It’s so hard to be NT when you feel like shit

[New Poster]

Some days I just wake up feeling shitty and I can’t muster the energy for nt. So much of ntness is just letting others have their way, not taking yourself too seriously, and expressing yourself without any need for validation. When you’re low dopamine, you don’t want to do any of this shit. Every little thing anyone does pisses you off and you don’t want to bother unless you’re getting insane validation back. Most days I feel fine and my life objectively is amazing, so nt generally comes easy to me. But some days, it’s a fucking struggle.

 

[DirtyBlonde]

NTs and foids romanticize it when they like shit. I'd say try it but it's too cringe for .org mfs including me.

 

[New Poster]

NTs and foids romanticize it when they like shit. I'd say try it but it's too cringe for .org mfs including me.

It’s not about liking or hating shit. It’s about the ability to tolerate shit you don’t like in interactions. I honestly think this is why people report better social interactions on nofap. If you haven’t busted in a while, you’re probably in an elevated mood that makes you more resilient to stupid bullshit. When your nerves are shot, everything pisses you off.

 

[DirtyBlonde]

It’s not about liking or hating shit. It’s about the ability to tolerate shit you don’t like in interactions. I honestly think this is why people report better social interactions on nofap. If you haven’t busted in a while, you’re probably in an elevated mood that makes you more resilient to stupid bullshit. When your nerves are shot, everything pisses you off.

truth nuke

 

[They_are_all_whores]

Some days I just wake up feeling shitty and I can’t muster the energy for nt. So much of ntness is just letting others have their way, not taking yourself too seriously, and expressing yourself without any need for validation. When you’re low dopamine, you don’t want to do any of this shit. Every little thing anyone does pisses you off and you don’t want to bother unless you’re getting insane validation back. Most days I feel fine and my life objectively is amazing, so nt generally comes easy to me. But some days, it’s a fucking struggle.

Healthmaxx,take a few compounds sleep well and eat well,and obiv be 15bf,might help ur mental health tbh

 

[New Poster]

Healthmaxx,take a few compounds sleep well and eat well,and obiv be 15bf,might help ur mental health tbh

I’m not sure if there’s some natural way to fix this, but it’s definitely physiological

 

[They_are_all_whores]

I’m not sure if there’s some natural way to fix this, but it’s definitely physiological

Try healthmaxxing it worked for mental health

U won't become a Chad tho

 

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My life

 

[FunkyFlamingo]

Some days I just wake up feeling shitty and I can’t muster the energy for nt. So much of ntness is just letting others have their way, not taking yourself too seriously, and expressing yourself without any need for validation. When you’re low dopamine, you don’t want to do any of this shit. Every little thing anyone does pisses you off and you don’t want to bother unless you’re getting insane validation back. Most days I feel fine and my life objectively is amazing, so nt generally comes easy to me. But some days, it’s a fucking struggle.

dnr

 

[New Poster]

My life

Most looksmaxers are just miserable twats

 

[STAMPEDE]

Feeling less happy than someone else, is sadly, genetic as well. Happiness is genetics, some people are just happier overall, experience more dopamine and serotonin than someone else who could even have a better life quality but still feel worse than someone with a worse life quality just because of different brains/different seronin/dopamine levels on the brain. This is the most brutal pill to swallow, 99% of things in life are simply genetics. Even happiness.

 

[jockidc120610]

Some days I just wake up feeling shitty and I can’t muster the energy for nt. So much of ntness is just letting others have their way, not taking yourself too seriously, and expressing yourself without any need for validation. When you’re low dopamine, you don’t want to do any of this shit. Every little thing anyone does pisses you off and you don’t want to bother unless you’re getting insane validation back. Most days I feel fine and my life objectively is amazing, so nt generally comes easy to me. But some days, it’s a fucking struggle.

average day when hormons are shifting like fuck,puberty,period,deriod,pregnancy

 

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Most looksmaxers are just miserable twats

Water

 

[New Poster]

Feeling less happy than someone else, is sadly, genetic as well. Happiness is genetics, some people are just happier overall, experience more dopamine and serotonin than someone else who could even have a better life quality but still feel worse than someone with a worse life quality just because of different brains/different seronin/dopamine levels on the brain. This is the most brutal pill to swallow, 99% of things in life are simply genetics. Even happiness.

Probably. I’m normally fine, but like 10% of the time I feel incel-levels of non-ntness

 

[MoggerGaston]

You can always force NT with cocaine or mephedrone though during those low-points where you still really want to perform.

But I mean feeling good 90% of the time, ur doing good man. mirin' hard.

its the other way around for me, 90% feeling shit, 10% feeling good, but still it's very relatable how socializing for me usually feels like total shit, but then when you feel good it comes so easy and natural.

It makes me feel like social-skills are largely just a meme. If I feel like shit, I have 'shit social-skills', but if I feel good they are good.
So then are they really a 'skill' or just your vibe.

 

[New Poster]

It makes me feel like social-skills are largely just a meme. If I feel like shit, I have 'shit social-skills', but if I feel good they are good.
So then are they really a 'skill' or just your vibe.

It’s like 60% vibe, 20% sense of humor, 20% having experiences to talk about

 

[MoggerGaston]

It’s like 60% vibe, 20% sense of humor, 20% having experiences to talk about

True, that 60% is basically like a constant in every possible social-interaction.

I agree with both your 20% humor and 20% story-telling assessment.
So you have a good vibe, and now you have humor and story-telling to share that vibe.

But honestly the problem I feel with looking at it this way is that it lacks authenticity and emotional connection. You don't do that with humor or story-telling.
You do that with sharing how you see things, feel about things, etc. You share your own preferences, what you like and dislike. Share passions.

I would say 60% vibe, 10% sense of humor, 10% having past-experiences to talk about, 20% being able to engage others in what you feel/think in the present.
I think the latter is important to form meaningfull connection, which should be an important goal of social-interaction.

 

[New Poster]

True, that 60% is basically like a constant in every possible social-interaction.

I agree with both your 20% humor and 20% story-telling assessment.
So you have a good vibe, and now you have humor and story-telling to share that vibe.

But honestly the problem I feel with looking at it this way is that it lacks authenticity and emotional connection. You don't do that with humor or story-telling.
You do that with sharing how you see things, feel about things, etc. You share your own preferences, what you like and dislike. Share passions.

I would say 60% vibe, 10% sense of humor, 10% having past-experiences to talk about, 20% being able to engage others in what you feel/think in the present.
I think the latter is important to form meaningfull connection, which should be an important goal of social-interaction.

Making a connection might matter inside friendships and close connections, but most interactions are surface level. It’s mostly about showing off and people only want to make connections with those who show off well.

 

[Elias144]

MAOIs bro. I feel like it made me NT nearly overnight. It at least got rid of that sluggish, "why bother" kind of feeling that makes being NT seem impossible. But, if you're only experiencing it 10% of the time, maybe just learn to live with it. I was experiencing it basically 100% of the time and it was making my life extremely miserable.