Its insane how bad my social anxiety was just one year ago...

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It was so bad I could not even go into a job interview without shaking or wanting to die. I was a Hikimori for 6 months last year in that 6 months every day my anxiety got worse. I kept thinking I needed to recover but thats a lie you can never get rid of anxiety without pain.

I've been working hard for the last few months I still feel anxious and I am kinda a weirdo but I can talk to people no problem. Just got an interview for a 20-30 an hour job and handled myself just fine. Last year if I had even left my room I would have felt so much anxiety. If you are hiding things can only get worse the opposite is true as well if you push yourself you can only get better.
 
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Exposure therapy is legit. Being around people 24/7 got rid of most of the anxiety. It took months of hells but I am now able to be in the room with other people without feeling bad.

Another thing that helps is exercising and cold showers. Doing these trains your brain that you can endure hard things.

I still have not recovered to pre Hikiamori days but I am 80% back to normal. 6 months of isolation really destroyed me I am glad I finally am getting back to normal
 
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I‘m proud of you
 
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Mogs me, I haven't had a friend or socialised since 15 and have now lost the ability to speak to others without sounding like an autist.
 
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Witheredly90 said:
Anxiety is such a bad trait. Only chad can get away with severe anxiety and still be popular.
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Chad can’t develope social anxiety, becaude all he gets is positive feedback from others and everyone treats him like a king.

You only get that as a symptom of severe traumas, in most cases you just have ptsd from getting treated like shit.

Nobody is born with social anxiety, it’s a defense mechanism
 
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SaintOverBuddyBoyo said:
Mogs me, I haven't had a friend or socialised since 15 and have now lost the ability to speak to others without sounding like an autist.
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You really do lose it over time. 6 months of being in my room fucked me a lot. I have always been somewhat isolated in middle school I would never talk I pretended I had a talking disorder to get out of speaking.

Whenever I become anxious or get knocked down by life my first instinct is to hide from the world and never speak to anyone. Just run away. But everytime I do that I become much worse in the long run.
 
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The Grinch said:
Chad can’t develope social anxiety, becaude all he gets is positive feedback from others and everyone treats him like a king.

You only get that as a symptom of severe traumas, in most cases you just have ptsd from getting treated like shit.

Nobody is born with social anxiety, it’s a defense mechanism
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Some good looking people actually do have it. But you are somewhat right if you are average or ugly no one would ever put up with it. You have to force yourself to be social no one feels sorry for you at all. Chad can get away with being weird and talking less. If you are a normal person and act shy and distant people will just not be your friend.
 
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Mogs me, I haven't had a friend or socialised since 15 and have now lost the ability to speak to others without sounding like an autist.
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You are literally me (weirdo)
 
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Witheredly90 said:
It was so bad I could not even go into a job interview without shaking or wanting to die. I was a Hikimori for 6 months last year in that 6 months every day my anxiety got worse. I kept thinking I needed to recover but thats a lie you can never get rid of anxiety without pain.

I've been working hard for the last few months I still feel anxious and I am kinda a weirdo but I can talk to people no problem. Just got an interview for a 20-30 an hour job and handled myself just fine. Last year if I had even left my room I would have felt so much anxiety. If you are hiding things can only get worse the opposite is true as well if you push yourself you can only get better.
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i hope you lose your job and go back to being depressed
 
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The Grinch said:
Chad can’t develope social anxiety, becaude all he gets is positive feedback from others and everyone treats him like a king.

You only get that as a symptom of severe traumas, in most cases you just have ptsd from getting treated like shit.

Nobody is born with social anxiety, it’s a defense mechanism
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Muh chad
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FailedNormieManlet said:
i hope you lose your job and go back to being depressed
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Its the people that have suffered the most that do the most evil. Why would you want me to suffer more I will just become a worse person.
 
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Witheredly90 said:
Its the people that have suffered the most that do the most evil. Why would you want me to suffer more I will just become a worse person.
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shut up idiot
 
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"anxiety"
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Witheredly90 said:
Exposure therapy is legit. Being around people 24/7 got rid of most of the anxiety. It took months of hells but I am now able to be in the room with other people without feeling bad.

Another thing that helps is exercising and cold showers. Doing these trains your brain that you can endure hard things.

I still have not recovered to pre Hikiamori days but I am 80% back to normal. 6 months of isolation really destroyed me I am glad I finally am getting back to normal
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This 100%. 2 years ago only thing I did was hide in my room. My eyes would tear up a bit when walking past others since I felt like human trash compared to others. But now I have no problem flirting on tinder, or I'm not scared of meeting these girls IRL. It takes time, but you will end up loving it, and looking forward to do these things. Giving your life a purpose.
 
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gen z
 
Entschuldigung said:
Anxiety is for fags and women
Never say this shit irl
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It is real. Its as real as the terror you feel falling off a cliff. Perception is everything and the brain is not a smart free thinking agent. The anxiety you get from a social setting today might have been life and death in the past.

Feeling lonely or socially anxious in the past was the bodies warning system that you were going to be left behind. If you were isolated and thrown out of a tribe it meant certain death. Your brain comprehends loneliness as you being close to death.

