Is this a good dating strategy?

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We have to come to terms that if we’re going to seek a long-term relationship or marriage, one way or another, we must show the woman our true self. Most women are too neurotypical, that you can’t keep a facade on for too long. I realize therefore the most rational decision for a successful long-term relationships, would be showing my true self, layer by layer. I recognize that I’m a peculiar person, given my obsessive interest in human psychology, politics, philosophy, etc. Therefore, I realize it’s in my interest to show the girl my nerdy tendencies in a socially acceptable manner, as she’ll be more willing to accept me later on. If she can’t accept fragments of my true self in the beginning, then I know she’s not the one. My plan is to show my nerdy tendencies through my good academic performance. I’ll show her that I’m a hard-working student, albeit I have a more laidback side. As more time passes and she knows me more, I’ll show more of my nerdy tendencies, given she has more exposure to fragments of it by then.
 
No that's incredibly naive. A relationship is an emotional bond and the main thing is that your long term gf/wife is attracted and addicted to you. The connection is built over time and there are various stages but some degree of fantasy is always needed, majorly so at the beginning. She doesn't want to know about your "nerdy tendencies" or your "true self", she just wants that emotional rollercoaster, she wants to feel good, to feel like she bagged a prize and her friends are jealous because she made it.
She doesn't have to accept you, she will never truly know the real you, she will only know the projection in her mind of what she thinks you are, based on her own reality. She might even hate some aspects of you but as long as there is pull, it does not matter
 

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