me that they had strong urges and also lusted after them in return but they never acted on those urges for the greater good. I've been guilty of this too. Is it inherently "wrong" to feel that lust or lusted after these women as long as you never act on it? Or is the internal desire itself a betrayal of the relationship?

you should cheat on your girlfriend

 

[Jason Voorhees]

you should cheat on your girlfriend

Never

 

[HtnceI]

No men are naturally conquerors, we fuck multiple women and spread our seed

 

[Frenulum]

cant people just stay at 1 girl

 

[Gaygymmaxx]

Title when you get in to a relationship you'll start getting attention from women/homewreckers who are trying to fuck you just to get back at your partner. I've spoken to many men who have experienced this aswell. Sometimes these women are objectively physically more attractive than your partner and biology doesn't just shut off because you signed a contract of exclusivity and guys have admitted to me that they had strong urges and also lusted after them in return but they never acted on those urges for the greater good. I've been guilty of this too. Is it inherently "wrong" to feel that lust or lusted after these women as long as you never act on it? Or is the internal desire itself a betrayal of the relationship?

Obviously it's fine to lust dude what the fuck

 

[Gaygymmaxx]

cant people just stay at 1 girl

I dont hate women enough to be devoid of empathy yea

Waaa waa they go for chad

So? I don't fuck ugly girls either, their standards are lower

The whole idea of cheating comes from the concept that they are hypergamous

They are supposed to be, it may anger you when you confront it, but hating them is giving them way too much power.

 

[Jason Voorhees]

Obviously it's fine to lust dude what the fuck

I feel terrible when I do that tho. My gf is fiercely Loyal to me. I would hate to break her heart but It happens on its own

Like I sometimes imagine myself having sex with that girl in my head and all but I never actually act on any of those urges.

 

[Gaygymmaxx]

I feel terrible when I do that tho. My gf is fiercely Loyal to me. I would hate to break her heart but It happens on its own

Yea my girl is too sweet to cheat on

But damn if I ain't tempted

 

[Jason Voorhees]

@mohito

 

[MediterraneanMoid]

Title when you get in to a relationship you'll start getting attention from women/homewreckers who are trying to fuck you just to get back at your partner. I've spoken to many men who have experienced this aswell. Sometimes these women are objectively physically more attractive than your partner and biology doesn't just shut off because you signed a contract of exclusivity and guys have admitted to me that they had strong urges and also lusted after them in return but they never acted on those urges for the greater good. I've been guilty of this too. Is it inherently "wrong" to feel that lust or lusted after these women as long as you never act on it? Or is the internal desire itself a betrayal of the relationship?

By grace or misfortune, Jason, my damn limbic system together with my frontal lobe have developed a certain discipline regarding this, which has allowed me to inhibit those thoughts to such an extent that they didn’t even resonate during the time I had a girlfriend. In other words, my brain was completely incapable of finding anyone attractive or having even the slightest inclination toward someone who wasn’t my partner at that time. (It does not happen now tho, since I'm not in "love" obviously)


Honestly, I think that if more people seem attractive to you and I repeat that this is just my personal opinion then perhaps not all of your attention is fully and absolutely focused on the areas that belong exclusively to your partner.


What I mean is that yes, you can appreciate beauty because it is objective and your brain works according to harmony. However, I think that under the real effects of love, your brain can surpass the barrier of being attracted to other people beyond simply recognizing objective beauty.


However, I do think that both she and you, if you cannot inhibit those thoughts like I can, should not say them out loud because it is in bad taste, at least while the other person is present. I believe that saying things like “that person attracts me” in front of your partner can be quite a painful stab simply that.


God bless you bro!

 

[MediterraneanMoid]

Like I sometimes imagine myself having sex with that girl in my head and all but I never actually act on any of those urges.

And thats why I feel this would be veryyy problematic
I would actually leave my gf (If i had one) if this happened to her tbh.

 

[mohito]

@mohito

The initial desire is inherently involuntary, like most primal instincts. It’s cruel t punish ppl for something outside their control

 

[Jason Voorhees]

And thats why I feel this would be veryyy problematic
I would actually leave my gf (If i had one) if this happened to her tbh.

No. I still love my gf very much. It's just that in the moment it's very hard to control these sexual thoughts i don't think about them afterwards or anything like that.

 

[MediterraneanMoid]

No. I still love my gf very much. It's just that in the moment it's very hard to control these sexual thoughts i don't think about them afterwards or anything like that.

I'm sure that if you learn how to control them thoughts like I did
You won't have that problem anymore
At least it worked for me

 

[Hess]

its just nature tbh, cant deny if a women is attractive and it is an ego boost to get hit on, knowing and admitting that doesnt make you a bad person when you dont act on it, I have a girl im very close with but it is an ego boost at times when im hit on but I wouldnt feed into it

 

[connive]

Title when you get in to a relationship you'll start getting attention from women/homewreckers who are trying to fuck you just to get back at your partner. I've spoken to many men who have experienced this aswell. Sometimes these women are objectively physically more attractive than your partner and biology doesn't just shut off because you signed a contract of exclusivity and guys have admitted to me that they had strong urges and also lusted after them in return but they never acted on those urges for the greater good. I've been guilty of this too and have been tempted to take the bait. Is it inherently "wrong" to feel that lust or lusted after these women as long as you never act on it? Or is the internal desire itself a betrayal of the relationship?

