Life Update - Getting caught cheating, prime ethnic cutie, my parents/relatives reaction, and more

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As you guys know, a few days ago I issued a self-ban in the immediate aftermath of finding out my LTR had discovered my infidelity in the worst way possible.

She had found pictures/videos of me fucking other girls. She then took those pictures/videos and sent them to my family, including my dad, sister, grandfather, and some others. She also saw the evidence of me getting a girl pregnant, but she thinks the miscarriage happened. She also found conversations with me and a friend where I talked about and objectified women quite a bit, including racially (even discussing her race in a sexual manner). She sent that stuff too.

When this was all happening I was with a new girl I had recently connected with, an 18 year old with very little prior dating experience and also a virgin. To me she is the equivalent of ethnic Eva Cudmore, and I can look at pics of both and objectively she has a few better features but since this forum is white worshipping I'd say many would disagree. Bare minimum, fogs @TraumatisedOgre's avi to death. Regardless, she has insane collagen, top tier eye area, cute nose, great jaw, and I was her first... but it all just complicates things.

On top of this, two other girls texted me around the same day that they may be pregnant (missed periods). Shit hit the fan fast, all while I was meeting this girl who I REALLY like at the same time.

So... immediate reactions were my sister telling me she was extremely disappointed in me and essentially disowning me. This turned out to be exaggerated as she now wants me to move in with her because she thinks I am a sex addict and need rehab/therapy. She talked with my LTR for quite a bit. I think she may have calmed down my LTR and prevented her from breaking/burning all my shit.

I called my dad a day or so later and talked to him. He was mostly just telling me that running around with a bunch of women is a lost cause and is empty and shallow, and for the most part I agree anyway. He told me he still supports me no matter what I do, and I should ask for forgiveness from my LTR but not to get back with her, but so that we can both move on. He also said I needed to get my life right with God. But he also said none of what I did was shocking to him and he didn't really care that much, and he said if he was younger and more worldly he'd be mirin me for being such a man whore. He also said to get tested.

He said my Grandpa wouldn't care because he raised 4 boys and he's seen shit way worse than this. But also we both doubt he'll even see the pictures since he's not very tech fluent.

Rest of my family, idk or care that much.

For my LTR, I'm apologizing to her and feel really bad for hurting her to be honest. It was a really terrible feeling seeing her cry in person (I told the new girl I had to go do some stuff and made a trip home). The things she said destroyed me, and I honestly never want to make someone feel like that again. The stuff about being her best friend and doing this to her was terrible. I am apologizing for her sake and hoping she forgives me, just so she can move on and not be completely destroyed by me for her life...

As for the new girl, of course I didn't tell her what happened but the night I was notified she noticed my mood was completely different. Anyway, after a night of sleep I was able to act a bit more normally and she forgot about it. We had a really great time and honestly, I really like this new girl, as more than just a sex friend or something like that. We spent a lot of time just staring at each other and enjoying the moments we had. I have legit feelings for her now, and I told her I may want to live with her in the future and she said she wanted to. Dumb of me. But oh well.

Another note, @Face is everything for some reason thinks I was larping about the new girl cause I made a thread the previous night or two before about having a UTI. You can still fuck when you have a UTI, they aren't even contagious. Really dumb take ngl.

Anyway, I have no idea what will happen now. My LTR is actually acting a bit like she wants to forgive me, but flops to telling me to kill myself a second later. I really like that new girl but I have no idea what will happen with my LTR, and I feel responsible for destroying my LTR so I feel responsible for trying to heal her. Basically I'm fucked in a lot of ways. Ultimately, I never want to hurt someone like that again though, and if God gives me another chance with this new girl I'll stop fucking around with so many girls. @streege I'll probably also dedicate myself to living life with reason and purpose again, instead of pursuing what is fleeting and momentary and degenerate and hurting to others.

@MoeZart @RAITEIII @OOGABOOGA @Wallenberg @Baldingman1998 @WadlowMaxxing @lutte @Dukeys
 
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king shit
 
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damn bro
youve been gone for a few days only
 
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king shit
only kingly part is taking responsibility for my actions tbh, having someone cry like you shattered their soul in front of them is a terrible feeling tbh. she didn't deserve it. it's one thing she finds out im cheating, but she just had to find out that way, the worst way possible, literally seeing me do it in tons of pics/vids. my heart broke for her.
 
