I've planned my date perfectly, about vibe I want to have, my approach, things we will do, but one thing might fuck it up all

[Deleted member 5048]

That feel when you imagine everything in your head, it seems perfect, but if one thing might go wrong, you start panicking, and you worry

 

[Adriana Lima]

brootal

 

[Deleted member 5048]

brootal

0 / 1 thinking, you either "got it" or you're "lost"

 

[Adriana Lima]

0 / 1 thinking, you either "got it" or you're "lost"

irrationalfearcel​

 

[Deleted member 5185]

Planning it is the first mistake. You gotta change your mindset more into "im tryna smash dis hoe" and if it goes wrong then fuk it, next.

 

[Deleted member 5048]

Planning it is the first mistake. You gotta change your mindset more into "im tryna smash dis hoe" and if it goes wrong then fuk it, next.

I guess we are different, I used to go "spontaneous" and it didn't end up well for me, I need some pre-thoughts, expectations, things to have in mind
it actually gives me rush and motivation

 

[Deleted member 5185]

I guess we are different, I used to go "spontaneous" and it didn't end up well for me, I need some pre-thoughts, expectations, things to have in mind
it actually gives me rush and motivation

You can think about thinks to talk about, the same way you would when visiting a new friend. The point is to not worry about what she thinks of you. You can legit have like 5 checkpoints in your head where you're like:

1. Talk about my education
2. Talk about where I'm from
3. Talk about my hobbies
4. Talk about some reality show she would've seen to related to her
5. Talk about sex

there you go, thats all you need. If the conversation doesn't flow, its cause she doesn't like you

 

[Adriana Lima]

You can think about thinks to talk about, the same way you would when visiting a new friend. The point is to not worry about what she thinks of you. You can legit have like 5 checkpoints in your head where you're like:

1. Talk about my education
2. Talk about where I'm from
3. Talk about my hobbies
4. Talk about some reality show she would've seen to related to her
5. Talk about sex

there you go, thats all you need. If the conversation doesn't flow, its cause she doesn't like you

cope just talk about dogs

 

[Deleted member 5048]

You can think about thinks to talk about, the same way you would when visiting a new friend. The point is to not worry about what she thinks of you. You can legit have like 5 checkpoints in your head where you're like:

1. Talk about my education
2. Talk about where I'm from
3. Talk about my hobbies
4. Talk about some reality show she would've seen to related to her
5. Talk about sex

there you go, thats all you need. If the conversation doesn't flow, its cause she doesn't like you

yes this is basic, I got something autistic in my head tho, I used to do such dates, but it is boring, maybe things flow, but we won't have sex still since it's only an outside friendly meet, nothing serious, I lack experience so I do such simple meets, without expectations that it'll lead to anything, I treat it more like socializing, but now I want to check some boundaries that's why, I want to experiment

 

[Deleted member 5185]

yes this is basic, I got something autistic in my head tho, I used to do such dates, but it is boring, maybe things flow, but we won't have sex still since it's only an outside friendly meet, nothing serious, I lack experience so I do such simple meets, without expectations that it'll lead to anything, I treat it more like socializing, but now I want to check some boundaries that's why, I want to experiment

When I was trying to slay as hard as I could, I started out with meeting women for drinks. Sometimes, if I were obviously more attractive than them, we walked back to my house after some drinks and fucked. Sometimes, that didn't happen and guess what? The girl weren't interested in seeing me again either stating so directly or being flaky etc.

What I figured out was that its way better to set the date at your or her place, i.e its not a "date" as much as it is a bootycall / casual sex situation. This will 1) imply sex and thus almost guarantee it 2) ensure conversation goes way better and less awkward, especially afterwards 3) you KNOW she's into you because she wants to fuk you

 

[Julian]

Who cares dont overthink anything

 

[Deleted member 5048]

Who cares dont overthink anything

but I am now 'high' on my thought proccess, it's not nervous overthinking, I am actually onto something, I will unleash my autism

 

[Deleted member 5048]

When I was trying to slay as hard as I could, I started out with meeting women for drinks. Sometimes, if I were obviously more attractive than them, we walked back to my house after some drinks and fucked. Sometimes, that didn't happen and guess what? The girl weren't interested in seeing me again either stating so directly or being flaky etc.

What I figured out was that its way better to set the date at your or her place, i.e its not a "date" as much as it is a bootycall / casual sex situation. This will 1) imply sex and thus almost guarantee it 2) ensure conversation goes way better and less awkward, especially afterwards 3) you KNOW she's into you because she wants to fuk you

yes there is a possibility that we won't see each other again, but I don't mind it, I must first start to feel more comfortable around them, find my persona near them, I literally start from social 0, just started dating recently, I am building it all up, I don't even think I am ready for sex

 

[Deleted member 5185]

yes there is a possibility that we won't see each other again, but I don't mind it, I must first start to feel more comfortable around them, find my persona near them, I literally start from social 0, just started dating recently, I am building it all up, I don't even think I am ready for sex

 

[Deleted member 5048]

I'm anxious about that part, I need to feel more comfortable around foids in general

 

[BigBiceps]

Just don't. They know you're extremely desperate for pussy, if you've carefully planned everything. And it's a major turn off for women.

 

[BigBiceps]

You can think about thinks to talk about, the same way you would when visiting a new friend. The point is to not worry about what she thinks of you. You can legit have like 5 checkpoints in your head where you're like:

1. Talk about my education
2. Talk about where I'm from
3. Talk about my hobbies
4. Talk about some reality show she would've seen to related to her
5. Talk about sex

there you go, thats all you need. If the conversation doesn't flow, its cause she doesn't like you

Ideally you should tell those things about yourself, but don't only talk about yourself. Other people love sharing about their lives too, so if you start talking about your education, at least ask about hers too.

 

[Deleted member 5185]

Ideally you should tell those things about yourself, but don't only talk about yourself. Other people love sharing about their lives too, so if you start talking about your education, at least ask about hers too.

This is generally very true and a good technique to become well liked. However its more complicated when it comes to women. She wants someone to convey high status. Talking about yourself a lot, showing narcissistic traits etc. is a plus if done correctly, as you indicate higher SMV / status.

 

[Deleted member 8165]

you planned the date perfectly but then you realize you re not 6 PSL

 

[BigBiceps]

This is generally very true and a good technique to become well liked. However its more complicated when it comes to women. She wants someone to convey high status. Talking about yourself a lot, showing narcissistic traits etc. is a plus if done correctly, as you indicate higher SMV / status.

Only works if you're actually high smv/status. Women won't take that shit from a ugly dude tho.

 

[Deleted member 5185]

Only works if you're actually high smv/status. Women won't take that shit from a ugly dude tho.

Thats true, but considering the context is a date, we can assume that he meets her looks requirements. Probably works better the better you look, i.e if you're just above the line of her looks requirements, it probably won't work as well as if you're better looking.

I want to nuance my previous post a bit though - I don't disagree that he should be asking her about her life either way - its a fine line between high SMV and just appearing like a socially retarded douchebag.

 

[Deleted member 12002]

That feel when you imagine everything in your head, it seems perfect, but if one thing might go wrong, you start panicking, and you worry

Yeah, over planning will do that. There's nothing wrong with having a little direction, but things tend to come crumbling down whenever you try to make them perfect.