I've developed a cold approach system for guys with no social circle

[vinn98]

I've spent time pondering over the pros and cons of options for a single guy with no social circle to cold approach. First of all I realized that online dating is not worthwhile. The average guy gets one or two matches per week, and even when he gets matches the vast majority will not agree to meet up. At that rate he could expect a date once every few months, which is abysmal. I'm not saying to delete those apps, but you can't place all your eggs in one basket.

For a guy with no social circle game the only other option is cold approaching. Approaching in the daytime is awkward though and can easily make you seem like a creep. Day game is for hyper-neurotypical guys only, not those with aspie traits and social anxiety.

It's obvious the most NT normal place to cold approach is bars and clubs. However I want the avoid the drawbacks that go along with it. I don't want to drink a lot of alcohol dealing with hangovers and spending money on overpriced drinks. I also don't want to spend hours in a club monkeying around because it's too much effort and time investment in a place I don't feel comfortable. Another downside of alcohol is that it gives you beer goggles and you end up with a woman you have zero attraction to while sober.

So the routine I've devised to streamline the process is to go out three nights per week, and cold approach three attractive women per night. It does include alcohol, but only in moderation of 2 beers per night. You will take one beer with you and drink it outside the club. If you're leanmaxing one drink is enough to make you tipsy and lower your inhibition. Then walk into the club and go straight to the bar, order another beer. The reason I advise going straight to the bar is so that you're not feeling awkward and lost since you're alone, but waiting at the bar to order a drink looks NT. While waiting to order your beer and then sipping it you can cold approach one girl. Just a simple "Hey, how's it going?". You don't need elaborate pickup lines, all you need is to confidently and casually initiate and if she looks at you and likes your face she will reciprocate. Saying the same thing every time also prevents the stress of thinking what should I say.

Ok so now you've been rejected by the first girl. Slowly stroll through the club with the drink in your hand, while looking around to make it seem you're looking for someone. When you pass another attractive woman you say "Hey how's it going?". Boom rejected. Now finish one more lap around and get rejected the third time.

That's it. Now you can go home and sleep. The goal is to get rejected asap so you can be in and out of the club within 20 minutes. This also requires a shift in mindset, view the rejections as a success since you've completed your task like finishing sets at the gym. You'll be cold approaching nearly 40 women per month doing this routine, and even if your rejection rate is 99% it would take a few months to get an attractive girlfriend. It's an extremely minor time, effort and money investment for the potential payoff.

 

[FacialStructure404]

cope

 

[vinn98]

cope

The real cope is that you're scared. If you won't take action then you prefer to remain incel for the rest of your life.

 

[FacialStructure404]

that’s a legit strat though

 

[Gerardwayfan]

I've spent time pondering over the pros and cons of options for a single guy with no social circle to cold approach. First of all I realized that online dating is not worthwhile. The average guy gets one or two matches per week, and even when he gets matches the vast majority will not agree to meet up. At that rate he could expect a date once every few months, which is abysmal. I'm not saying to delete those apps, but you can't place all your eggs in one basket.

For a guy with no social circle game the only other option is cold approaching. Approaching in the daytime is awkward though and can easily make you seem like a creep. Day game is for hyper-neurotypical guys only, not those with aspie traits and social anxiety.

It's obvious the most NT normal place to cold approach is bars and clubs. However I want the avoid the drawbacks that go along with it. I don't want to drink a lot of alcohol dealing with hangovers and spending money on overpriced drinks. I also don't want to spend hours in a club monkeying around because it's too much effort and time investment in a place I don't feel comfortable. Another downside of alcohol is that it gives you beer goggles and you end up with a woman you have zero attraction to while sober.

So the routine I've devised to streamline the process is to go out three nights per week, and cold approach three attractive women per night. It does include alcohol, but only in moderation of 2 beers per night. You will take one beer with you and drink it outside the club. If you're leanmaxing one drink is enough to make you tipsy and lower your inhibition. Then walk into the club and go straight to the bar, order another beer. The reason I advise going straight to the bar is so that you're not feeling awkward and lost since you're alone, but waiting at the bar to order a drink looks NT. While waiting to order your beer and then sipping it you can cold approach one girl. Just a simple "Hey, how's it going?". You don't need elaborate pickup lines, all you need is to confidently and casually initiate and if she looks at you and likes your face she will reciprocate. Saying the same thing every time also prevents the stress of thinking what should I say.