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I didn't read, have to go to work but will read later. Until that, I will just say keep hustling.
 
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tales from george rr martin

dn rd
 
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I'm at work right now JFL.
 
Could you pm me your face? I'm curious tbh.
Such a slayer
 
Why has it taken you over 28 years. Idk your age, to realize hurting people like that is just being an asshole. Only someone with mental issues would enjoy behaving like that.

But well at least now what you say seems rational. Props. Will comment later. Your dad gave decent advice.
 
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Why has it taken you over 28 years. Idk your age, to realize hurting people like that is just being an asshole. Only someone with mental issues would enjoy behaving like that.

But well at least now what you say seems rational. Props. Will comment later. Your dad gave decent advice.
I'm a lot younger than 28 to be fair

but yeah I agree, hurting her like that was terrible. seeing her cry and tell me that she prayed to God for a guy like me to come into her life for 3 years before she met me... like damn. definitely have some self loathing atm...
 
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Reading the story of getting girls pregnant while listening this explains so much about females.
 
im not proud bro
You don't have to be proud, i was just wondering how goodlooking you have to be to elicit this reactions in girls? You probably are between HTN-Chadlite or iust playing JBW game
 
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It's a fucked up situation to be in. But your actions lead to this. Just move on and I'm glad everything got sorted out eventually.(esp fam)
 
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Too serious for my tastes
 
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go completely cold shoulder on the LTR tbh, just forget her
 
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jk i did read also no tag no care
 
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It's a fucked up situation to be in. But your actions lead to this. Just move on and I'm glad everything got sorted out eventually.(esp fam)
indeed its a brutal wake up call.

go completely cold shoulder on the LTR tbh, just forget her
wish i could be so heartless tbh
 
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Btw for first time I have a great perspective to see why my oneitis is a worthless scum bag. She did all that stuff being aware that I could potentially be hurt. And has never regretted her behaviour.
 
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indeed its a brutal wake up call.


wish i could be so heartless tbh
It's not being heartless. You have certain values and morals that have been compromised. It's great for you to admit it JFL.
 
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Slap the roastie bitch for crying and making you feel bad
 
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I'm a lot younger than 28 to be fair

but yeah I agree, hurting her like that was terrible. seeing her cry and tell me that she prayed to God for a guy like me to come into her life for 3 years before she met me... like damn. definitely have some self loathing atm...
Your arm looked like you're late 20's. Maybe I dont recall very well
 
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Nvm gotta leave
 
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Btw for first time I have a great perspective to see why my oneitis is a worthless scum bag. She did all that stuff being aware that I could potentially be hurt. And has never regretted her behaviour.
she didn't regret it at all? brutal sociopath behavior tbh.

It's not being heartless. You have certain values and morals that have been compromised. It's great for you to admit it JFL.
so i should ghost her? i dont understand

Your arm looked like you're late 20's. Maybe I dont recall very well
i have good forearms/vascularity that i suppose makes them look older
 
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only kingly part is taking responsibility for my actions tbh, having someone cry like you shattered their soul in front of them is a terrible feeling tbh. she didn't deserve it. it's one thing she finds out im cheating, but she just had to find out that way, the worst way possible, literally seeing me do it in tons of pics/vids. my heart broke for her.
So that was the terrible feeling not that you were fucking people behind her back.

Literal crocodile tears swear to god.
 
Anyway, I have no idea what will happen now. My LTR is actually acting a bit like she wants to forgive me, but flops to telling me to kill myself a second later.
Tenor
 
At this point its on her for being such a cuck if she forgives you lmal
 
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Can't relate. Chad problems
 
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what did she think is going to happen when she sends pics and videos to your family which prove you are an ultimate slayer, your mom, your sister and your dad are probably glad(and your dad even proud even if he doesnt admit it) that you are such a chad, if some girl sends me evidence of my son sleeping with various girls ngl I would feel good about it
 
As you guys know, a few days ago I issued a self-ban in the immediate aftermath of finding out my LTR had discovered my infidelity in the worst way possible.

She had found pictures/videos of me fucking other girls. She then took those pictures/videos and sent them to my family, including my dad, sister, grandfather, and some others. She also saw the evidence of me getting a girl pregnant, but she thinks the miscarriage happened. She also found conversations with me and a friend where I talked about and objectified women quite a bit, including racially (even discussing her race in a sexual manner). She sent that stuff too.