I’m not sure whether you’re religious or not. Just for context I spent two years studying to be a priest. As a Catholic it’s natural to be tempted by sin. Jesus was sinless, however the devil still tempted him in the desert. Therefore, being tempted by sin does not equate to actually committing a sin.

Now, if you are thinking about it all day and all the things you want to do this girl or gooning over her instagram pics, that would be considered sinful. As long as you’re not willfully dwelling on sexually immoral thoughts or other lustful sins you’re good.

Sorry if this was scatterbrained.. currently driving

Hope this helps as I think this is applicable no matter how religious you are

 

[Finnishmogger]

Title when you get in to a relationship you'll start getting attention from women/homewreckers who are trying to fuck you just to get back at your partner. I've spoken to many men who have experienced this aswell. Sometimes these women are objectively physically more attractive than your partner and biology doesn't just shut off because you signed a contract of exclusivity and guys have admitted to me that they had strong urges and also lusted after them in return but they never acted on those urges for the greater good. I've been guilty of this too and have been tempted to take the bait. Is it inherently "wrong" to feel that lust or lusted after these women as long as you never act on it? Or is the internal desire itself a betrayal of the relationship?

It’s primal and high t

 

[masai jumps enjoyer]

Title when you get in to a relationship you'll start getting attention from women/homewreckers who are trying to fuck you just to get back at your partner. I've spoken to many men who have experienced this aswell. Sometimes these women are objectively physically more attractive than your partner and biology doesn't just shut off because you signed a contract of exclusivity and guys have admitted to me that they had strong urges and also lusted after them in return but they never acted on those urges for the greater good. I've been guilty of this too and have been tempted to take the bait. Is it inherently "wrong" to feel that lust or lusted after these women as long as you never act on it? Or is the internal desire itself a betrayal of the relationship?

ive been saying this a lot lately, but loyalty in a relationship is always a conscious moral choice not a natural byproduct of feeling love/having a gf. In other words, if you make the choice to stay loyal despite the temptations, you are morally right. You cant go against biology in the domain of your inner biochemistry but you must fight the urges and not let this biochemistry to manifest into your actions if you want to retain your humanity, because after all you are able to control whether you act upon that uncontrollable biochemistry or not

 

[Daddy's Home]

As a general idea it is definitely wrong, because this happens either because your partner is not attractive enough and you are not satisfied with her, or she does not satisfy you emotionally/sexually enough

If my girlfriend were as attractive as I want her to be, not just some random decent girl who hit on me and I said yes just so I wouldn't be alone anymore, I personally would think about her 24/7 by default, about how to protect her, what else to do with her on a given day, about future plans together, about the next date and sexual experience, etc.

I wouldn't even come into contact with girls in general unless it's an extraordinary context, like relatives or colleagues at work, and even there I greatly limit contact of any kind, like I keep everything at a very superficial level, no matter how attractive the girl who would make advances to me is in such scenarios..

Like my brain by default would always tell me when I would talk to such an unknown girl ''Bro, you remember what kind of girl you have at home, wtf are you doing here, get the hell out''

 

[sonic55555]

women dont hit on men

 

[Gengar’s Ghost]

Title when you get in to a relationship you'll start getting attention from women/homewreckers who are trying to fuck you just to get back at your partner. I've spoken to many men who have experienced this aswell. Sometimes these women are objectively physically more attractive than your partner and biology doesn't just shut off because you signed a contract of exclusivity and guys have admitted to me that they had strong urges and also lusted after them in return but they never acted on those urges for the greater good. I've been guilty of this too and have been tempted to take the bait. Is it inherently "wrong" to feel that lust or lusted after these women as long as you never act on it? Or is the internal desire itself a betrayal of the relationship?

Nigga why the hell do you have a contributor badge

 

[Jason Voorhees]

Nigga why the hell do you have a contributor badge

Take one look through my thread history. All high quality and high effort threads

 

[shedontluv-U]

YES ITS WRONG

 

[shedontluv-U]

Take one look through my thread history. All high quality and high effort threads

Let me guess nan gave you contributor

 

[Jason Voorhees]

Let me guess nan gave you contributor

No.

 

[monkemasa]

definitely not wrong to acknowledge those feelings of lust, honestly depending on your stance w your relationship wouldn’t even say it’s wrong to entertain, if your all in onna ltr w ur main girl best save the headache, but if your in your prime or trying to find ur person still don’t let having a ball stop you from getting a better ball bro so many women only entertain men they know for a fact have motion w girls