Ok so now you've been rejected by the first girl. Slowly stroll through the club with the drink in your hand, while looking around to make it seem you're looking for someone. When you pass another attractive woman you say "Hey how's it going?". Boom rejected. Now finish one more lap around and get rejected the third time.

That's it. Now you can go home and sleep. The goal is to get rejected asap so you can be in and out of the club within 20 minutes. This also requires a shift in mindset, view the rejections as a success since you've completed your task like finishing sets at the gym. You'll be cold approaching nearly 40 women per month doing this routine, and even if your rejection rate is 99% it would take a few months to get an attractive girlfriend. It's an extremely minor time, effort and money investment for the potential payoff.

I did this stuff with a friend at my city centre without having to pay for drinka, hitting uo tourists and stuff. We met and chatted with two.girls but our SMV was too low for sex and kisses, got ghosted on ig the day later.
Im too lazy to do this shit as a 4/10 max, id rather smoke myself to.oblovion in a park.

But this is a good advice, also it gets you on your feet and if yoire leanmaxing youll burn kcalories walking around instead of rotring in ur room

 

[vinn98]

I did this stuff with a friend at my city centre without having to pay for drinka, hitting uo tourists and stuff. We met and chatted with two.girls but our SMV was too low for sex and kisses, got ghosted on ig the day later.
Im too lazy to do this shit as a 4/10 max, id rather smoke myself to.oblovion in a park.

But this is a good advice, also it gets you on your feet and if yoire leanmaxing youll burn kcalories walking around instead of rotring in ur room

It all depends on how much you want it. I forgot to mention it should be combined with nofap, because that will be a huge physical motivator. If a guy is watching porn every day he's not going to feel the drive to go out and cold approach.

 

[hello12344]

This is legit if you have another dude to run duos with. Frame and height are law in bars tho so def liftmaxx if 5’9 manlet like me

 

[6PSLcel]

I've spent time pondering over the pros and cons of options for a single guy with no social circle to cold approach. First of all I realized that online dating is not worthwhile. The average guy gets one or two matches per week, and even when he gets matches the vast majority will not agree to meet up. At that rate he could expect a date once every few months, which is abysmal. I'm not saying to delete those apps, but you can't place all your eggs in one basket.

For a guy with no social circle game the only other option is cold approaching. Approaching in the daytime is awkward though and can easily make you seem like a creep. Day game is for hyper-neurotypical guys only, not those with aspie traits and social anxiety.

It's obvious the most NT normal place to cold approach is bars and clubs. However I want the avoid the drawbacks that go along with it. I don't want to drink a lot of alcohol dealing with hangovers and spending money on overpriced drinks. I also don't want to spend hours in a club monkeying around because it's too much effort and time investment in a place I don't feel comfortable. Another downside of alcohol is that it gives you beer goggles and you end up with a woman you have zero attraction to while sober.

So the routine I've devised to streamline the process is to go out three nights per week, and cold approach three attractive women per night. It does include alcohol, but only in moderation of 2 beers per night. You will take one beer with you and drink it outside the club. If you're leanmaxing one drink is enough to make you tipsy and lower your inhibition. Then walk into the club and go straight to the bar, order another beer. The reason I advise going straight to the bar is so that you're not feeling awkward and lost since you're alone, but waiting at the bar to order a drink looks NT. While waiting to order your beer and then sipping it you can cold approach one girl. Just a simple "Hey, how's it going?". You don't need elaborate pickup lines, all you need is to confidently and casually initiate and if she looks at you and likes your face she will reciprocate. Saying the same thing every time also prevents the stress of thinking what should I say.

Ok so now you've been rejected by the first girl. Slowly stroll through the club with the drink in your hand, while looking around to make it seem you're looking for someone. When you pass another attractive woman you say "Hey how's it going?". Boom rejected. Now finish one more lap around and get rejected the third time.

That's it. Now you can go home and sleep. The goal is to get rejected asap so you can be in and out of the club within 20 minutes. This also requires a shift in mindset, view the rejections as a success since you've completed your task like finishing sets at the gym. You'll be cold approaching nearly 40 women per month doing this routine, and even if your rejection rate is 99% it would take a few months to get an attractive girlfriend. It's an extremely minor time, effort and money investment for the potential payoff.

