Lets talk about the "Oneitis" phenomenon

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Now most of you have either known someone who has had a oneitis or had one yourself. What is the real reason for this? My own experience having seen others i've known IRL and online (my dear bhai @Gengar) and having experienced a oneitis myself has brought me to a conclusion that i believe to be true.

Exposure - I believe 95% of guys with a oneitis simply haven't been exposed to enough women in their day to day life, essentially this is part of the proximitypill. It's normal for guys to become infatuated with a woman who they think is attractive, but when that woman does not reciprocate the desire/attraction/conversation with you, it essentially becomes a oneitis situation unfortunately. It's unfortunate because the desire is one-sided, she doesn't feel the same about you which is why it's unhealthy for you.
It kills your confidence and you become obsessed in a way, thinking about her while she's busy talking to chad and getting railed for the most part. So for 95% of guys the issue of oneitis is simply you not being around enough other women because i guarantee you once you start talking to other women and you engage with a woman who is nice to you, doesn't ignore you like your oneitis and actually reciprocates the feelings, you will feel infinitely better.

Now there is a 5% of guys who have a oneitis who don't fall in this category (@Gengar knows and falls into this category - maybe in another life bhai :feelscry:)
This 5% even if exposed to other women are still not interested at all and are entirely in "love" you could say with their oneitis, the infatuation and desire goes extremely deep for these individuals. Unfortunately we all know most guys regardless of what category they fall into do not end up getting anything positive from their oneitis, usually so called oneitis doesn't even know they exist or has ever thought about them, a lot of incels (like me) thinking every day about a girl who doesn't like them or even think/care about them, it's really brutal. The reason it's so brutal is because the people under this category still do not want any other foid but only their oneitis and so the inevitable rejection absolutely kills them. Fortunately i was not part of the 5% and i simply needed exposure to other women to understand no single woman is worth your time or attention, you should not think about any woman who doesn't even show you interest, have some self respect as a man. You are not a boy, you are a man and men do not lower themselves like a slave begging for a womans attention, a woman who doesn't want you.
Interest and attraction has to be mutual or there is no point to any of it. This is why i always tell guys who chase after a girl who isn't interested to let it go, you are undermining your own value as a human being and a man by doing this. It's extreme simp behaviour and takes away your dignity in a way.

The alpha male lion doesn't ask permission from the lioness, he simply takes. Since we have laws, the next best thing is to ignore any woman who doesn't show you interest, do not chase any foid who clearly doesn't like you.

Anyhow i am interested to hear your guys thoughts on the whole oneitis thing. Please refrain from posting if you are under the age of 20, you simply don't have the life experience yet kiddos. Anyone spam posting/posting DNR will get cancer.

P.S. if anyone knows where the fuck @SecularIslamist has gone, do tell.
 
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@SecularIslamist got butchered and dismembered at Stratford station while attempting a creepshot on a Sri Lankan lady.
 
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@SecularIslamist got butchered and dismembered at Stratford station while attempting a creepshot on a Sri Lankan lady.
Brutal, we had so much to talk about and he just ditches me and disappears. Secular only likes Nafri women and turkish women though, he is repulsed by anyone else :animeJAM:
i swear you were at 17bmi yesterday, have you gotten even LEANER??? auschwitzmaxxing
 
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Man, this hits deep. I hate being a part of the 5%. :FeelsWeakMan::SadgeInTheRain::FeelsStrongMan:
 
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5% reporting in. My oneitis is my ex from 5 years and 30 bodies ago. Slaying doesn’t fix it.
 
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I go for any bitch who could make my dick hard and who shows interest (white ltb)
 
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my oneitis was the only woman that was non NT enough to give me as much attention as she did. if you aren LTN, exposure doesnt do shit, you have a rly limited pool of women that you can interact with.
 
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When I first started posting here I thought oneitis meant “toenails” jfl
 
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When I first started posting here I thought oneitis meant “toenails” jfl
:feelspepo: I kinda knew what it was since it was used on 4ch for a long time, its the classic simp falling in "love" with a girl who doesn't even know he exists
 
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Agreed

I need to restart human interaction if I ever have to forget about my itis
 
If you aren't within the 5% you aren't a true oneitismaxxer.
 
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What you’re describing is indeed clueless and pathetic. But I think most guys know to keep it with girls who show at least some interest in them. I only cared about my last oneitis because of how she would look at me and the tone in her voice, and when circumstances get in the way (she moved across the country) and there’s no closure then it’s just about impossible not to have that longing. Let alone towards exes.
 
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Now most of you have either known someone who has had a oneitis or had one yourself. What is the real reason for this? My own experience having seen others i've known IRL and online (my dear bhai @Gengar) and having experienced a oneitis myself has brought me to a conclusion that i believe to be true.

Exposure - I believe 95% of guys with a oneitis simply haven't been exposed to enough women in their day to day life, essentially this is part of the proximitypill. It's normal for guys to become infatuated with a woman who they think is attractive, but when that woman does not reciprocate the desire/attraction/conversation with you, it essentially becomes a oneitis situation unfortunately. It's unfortunate because the desire is one-sided, she doesn't feel the same about you which is why it's unhealthy for you.
It kills your confidence and you become obsessed in a way, thinking about her while she's busy talking to chad and getting railed for the most part. So for 95% of guys the issue of oneitis is simply you not being around enough other women because i guarantee you once you start talking to other women and you engage with a woman who is nice to you, doesn't ignore you like your oneitis and actually reciprocates the feelings, you will feel infinitely better.