But you also can't be a pussy about it no matter how bad it is you need to understand its your brain tricking you and push through it
 
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crookedswine said:
This 100%. 2 years ago only thing I did was hide in my room. My eyes would tear up a bit when walking past others since I felt like human trash compared to others. But now I have no problem flirting on tinder, or I'm not scared of meeting these girls IRL. It takes time, but you will end up loving it, and looking forward to do these things. Giving your life a purpose.
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How did you do it
 
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What do you want weirdo
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What the fuck did you just fucking say about me, you little bitch? I will wipe you the fuck out with precision the likes of which has never been seen before on this Earth, mark my fucking words. You think you can get away with saying that shit to me over the Internet? Think again, fucker. As we speak I am contacting my secret network of spies across the USA and your IP is being traced right now so you better prepare for the storm, maggot. The storm that wipes out the pathetic little thing you call your life. You're fucking dead, kid. I can be anywhere, anytime, and I can kill you in over seven hundred ways, and that's just with my bare hands. Not only am I extensively trained in unarmed combat, but I have access to the entire arsenal of the United States Marine Corps and I will use it to its full extent to wipe your miserable ass off the face of the continent, you little shit. If only you could have known what unholy retribution your little "clever" comment was about to bring down upon you, maybe you would have held your fucking tongue. But you couldn't, you didn't, and now you're paying the price, you goddamn idiot. I will shit fury all over you and you will drown in it. You're fucking dead, kiddo.
 
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What the fuck did you just fucking say about me, you little bitch? I will wipe you the fuck out with precision the likes of which has never been seen before on this Earth, mark my fucking words. You think you can get away with saying that shit to me over the Internet? Think again, fucker. As we speak I am contacting my secret network of spies across the USA and your IP is being traced right now so you better prepare for the storm, maggot. The storm that wipes out the pathetic little thing you call your life. You're fucking dead, kid. I can be anywhere, anytime, and I can kill you in over seven hundred ways, and that's just with my bare hands. Not only am I extensively trained in unarmed combat, but I have access to the entire arsenal of the United States Marine Corps and I will use it to its full extent to wipe your miserable ass off the face of the continent, you little shit. If only you could have known what unholy retribution your little "clever" comment was about to bring down upon you, maybe you would have held your fucking tongue. But you couldn't, you didn't, and now you're paying the price, you goddamn idiot. I will shit fury all over you and you will drown in it. You're fucking dead, kiddo.
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tf you writing essays for
 
crookedswine said:
This 100%. 2 years ago only thing I did was hide in my room. My eyes would tear up a bit when walking past others since I felt like human trash compared to others. But now I have no problem flirting on tinder, or I'm not scared of meeting these girls IRL. It takes time, but you will end up loving it, and looking forward to do these things. Giving your life a purpose.
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Even if you always have the anxiety there is a limit to how stressful things can be. I think I will always have the urge to be a neet again.

But if you do stressful things daily you get better at being disciplined. You can do things even if you hate them 50% of the time so long as you have discipline. You just have to keep doing difficult things
 
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Even if you always have the anxiety there is a limit to how stressful things can be. I think I will always have the urge to be a neet again.

But if you do stressful things daily you get better at being disciplined. You can do things even if you hate them 50% of the time so long as you have discipline. You just have to keep doing difficult things
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What stressful thing you do daily?
 
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LESSER BEING said:
How did you do it
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I started to do bodyweight exercises for 1.5 years, and now I have been to the gym for 7 months. I leanmaxed and I feel confident about my looks. That should be the first step.

Meanwhile doing these, i was on anonymous forums and just started private messaging people. It became a lot easier, and now I don't feel any anxiety doing that.

After these, I went to some kind of therapy, so I could talk to someone about my issues of loneliness. It really helps and it's not a meme.

Then I made a tinder and been just hitting these chicks up, and got to talk to my aged women for the first time. It's not that bad if you do the steps i layd out before. I also started to contact my 1 online friend which I never saw IRL, but now I have a good bond with him ans we do some stuff IRL, making me less socially inept.

TLDR: gymmax, then leanmax. Start talking to people 1 on 1 on online forums(not on this, since people are weirdos). The make a tinder, or just start approuching women somehow. Send messages to your online friends, ask them to meet up.
 
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LESSER BEING said:
What stressful thing you do daily?
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Well going to my job used to be stressful now its at the point where I do not feel stress. Cold showers the gym doing HW.

It depends how fucked you are man. When I started going outside for a walk was stressful so I just forced myself to go outside 1 hour a day. I don't think a normal person would feel anxious seeing people outside or leaving their room but I was. So I just made sure everyday I would either drive somewhere public or walk around in public. After a month of doing that I had the confidence to interview somewhere. And then my job was stressful but I got used to that too

Think of it like lifting weights do progressive overload over a long time span. Easiest way is a job because you are forced to do it but anything works.
 
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crookedswine said:
I started to do bodyweight exercises for 1.5 years, and now I have been to the gym for 7 months. I leanmaxed and I feel confident about my looks. That should be the first step.

Meanwhile doing these, i was on anonymous forums and just started private messaging people. It became a lot easier, and now I don't feel any anxiety doing that.

After these, I went to some kind of therapy, so I could talk to someone with my issues of loneliness. It really helps and it's not a meme.

Then I made a tinder and been just hitting these chicks up, and got to talk to my aged women for the first time. It's not that bad if you do the steps i layd out before. I also started to contact my 1 online friend which I never saw IRL, but now I have a good bond with him ans we do some stuff IRL, making me less socially inept.

TLDR: gymmax, then leanmax. Start talking to people 1 on 1 on online forums(not on this, since people are weirdos). The make a tinder, or just start approuching women somehow. Send messages to your online friends, ask them to meet up.
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Could try but I would just give up tomorrow
 
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LESSER BEING said:
Could try but I would just give up tomorrow
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Starting is the hardest. I only started this because I failed a suicide attempt when I was at my lowest. So I wanted to do anything to feel better. There were some stops, ups and downs, but I was still progressing.

But the journey is worth it. I feel good now.
 
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crookedswine said:
Starting is the hardest. I only started this because I failed a suicide attempt when I was at my lowest. So I wanted to do anything to feel better. There were some stops, ups and downs, but I was still progressing.

But the journey is worth it. I feel good now.
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How did you fail?
 
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