If you’re an autists just go to conventions are rizz women up there

 

[vinn98]

This is legit if you have another dude to run duos with. Frame and height are law in bars tho so def liftmaxx if 5’9 manlet like me

I would actually advise going alone. Based on my experience when you go out with other guys you feel comfortable in your safety bubble just talking to them. It just wastes time. Then if you approach it could lead to a situation of you and him competing for one girl, doesn't end well. You think someone is your friend until a hot stacy enters the scene.

 

[Deleted member 57464]

this only works if MTN+ BTW

 

[Deleted member 23558]

Nice in theory OP, but getting rejected often can lower T in the long term. Best is outdoor pictures on OLD, getting atleast one guy from your city who is alsof acing dating problems and then visiting bars and clubs with him. When you go alone, it is a bit harder, still doable but its like not cashing in all your chips when you know you have a good chance

 

[Deleted member 23558]

I would actually advise going alone. Based on my experience when you go out with other guys you feel comfortable in your safety bubble just talking to them. It just wastes time. Then if you approach it could lead to a situation of you and him competing for one girl, doesn't end well. You think someone is your friend until a hot stacy enters the scene.

girls often come with friends tho, ive never seen a good looking girl alone in a bar else id have done ted bundy long ago

 

[vinn98]

Nice in theory OP, but getting rejected often can lower T in the long term. Best is outdoor pictures on OLD, getting atleast one guy from your city who is alsof acing dating problems and then visiting bars and clubs with him. When you go alone, it is a bit harder, still doable but its like not cashing in all your chips when you know you have a good chance

I was going out alone last year and I got brutally rejected. Some woman looked at me with disgust, another one said "You can't afford me" mid conversation and then walked away. I kept approaching, then this happened





However I was drinking too much back then and one night I ended up lying in a park and puking.

Now I'm going to leanmax and gymmax and start going out again doing this new routine.

 

[Deleted member 23558]

I was going out alone last year and I got brutally rejected. Some woman looked at me with disgust, another one said "You can't afford me" mid conversation and then walked away. I kept approaching, then this happened





Now I'm going to leanmax and gymmax and start going out again doing this new routine.

SHITTT BROOOO its all about numbers game, can i post this as thread? or can u do it? cos many people here rotting when they should just go out enough like u said

 

[vinn98]

SHITTT BROOOO its all about numbers game, can i post this as thread? or can u do it? cos many people here rotting when they should just go out enough like u said

Yeh you can post it. It is a numbers game, you have to learn to laugh about the rejections and then eventually one girl you approach will see you as her type. It is hard though to get into that mindset if you're rotting in your room though, any rejection seems terrifying.

 

[Deleted member 66828]

@northern mogger en lukenu mut voi olla hyvä

 

[vinn98]

girls often come with friends tho, ive never seen a good looking girl alone in a bar else id have done ted bundy long ago

Another point about going out with a friend. I've gone out in duos with different guys before. We approached duos of girls and what happened a few times was the ones I was talking to seemed into me, but their friend was not into my friend, or it was the other way around. So that ended the interactions and they walked away. Another time I met a guy and we approached together, then the girl he was talking to rejected him, he was drunk and frustrated and started telling the girl I was with I only wanted her for sex and she walked away. Other guys can turn into your enemy in those situations.

Other times I've gone out alone and managed to get laid with a girl who was in a group. If you're alone you have no one holding you back and you don't have to take them into account.

 

[Deleted member 23558]

Another point about going out with a friend. I've gone out in duos with different guys before. We approached duos of girls and what happened a few times was the ones I was talking to seemed into me, but their friend was not into my friend, or it was the other way around. So that ended the interactions and they walked away. Other times I've gone out alone and managed to get laid with a girl who was in a group. If you're alone you have no one holding you back and you don't have to take them into account.

clubs or bars better? and any events or something i need to look out for? Like rave nights have better chance etc?

 

[vinn98]

clubs or bars better? and any events or something i need to look out for? Like rave nights have better chance etc?

Clubs are definitely better than bars where you sit down, but where I live pretty much every bar is a club with a dance floor. It needs to be a crowded place where you can blend in with the crowd, because if you're alone at a half empty venue it's going to be awkward when people can see you're alone.

 

[Deleted member 23558]

Clubs are definitely better than bars where you sit down, but where I live pretty much every bar is a club with a dance floor. It needs to be a crowded place where you can blend in with the crowd, because if you're alone at a half empty venue it's going to be awkward when people can see you're alone.

how do u initiate/ pick out a girl from the dance floor or crowd cos every girls seem busy talking. mind u i went to one three years ago w friends so didnt do anything, have no idea about any of itt

 

[Latinolooksmaxxer]

whats hot approach?

try to rizz a friend or colleague and get friendzoned?