When this was all happening I was with a new girl I had recently connected with, an 18 year old with very little prior dating experience and also a virgin. To me she is the equivalent of ethnic Eva Cudmore, and I can look at pics of both and objectively she has a few better features but since this forum is white worshipping I'd say many would disagree. Bare minimum, fogs @TraumatisedOgre's avi to death. Regardless, she has insane collagen, top tier eye area, cute nose, great jaw, and I was her first... but it all just complicates things.

On top of this, two other girls texted me around the same day that they may be pregnant (missed periods). Shit hit the fan fast, all while I was meeting this girl who I REALLY like at the same time.

So... immediate reactions were my sister telling me she was extremely disappointed in me and essentially disowning me. This turned out to be exaggerated as she now wants me to move in with her because she thinks I am a sex addict and need rehab/therapy. She talked with my LTR for quite a bit. I think she may have calmed down my LTR and prevented her from breaking/burning all my shit.

I called my dad a day or so later and talked to him. He was mostly just telling me that running around with a bunch of women is a lost cause and is empty and shallow, and for the most part I agree anyway. He told me he still supports me no matter what I do, and I should ask for forgiveness from my LTR but not to get back with her, but so that we can both move on. He also said I needed to get my life right with God. But he also said none of what I did was shocking to him and he didn't really care that much, and he said if he was younger and more worldly he'd be mirin me for being such a man whore. He also said to get tested.

He said my Grandpa wouldn't care because he raised 4 boys and he's seen shit way worse than this. But also we both doubt he'll even see the pictures since he's not very tech fluent.

Rest of my family, idk or care that much.

For my LTR, I'm apologizing to her and feel really bad for hurting her to be honest. It was a really terrible feeling seeing her cry in person (I told the new girl I had to go do some stuff and made a trip home). The things she said destroyed me, and I honestly never want to make someone feel like that again. The stuff about being her best friend and doing this to her was terrible. I am apologizing for her sake and hoping she forgives me, just so she can move on and not be completely destroyed by me for her life...

As for the new girl, of course I didn't tell her what happened but the night I was notified she noticed my mood was completely different. Anyway, after a night of sleep I was able to act a bit more normally and she forgot about it. We had a really great time and honestly, I really like this new girl, as more than just a sex friend or something like that. We spent a lot of time just staring at each other and enjoying the moments we had. I have legit feelings for her now, and I told her I may want to live with her in the future and she said she wanted to. Dumb of me. But oh well.

Another note, @Face is everything for some reason thinks I was larping about the new girl cause I made a thread the previous night or two before about having a UTI. You can still fuck when you have a UTI, they aren't even contagious. Really dumb take ngl.

Anyway, I have no idea what will happen now. My LTR is actually acting a bit like she wants to forgive me, but flops to telling me to kill myself a second later. I really like that new girl but I have no idea what will happen with my LTR, and I feel responsible for destroying my LTR so I feel responsible for trying to heal her. Basically I'm fucked in a lot of ways. Ultimately, I never want to hurt someone like that again though, and if God gives me another chance with this new girl I'll stop fucking around with so many girls. @streege I'll probably also dedicate myself to living life with reason and purpose again, instead of pursuing what is fleeting and momentary and degenerate and hurting to others.

@MoeZart @RAITEIII @OOGABOOGA @Wallenberg @Baldingman1998 @WadlowMaxxing @lutte @Dukeys
u managed to fuck your towns population and not get aids and your dad saw the sextapes?
 
Of all the posts I've read on this site, this is the biggest Chad tale. I just can't relate.
But you're wrong. And how did she get access to your cell phone and videos?
 
how do you cure the urge of wanting to bang other girls?

i get it that you didn't want to hurt your LTR, that's why you tried your best to keep it hidden, you aren't a psychopath who shoved it into her face.

could an open-relationship be something for you? where you can whore around without hurting your LTR?
 
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Of all the posts I've read on this site, this is the biggest Chad tale. I just can't relate.
But you're wrong. And how did she get access to your cell phone and videos?
I was sending them to myself on discord so I could save on my pc. When I was gone I forgot I left the discord account logged in on the 2nd pc account. She opened it randomly and saw it all.
u managed to fuck your towns population and not get aids and your dad saw the sextapes?
Good tldr yes basically

what did she think is going to happen when she sends pics and videos to your family which prove you are an ultimate slayer, your mom, your sister and your dad are probably glad(and your dad even proud even if he doesnt admit it) that you are such a chad, if some girl sends me evidence of my son sleeping with various girls ngl I would feel good about it
II'm mostly embarrassed about the demeaning stuff I said makes me seem heartless tbh

So that was the terrible feeling not that you were fucking people behind her back.