Now there is a 5% of guys who have a oneitis who don't fall in this category (@Gengar knows and falls into this category - maybe in another life bhai :feelscry:)
This 5% even if exposed to other women are still not interested at all and are entirely in "love" you could say with their oneitis, the infatuation and desire goes extremely deep for these individuals. Unfortunately we all know most guys regardless of what category they fall into do not end up getting anything positive from their oneitis, usually so called oneitis doesn't even know they exist or has ever thought about them, a lot of incels (like me) thinking every day about a girl who doesn't like them or even think/care about them, it's really brutal. The reason it's so brutal is because the people under this category still do not want any other foid but only their oneitis and so the inevitable rejection absolutely kills them. Fortunately i was not part of the 5% and i simply needed exposure to other women to understand no single woman is worth your time or attention, you should not think about any woman who doesn't even show you interest, have some self respect as a man. You are not a boy, you are a man and men do not lower themselves like a slave begging for a womans attention, a woman who doesn't want you.
Interest and attraction has to be mutual or there is no point to any of it. This is why i always tell guys who chase after a girl who isn't interested to let it go, you are undermining your own value as a human being and a man by doing this. It's extreme simp behaviour and takes away your dignity in a way.

The alpha male lion doesn't ask permission from the lioness, he simply takes. Since we have laws, the next best thing is to ignore any woman who doesn't show you interest, do not chase any foid who clearly doesn't like you.

Anyhow i am interested to hear your guys thoughts on the whole oneitis thing. Please refrain from posting if you are under the age of 20, you simply don't have the life experience yet kiddos. Anyone spam posting/posting DNR will get cancer.

P.S. if anyone knows where the fuck @SecularIslamist has gone, do tell.
Majority of users here have zero life experience and only exposure is tiktok ragebait. Also sex havers know that foids actively try to weed out guys like this and definitely test you, its not redpill cope. I have foids try to do to this type of behavior and I have ended up smashing.
 
By the way I actually don't think its a bad thing to expand your social network and be friends with foids, the difference is putting yourself in the friend zone/cucked position.
>hurr but if she asked you to fuck you would
Sure. But the difference the foids I am friends with are not ones I have "feelings" for. If that were to happen I wouldn't be head over heels.
 
What you’re describing is indeed clueless and pathetic. But I think most guys know to keep it with girls who show at least some interest in them. I only cared about my last oneitis because of how she would look at me and the tone in her voice, and when circumstances get in the way (she moved across the country) and there’s no closure then it’s just about impossible not to have that longing. Let alone towards exes.
Brutal I actually did have a similar situation with two girls like this. One I actually made out with and the other we would cuddle/hold hands but I never took it farther with the other because I was high inhib/felt like she was stringing me along. Never harbor resentment, wish them the best and keep it cool with them. Remind yourself if it happened once it will happen again.
 
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Brutal I actually did have a similar situation with two girls like this. One I actually made out with and the other we would cuddle/hold hands but I never took it farther with the other because I was high inhib/felt like she was stringing me along. Never harbor resentment, wish them the best and keep it cool with them. Remind yourself if it happened once it will happen again.

Ya, this one was particularly brutal because she has the best body I’ve ever seen, this voice that kinda hypnotized me, there’s no way any guy she would even look at or talk to wouldn’t get oneitis hard. And I have so many stories like this that it made wonder if girls start looking at different types of guys during transitional phases of their lives and that was a major paradigm shift for me. When I get resentful it’s more towards overall circumstance than women themselves, but I have plans to hardmaxx and put myself out there again so we’ll see what happens then.
 
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Ya, this one was particularly brutal because she has the best body I’ve ever seen, this voice that kinda hypnotized me, there’s no way any guy she would even look at or talk to wouldn’t get oneitis hard. And I have so many stories like this that it made wonder if girls start looking at different types of guys during transitional phases of their lives and that was a major paradigm shift for me. When I get resentful it’s more towards overall circumstance than women themselves, but I have plans to hardmaxx and put myself out there again so we’ll see what happens then.
>. When I get resentful it’s more towards overall circumstance than women themselves
Fucking real. I think the ones who cry about a foid rejecting them for their looks are coping, its way more brutal if a foid rejects you for a behavior or something you did wrong. THAT is the shit that keeps me up at night, not because some dumb bitch called me short or whatever
 
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>. When I get resentful it’s more towards overall circumstance than women themselves
Fucking real. I think the ones who cry about a foid rejecting them for their looks are coping, its way more brutal if a foid rejects you for a behavior or something you did wrong. THAT is the shit that keeps me up at night, not because some dumb bitch called me short or whatever

Right, if your looks were a problem for her she wouldn't be anywhere near you in the first place, when outright rejection or blocking happens it's because you did something wrong. Live and learn I guess. But the most frustrating thing to me is meeting the right girl but at the wrong time or in the wrong setting, feels so much like something could've happened but circumstances got in the way, that's where existential level dread creeps in.
 
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Right, if your looks were a problem for her she wouldn't be anywhere near you in the first place, when outright rejection or blocking happens it's because you did something wrong. Live and learn I guess. But the most frustrating thing to me is meeting the right girl but at the wrong time or in the wrong setting, feels so much like something could've happened but circumstances got in the way, that's where existential level dread creeps in.
I cope by telling myself that if I was unfuckable loser these opportunities wouldnt arise in the first place. I sometimes fall into the scarcity mindset. I think the key is to keep moving forward and creating exposure.
 
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