 

[Latinolooksmaxxer]

how do u initiate/ pick out a girl from the dance floor or crowd cos every girls seem busy talking. mind u i went to one three years ago w friends so didnt do anything, have no idea about any of itt

nowadays foids approach. either by giving you heavy obvious iois (moving next to you and staring at you smiling, keep following you around and stuff - not the 'girl at the supermarket looked at me for 0,25s guys' looksmax ioi) or straight up asking you to makeout (or at least initiating convo)
just go out and wait for one of those to happen, if it doesnt then maybe next time

its this or do like OP said, just keep approaching until you score now and then

 

[vinn98]

how do u initiate/ pick out a girl from the dance floor or crowd cos every girls seem busy talking. mind u i went to one three years ago w friends so didnt do anything, have no idea about any of itt

The standard backup option is "Hey how's it going?", then ask basic questions like "Do you like this music?" while being in a fun positive vibe with body language and smiling. If she likes your look she will reciprocate and the conversation can flow from there. If she's cold just end the interaction and say have a good night and walk away. If a girl is cold it's not even worth continuing, because it means she's not attracted (Brad Pitt Rule).

For example the girl in the pics she was walking from the bathroom while I was standing at the bar. I called out to her "Hey are you lost?", then she saw me and liked my look and walked over to me while smiling and said "what", I said "Oh I thought you looked lost". (light-hearted comments like this are good for casual approaching) Then I asked her if she goes there a lot, no she she's an introvert, she said her friends made her go out, then asking like what she does for work and our past, she said her mom used to beat her. She was moving closer to me in the conversation and we were practically hugging. Then once the connection was established I said "wanna go dance" and we were making out on the dance floor.

My point is there is no secret formula for what you have to say like some pua routine, if she likes your look she will make an effort to reciprocate the interaction. You just have to be in a fun positive mood.

 

[vinn98]

nowadays foids approach. either by giving you heavy obvious iois (moving next to you and staring at you smiling, keep following you around and stuff - not the 'girl at the supermarket looked at me for 0,25s guys' looksmax ioi) or straight up asking you to makeout (or at least initiating convo)
just go out and wait for one of those to happen, if it doesnt then maybe next time

its this or do like OP said, just keep approaching until you score now and then

The only girls who will cold approach guys like that are very low inhibition types. Clubs are so crowded that many women won't even notice you until you approach.

 

[Almost Chadlite]

I don't want to ltr a bar whore bro

 

[Tr0ubLe]

Nice. I get iois and shit but too pussy to approach. I always wait for them snd only made a move on oneities

 

[Gerardwayfan]

It all depends on how much you want it. I forgot to mention it should be combined with nofap, because that will be a huge physical motivator. If a guy is watching porn every day he's not going to feel the drive to go out and cold approach.

i cant do nofap i would be walking around town with a boner 60% of the time. Also one reason i dont approach many girls is that I get boner fast and it makes me self conscious .
Theres this 40y5 foid at my gym that is eyeing me, I find her attractive had she been young typeww stuff, we talked a bit but i had to run away cause boner alert. fml...

 

[klip11]

I've spent time pondering over the pros and cons of options for a single guy with no social circle to cold approach. First of all I realized that online dating is not worthwhile. The average guy gets one or two matches per week, and even when he gets matches the vast majority will not agree to meet up. At that rate he could expect a date once every few months, which is abysmal. I'm not saying to delete those apps, but you can't place all your eggs in one basket.

For a guy with no social circle game the only other option is cold approaching. Approaching in the daytime is awkward though and can easily make you seem like a creep. Day game is for hyper-neurotypical guys only, not those with aspie traits and social anxiety.

It's obvious the most NT normal place to cold approach is bars and clubs. However I want the avoid the drawbacks that go along with it. I don't want to drink a lot of alcohol dealing with hangovers and spending money on overpriced drinks. I also don't want to spend hours in a club monkeying around because it's too much effort and time investment in a place I don't feel comfortable. Another downside of alcohol is that it gives you beer goggles and you end up with a woman you have zero attraction to while sober.