Literal crocodile tears swear to god.
IIdk man
 
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how do you cure the urge of wanting to bang other girls?

i get it that you didn't want to hurt your LTR, that's why you tried your best to keep it hidden, you aren't a psychopath who shoved it into her face.

could an open-relationship be something for you? where you can whore around without hurting your LTR?
She's very traditional. Impossible

As for wanting to stop the urge.... Impossible I think. Just something we have to deal with
 
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idk why u r upset u r fucking more than 80% of this forum pretty sure ur dads proud too
 
I was sending them to myself on discord so I could save on my pc. When I was gone I forgot I left the discord account logged in on the 2nd pc account. She opened it randomly and saw it all.

Good tldr yes basically


II'm mostly embarrassed about the demeaning stuff I said makes me seem heartless tbh



IIdk man
Dude main thing is to actually understand how you did was wrong and feel bad about that. Not the reaction it causes that is the only way you will prevent it in the future.
 
Hey you didn't say your lil man was hurt and in the hospital, but in next day you was saying you had sex?
 
Dude main thing is to actually understand how you did was wrong and feel bad about that. Not the reaction it causes that is the only way you will prevent it in the future.
but the thing itself isn't wrong, everyone who says he doesn't want to sleep with other women either has no sex-drive or is lying to himself, it's just nature.

you don't want your girl to hurt, but the thing itself isn't wrong if you still stay with your LTR and keep on building upon the relationship you have and be there for her etc. it would have been fine if she never found out
 
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pro tip if you ever want to collect nudes again:
send them to yourself via email, give it some work-related subject name, delete the incoming email and leave the nudes in the "sent" folder
 
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but the thing itself isn't wrong, everyone who says he doesn't want to sleep with other women either has no sex-drive or is lying to himself, it's just nature.

you don't want your girl to hurt, but the thing itself isn't wrong if you still stay with your LTR and keep on building upon the relationship you have and be there for her etc. it would have been fine if she never found out
Jesus christ what am I reading.

Would you trully think it's not wrong if tables were turned? Jfl the only person lying to himself is YOU.
"You dont want your girl to hurt but it's not wrong cuz u keep building the relationship"

Jfl great delusion.

The only truth here is that men are LTRing women that they dont like enough to be exclusive. Otherwise you wouldnt feel the need to fuck someone else, cuz u would say nah mine is hotter.
 
Jesus christ what am I reading.

Would you trully think it's not wrong if tables were turned? Jfl the only person lying to himself is YOU.
"You dont want your girl to hurt but it's not wrong cuz u keep building the relationship"

Jfl great delusion.

The only truth here is that men are LTRing women that they dont like enough to be exclusive. Otherwise you wouldnt feel the need to fuck someone else, cuz u would say nah mine is hotter.
i get desperate for girls way uglier than my LTR once i've been with them for a couple of months. new pussy is always the best pussy.

it's just hard-wired into you to always want new girls
 
i get desperate for girls way uglier than my LTR once i've been with them for a couple of months. new pussy is always the best pussy.

it's just hard-wired into you to always want new girls
It might be hardwired on you, or maybe it's the environment in which you grew up and other males showing you that it's the right thing to do as a male. I definitely have no idea, but please, don't try to brainwash people so they become a person without integrity. Specially if they show signs that they want to be better, as RealLooksmaxxer does.
 
i get desperate for girls way uglier than my LTR once i've been with them for a couple of months. new pussy is always the best pussy.

it's just hard-wired into you to always want new girls
You fail to understand yourself, and because of that you resort to glorify your behaviour.

Goodbye I'm going back clean toilets :feelswhy:
 
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"This is not a brag thread"

Chad
 
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Ngl , wish I had your problems
 
Read the whole thing, everyone in this thread for the most part from what I read is autistic, saying omg slayer based slayer treat the dumb whores ignoring what u said about not being proud with yourself and whatnot.

Anyways bro, it's good that you've straightened things out with your family at least, and like ur dad says try and mend things w her, [this is the girl you wanted to leave right?] but don't get back together w her and move on.
 
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send this to your LTR trust me
 

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