Just found out my boyfriend was an incel — reposted from AITA

[godsmistake]

I met my boyfriend through a local DnD Facebook page. We started talking every day over Messenger and pretty soon we were meeting up to continue our conversations in person. We had a lot of stuff in common, and I thought he was really funny, and I just enjoyed his company. We started dating and we’ve been dating for nearly a year. We moved in together in May.

However, yesterday I found out from one of our DnD friends that he used to comment on r/Braincels . He brought it up in a “good for him for moving on” way but holy fuck. I only knew about incels from the guy that killed all those people a few years back. I managed to get the friend to tell me the account name (he got really uncomfortable and asked me not to tell my boyfriend) and although he never said anything violent, my boyfriend repeatedly called girls derogatory names, said we were inferior, we were whores, we would never date a short ugly man like him, etc. His last post he mentioned that he was talking to a “foid” and that she was actually showing interest. I think he meant me.

He was going through a really hard time this past year, not in a good mental place, but I don’t think that excuses all the sexist and gross things he said about women. He’s never shown any misogyny towards me or anyone else, but how do I know he doesn’t still feel that way? Would I be the asshole for dumping him over something that happened pre-our relationship? Should I give him a chance to explain? I love him and I don’t know if I can be objective if he asks me to sympathize with him. But I also don’t think I can continue to be with him knowing he things I’m not deserving of the same respect as men.

Added info from last post: he’s never done anything I consider a red flag, but I also have been blind to warning signs in past relationships, and he never told me about his misogynistic history. I feel like my trust has been breached.

Do I end things? Give him the chance to talk? Or give him a chance?

 

[Deleted member 2661]

>boyfriend
>incel

 

[Deleted member 1182]

his (((friend))) cucked him so hard lmao

 

[currymax]

jfl.

if he says "foid" he'll never be normal

run

 

[karbo]

this is proof incels live a double life, one IRL and one online in communities with similar losers like them

thats why the argument 'ur misogynistic personality is why u cant get a gf' doesnt make sense, because probably less than 1% of incels show their actual personality IRL, they are just like anybody else, except no woman ever shows interest in them because they are ugly. they cant even get to the point to SHOW personality jfl

 

[Tony]

jflcel

 

[Deleted member 275]

this is proof incels live a double life, one IRL and one online in communities with similar losers like them

thats why the argument 'ur misogynistic personality is why u cant get a gf' doesnt make sense, because probably less than 1% of incels show their actual personality IRL, they are just like anybody else, except no woman ever shows interest in them because they are ugly. they cant even get to the point to SHOW personality jfl

I used to browse lookism.net when my ex was watching some random tv show next to me lmao. She just said it was weird, but didn't care.

 

[SikKunt]

jflcel

jflcel in cell

 

[karbo]

I used to browse lookism.net when my ex was watching some random tv show next to me lmao. She just said it was weird, but didn't care.

ok but looksmax and lookism are redpilled, while braincels and .co are blackpilled.
in this site we discuss aspie-tier shit like negative canthal tilt and norwood scale, while blackpilled people have given up completely on dating/ascending and their communities are based on hating society/women

 

[BrettyBoy]

this is proof incels live a double life, one IRL and one online in communities with similar losers like them

thats why the argument 'ur misogynistic personality is why u cant get a gf' doesnt make sense, because probably less than 1% of incels show their actual personality IRL, they are just like anybody else, except no woman ever shows interest in them because they are ugly. they cant even get to the point to SHOW personality jfl

Man, fuck, man, thanks for making that point. It really irritates me when people say ‘Incels are incels because of their personality’ when in reality, the majority of the self-labelled incels bite their tongue a lot in the real world.

Society makes no sense.

 

[Deleted member 685]

his (((friend))) cucked him so hard lmao

 

[karbo]

Man, fuck, man, thanks for making that point. It really irritates me when people say ‘Incels are incels because of their personality’ when in reality, the majority of the self-labelled incels nite their tongue a lot in the real world.

true. this is one of the reasons i fucking hate reddit and normies, their subhuman brain is literally not able to process this simple chain of logic.
do they honestly think incels are born? every baby is born happy and curious, their personality forms based on how they are treated in social interactions. since ugly people are never given a chance in life, they get belittled and treated like subhuman their entire lives, and yet they are the ones the internet and society hates? FOR HAVING BAD PERSONALITY? fucking clown world needs to end

it was NEVER about personality. also IncelTears has probably the lowest average IQ of any internet community ever. im willing to bet this forum has atleast 20 more iq points in average than IT

 

[BrettyBoy]

true. this is one of the reasons i fucking hate reddit and normies, their subhuman brain is literally not able to process this simple chain of logic.
do they honestly think incels are born? every baby is born happy and curious, their personality forms based on how they are treated in social interactions. since ugly people are never given a chance in life, they get belittled and treated like subhuman their entire lives, and yet they are the ones the internet and society hates? FOR HAVING BAD PERSONALITY? fucking clown world needs to end

it was NEVER about personality. also IncelTears has probably the lowest average IQ of any internet community ever. im willing to bet this forum has atleast 20 more iq points in average than IT

They claim incels are the delusional ones yet believe the majority of them go around saying ‘Foid’ in real life. Etc.

 

[Deleted member 1560]

@PrettyBoyMaxxing you?

 

[toolateforme]

I dont even have misogyny
.co and braincels is actual nuts tho
It's literally my looks not getting girl

 

[Time Travel]

Over for incels.

 

[karbo]

Over for incels.
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JFL whats the story behind that pic? holy fuck

 

[Time Travel]

JFL whats the story behind that pic? holy fuck

No idea lol

 

[Deleted member 1100]

ok but looksmax and lookism are redpilled, while braincels and .co are blackpilled.

Both are blackpilled, the difference is that they gave up because most of them are too ugly, meanwhile most users on looksmax/lookism are at least average. But the knowledge is the same, not the redpill bullshit from PUAs and MGTOWs