So the routine I've devised to streamline the process is to go out three nights per week, and cold approach three attractive women per night. It does include alcohol, but only in moderation of 2 beers per night. You will take one beer with you and drink it outside the club. If you're leanmaxing one drink is enough to make you tipsy and lower your inhibition. Then walk into the club and go straight to the bar, order another beer. The reason I advise going straight to the bar is so that you're not feeling awkward and lost since you're alone, but waiting at the bar to order a drink looks NT. While waiting to order your beer and then sipping it you can cold approach one girl. Just a simple "Hey, how's it going?". You don't need elaborate pickup lines, all you need is to confidently and casually initiate and if she looks at you and likes your face she will reciprocate. Saying the same thing every time also prevents the stress of thinking what should I say.

Ok so now you've been rejected by the first girl. Slowly stroll through the club with the drink in your hand, while looking around to make it seem you're looking for someone. When you pass another attractive woman you say "Hey how's it going?". Boom rejected. Now finish one more lap around and get rejected the third time.

That's it. Now you can go home and sleep. The goal is to get rejected asap so you can be in and out of the club within 20 minutes. This also requires a shift in mindset, view the rejections as a success since you've completed your task like finishing sets at the gym. You'll be cold approaching nearly 40 women per month doing this routine, and even if your rejection rate is 99% it would take a few months to get an attractive girlfriend. It's an extremely minor time, effort and money investment for the potential payoff.

Just do this

 

[EggKing]

I've spent time pondering over the pros and cons of options for a single guy with no social circle to cold approach. First of all I realized that online dating is not worthwhile. The average guy gets one or two matches per week, and even when he gets matches the vast majority will not agree to meet up. At that rate he could expect a date once every few months, which is abysmal. I'm not saying to delete those apps, but you can't place all your eggs in one basket.

For a guy with no social circle game the only other option is cold approaching. Approaching in the daytime is awkward though and can easily make you seem like a creep. Day game is for hyper-neurotypical guys only, not those with aspie traits and social anxiety.

It's obvious the most NT normal place to cold approach is bars and clubs. However I want the avoid the drawbacks that go along with it. I don't want to drink a lot of alcohol dealing with hangovers and spending money on overpriced drinks. I also don't want to spend hours in a club monkeying around because it's too much effort and time investment in a place I don't feel comfortable. Another downside of alcohol is that it gives you beer goggles and you end up with a woman you have zero attraction to while sober.

So the routine I've devised to streamline the process is to go out three nights per week, and cold approach three attractive women per night. It does include alcohol, but only in moderation of 2 beers per night. You will take one beer with you and drink it outside the club. If you're leanmaxing one drink is enough to make you tipsy and lower your inhibition. Then walk into the club and go straight to the bar, order another beer. The reason I advise going straight to the bar is so that you're not feeling awkward and lost since you're alone, but waiting at the bar to order a drink looks NT. While waiting to order your beer and then sipping it you can cold approach one girl. Just a simple "Hey, how's it going?". You don't need elaborate pickup lines, all you need is to confidently and casually initiate and if she looks at you and likes your face she will reciprocate. Saying the same thing every time also prevents the stress of thinking what should I say.

Ok so now you've been rejected by the first girl. Slowly stroll through the club with the drink in your hand, while looking around to make it seem you're looking for someone. When you pass another attractive woman you say "Hey how's it going?". Boom rejected. Now finish one more lap around and get rejected the third time.

That's it. Now you can go home and sleep. The goal is to get rejected asap so you can be in and out of the club within 20 minutes. This also requires a shift in mindset, view the rejections as a success since you've completed your task like finishing sets at the gym. You'll be cold approaching nearly 40 women per month doing this routine, and even if your rejection rate is 99% it would take a few months to get an attractive girlfriend. It's an extremely minor time, effort and money investment for the potential payoff.

GTFIH @ElTruecel

 

[EggKing]

We should try this niggas @FelizJueves @honeypot @gael28

 

[darkness97]

i used the club/bar method for about a year. it does indeed get old real fast. it is the gl person method of getting friends that are outgoing.

if you are gl, guys will come up to you anyway and start talking to you. even if they do i pretty much walk away from them and come back to them later. following dudes around is never a good look. i don't focus on the girls they are with out of respect. getting females friends is better as its a massive halo boost.

the problem with this is you develop an addiction to drinking over time. you can't just stand around at the bar not drinking anything. you also have to match the energy of the women you're talking to. there have been many times where i rejected a girl simply because i was too sober and thinking too logically. resulting in me coming off as very stiff and disinterested.

getting perfectly drunk is like a chemistry fucking problem. you buy a bottle before hand and have to drink the perfect amount so that you arrive there drunk already but not too drunk where if someone buys you one shot you're on the floor.

i made a lot of good friends this way but had to quit going for at least 9 months because i was more focused on drinking than the people.

staying home and studying/playing videoganes is better for saving money and self improvement.

 

[vinn98]

the problem with this is you develop an addiction to drinking over time. you can't just stand around at the bar not drinking anything. you also have to match the energy of the women you're talking to. there have been many times where i rejected a girl simply because i was too sober and thinking too logically. resulting in me coming off as very stiff and disinterested.

getting perfectly drunk is like a chemistry fucking problem. you buy a bottle before hand and have to drink the perfect amount so that you arrive there drunk already but not too drunk where if someone buys you one shot you're on the floor.

i made a lot of good friends this way but had to quit going for at least 9 months because i was more focused on drinking than the people.

staying home and studying/playing videoganes is better for saving money and self improvement.

If you stay home NOTHING is going to happen regardless of how much you self-improve. A guy could be looksmaxed in peak physical and mental health and be rotting as an incel for years if he just stays home. The alcohol issue is something I'm trying to find the right balance, because many guys need some alcohol to be in the right mood for a club environment so they don't stand awkwardly in the corner, but drinking a lot on a regular basis will ruin you. Alcohol is a game changer though for approach anxiety. That's why I'm advocating 2-3 beers max on an empty stomach. That should give a window of opportunity of at least an hour to do the approaches while tipsy, then you can go home. Being leanmaxed will also lower alcohol tolerance so you can get the tipsy effect while drinking less.

 

[Klasik616]

And what I should respond if she asks me for my socials??? If I don't have friends IRL and my status is non existent, how do I escape the void.

 

[vinn98]

And what I should respond if she asks me for my socials??? If I don't have friends IRL and my status is non existent, how do I escape the void.

Just say you don't have Instagram. You're overthinking it. If a woman is attracted to you, she won't care about these little details. If she rejects you because you don't have Instagram it was going to be a rejection anyway.

 

[Klasik616]

Just say you don't have Instagram. You're overthinking it. If a woman is attracted to you, she won't care about these little details. If she rejects you because you don't have Instagram it was going to be a rejection anyway.

That's exactly what she did, she rejected me.

 

[vinn98]

That's exactly what she did, she rejected me.

Rejection is much better than not approaching at all. It means you're on the grind and not rotting.

 

[darkness97]

If you stay home NOTHING is going to happen regardless of how much you self-improve. A guy could be looksmaxed in peak physical and mental health and be rotting as an incel for years if he just stays home. The alcohol issue is something I'm trying to find the right balance, because many guys need some alcohol to be in the right mood for a club environment so they don't stand awkwardly in the corner, but drinking a lot on a regular basis will ruin you. Alcohol is a game changer though for approach anxiety. That's why I'm advocating 2-3 beers max on an empty stomach. That should give a window of opportunity of at least an hour to do the approaches while tipsy, then you can go home. Being leanmaxed will also lower alcohol tolerance so you can get the tipsy effect while drinking less.

i wouldn't. i am pretty much partied out and all i want to do is work. when i first started going out it was awesome.

i got bored of going out and trying to meet women. you can meet them there but they aren't going to be quality. if you keep that consistent drinking pattern you will end up being inhibited even after 2-3 beers on an empty stomach thus requiring a higher consumption. you will then be able to "be sober" while drunk.

if you're young just have fun and try to smash some girls. have ur fun man but don't take anyone you meet there too seriously when you first meet them. and try to stay away from drugs like coke.

 

[Swarthy Knight]

I've spent time pondering over the pros and cons of options for a single guy with no social circle to cold approach. First of all I realized that online dating is not worthwhile. The average guy gets one or two matches per week, and even when he gets matches the vast majority will not agree to meet up. At that rate he could expect a date once every few months, which is abysmal. I'm not saying to delete those apps, but you can't place all your eggs in one basket.

For a guy with no social circle game the only other option is cold approaching. Approaching in the daytime is awkward though and can easily make you seem like a creep. Day game is for hyper-neurotypical guys only, not those with aspie traits and social anxiety.

It's obvious the most NT normal place to cold approach is bars and clubs. However I want the avoid the drawbacks that go along with it. I don't want to drink a lot of alcohol dealing with hangovers and spending money on overpriced drinks. I also don't want to spend hours in a club monkeying around because it's too much effort and time investment in a place I don't feel comfortable. Another downside of alcohol is that it gives you beer goggles and you end up with a woman you have zero attraction to while sober.

So the routine I've devised to streamline the process is to go out three nights per week, and cold approach three attractive women per night. It does include alcohol, but only in moderation of 2 beers per night. You will take one beer with you and drink it outside the club. If you're leanmaxing one drink is enough to make you tipsy and lower your inhibition. Then walk into the club and go straight to the bar, order another beer. The reason I advise going straight to the bar is so that you're not feeling awkward and lost since you're alone, but waiting at the bar to order a drink looks NT. While waiting to order your beer and then sipping it you can cold approach one girl. Just a simple "Hey, how's it going?". You don't need elaborate pickup lines, all you need is to confidently and casually initiate and if she looks at you and likes your face she will reciprocate. Saying the same thing every time also prevents the stress of thinking what should I say.

Ok so now you've been rejected by the first girl. Slowly stroll through the club with the drink in your hand, while looking around to make it seem you're looking for someone. When you pass another attractive woman you say "Hey how's it going?". Boom rejected. Now finish one more lap around and get rejected the third time.

That's it. Now you can go home and sleep. The goal is to get rejected asap so you can be in and out of the club within 20 minutes. This also requires a shift in mindset, view the rejections as a success since you've completed your task like finishing sets at the gym. You'll be cold approaching nearly 40 women per month doing this routine, and even if your rejection rate is 99% it would take a few months to get an attractive girlfriend. It's an extremely minor time, effort and money investment for the potential payoff.

I don't wanna clown your take bcuz you put effort into this with genuine intentions. But jfl at spending all that time and effort and getting demoralized just to *potentially* get some ran thru foid at a club. I guess this can be a last resort for dudes who've exhausted their other options tho.

 

[Blackgymmax]

The real cope is that you're scared. If you won't take action then you prefer to remain incel for the rest of your life.

You are scared because you're subhuman
It's like the feeling of doom going into an exam where you have no knowledge in the topic

How can you be confident when you have no experience of success?

How many times do you have to touch a burning stove to learn that the stove is hot

 

[vinn98]

You are scared because you're subhuman
It's like the feeling of doom going into an exam where you have no knowledge in the topic

How can you be confident when you have no experience of success?

How many times do you have to touch a burning stove to learn that the stove is hot

 

[stamaster21]

The real cope is that you're scared. If you won't take action then you prefer to remain incel for the rest of your life.

Thats the sad reality imgine being 100 years old and thinking back, all the cold approaching risk will seem like nothing, and you will think back at how much time you wasted. The only option is to self-improve your hair,skin and hea;th and social skills and get out THERE its the only option, or you can just rot for the next 50-80 years till you die.

 

[stamaster21]

Rejection is much better than not approaching at all. It means you're on the grind and not rotting.

You know whats worse , not living and just rotting for years if not decades.

 

[vtribal]

this isnt even bad advice
if you make it a criteria to get rejected x amount of times a night you remove any needy subconcious behaviors, and being needy is the biggest turn off to women

 

[arab_chink]

I've spent time pondering over the pros and cons of options for a single guy with no social circle to cold approach. First of all I realized that online dating is not worthwhile. The average guy gets one or two matches per week, and even when he gets matches the vast majority will not agree to meet up. At that rate he could expect a date once every few months, which is abysmal. I'm not saying to delete those apps, but you can't place all your eggs in one basket.

For a guy with no social circle game the only other option is cold approaching. Approaching in the daytime is awkward though and can easily make you seem like a creep. Day game is for hyper-neurotypical guys only, not those with aspie traits and social anxiety.

It's obvious the most NT normal place to cold approach is bars and clubs. However I want the avoid the drawbacks that go along with it. I don't want to drink a lot of alcohol dealing with hangovers and spending money on overpriced drinks. I also don't want to spend hours in a club monkeying around because it's too much effort and time investment in a place I don't feel comfortable. Another downside of alcohol is that it gives you beer goggles and you end up with a woman you have zero attraction to while sober.

So the routine I've devised to streamline the process is to go out three nights per week, and cold approach three attractive women per night. It does include alcohol, but only in moderation of 2 beers per night. You will take one beer with you and drink it outside the club. If you're leanmaxing one drink is enough to make you tipsy and lower your inhibition. Then walk into the club and go straight to the bar, order another beer. The reason I advise going straight to the bar is so that you're not feeling awkward and lost since you're alone, but waiting at the bar to order a drink looks NT. While waiting to order your beer and then sipping it you can cold approach one girl. Just a simple "Hey, how's it going?". You don't need elaborate pickup lines, all you need is to confidently and casually initiate and if she looks at you and likes your face she will reciprocate. Saying the same thing every time also prevents the stress of thinking what should I say.

Ok so now you've been rejected by the first girl. Slowly stroll through the club with the drink in your hand, while looking around to make it seem you're looking for someone. When you pass another attractive woman you say "Hey how's it going?". Boom rejected. Now finish one more lap around and get rejected the third time.

That's it. Now you can go home and sleep. The goal is to get rejected asap so you can be in and out of the club within 20 minutes. This also requires a shift in mindset, view the rejections as a success since you've completed your task like finishing sets at the gym. You'll be cold approaching nearly 40 women per month doing this routine, and even if your rejection rate is 99% it would take a few months to get an attractive girlfriend. It's an extremely minor time, effort and money investment for the potential payoff.

What about ltrs? Ialso cant drink alcohol

 

[JBWNeetcel]

My earnest reaction to this thread

 

[New Poster]

better strat and lower inhib than 99.9% of posters here

 

[PubertyMaxxer]

I've spent time pondering over the pros and cons of options for a single guy with no social circle to cold approach. First of all I realized that online dating is not worthwhile. The average guy gets one or two matches per week, and even when he gets matches the vast majority will not agree to meet up. At that rate he could expect a date once every few months, which is abysmal. I'm not saying to delete those apps, but you can't place all your eggs in one basket.

For a guy with no social circle game the only other option is cold approaching. Approaching in the daytime is awkward though and can easily make you seem like a creep. Day game is for hyper-neurotypical guys only, not those with aspie traits and social anxiety.

It's obvious the most NT normal place to cold approach is bars and clubs. However I want the avoid the drawbacks that go along with it. I don't want to drink a lot of alcohol dealing with hangovers and spending money on overpriced drinks. I also don't want to spend hours in a club monkeying around because it's too much effort and time investment in a place I don't feel comfortable. Another downside of alcohol is that it gives you beer goggles and you end up with a woman you have zero attraction to while sober.

So the routine I've devised to streamline the process is to go out three nights per week, and cold approach three attractive women per night. It does include alcohol, but only in moderation of 2 beers per night. You will take one beer with you and drink it outside the club. If you're leanmaxing one drink is enough to make you tipsy and lower your inhibition. Then walk into the club and go straight to the bar, order another beer. The reason I advise going straight to the bar is so that you're not feeling awkward and lost since you're alone, but waiting at the bar to order a drink looks NT. While waiting to order your beer and then sipping it you can cold approach one girl. Just a simple "Hey, how's it going?". You don't need elaborate pickup lines, all you need is to confidently and casually initiate and if she looks at you and likes your face she will reciprocate. Saying the same thing every time also prevents the stress of thinking what should I say.

Ok so now you've been rejected by the first girl. Slowly stroll through the club with the drink in your hand, while looking around to make it seem you're looking for someone. When you pass another attractive woman you say "Hey how's it going?". Boom rejected. Now finish one more lap around and get rejected the third time.

That's it. Now you can go home and sleep. The goal is to get rejected asap so you can be in and out of the club within 20 minutes. This also requires a shift in mindset, view the rejections as a success since you've completed your task like finishing sets at the gym. You'll be cold approaching nearly 40 women per month doing this routine, and even if your rejection rate is 99% it would take a few months to get an attractive girlfriend. It's an extremely minor time, effort and money investment for the potential payoff.

Isn't this strategy much more expensive than just daygame cold approaching (at the bus stop, library, market, metro). You have to pay for alcohol and club ticket three times a week.

Daygame is for free and you get to avoid alcohol and ear damage from the club.

 

[vinn98]

Isn't this strategy much more expensive than just daygame cold approaching (at the bus stop, library, market, metro). You have to pay for alcohol and club ticket three times a week.

Daygame is for free and you get to avoid alcohol and ear damage from the club.

Besides it being NT to cold approach in clubs there's another major factor you're not considering. Women in clubs are tipsy which makes them more receptive. Also it's at night, so eventually they need to leave and sleep. The chances of meeting a woman and going home with her that same night are like 100x higher at a club than a bus stop.

 

[Blackgymmax]

My earnest reaction to this thread

Lite

 

[vinn98]

Lite

Update: I already met a maiden on my second night out using this strat.