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I'm 22 and now have my first sexual partner and my first relationship. I've been in the blackpill/manosphere since I was 18. I'm 5'6 and a MTN, after being on here for so long I was convinced that I was repulsive and a truecel. Neither was the case. A lot of our life is perspective and mentality. You have to come to the realization that when It comes to dating, whatever you were doing previously wasn't working and you have to change it. When you really desire change, it will happen. I also believed I was too short for any woman to really like me. I ended up finding a 5'9 tall white woman who's attractive and regardless when you're in love with a woman you will believe she is more attractive and beautiful than perhaps others would believe so.
I first started my change by going to the gym quite consistently, I know some of you guys think the gympill doesn't work or whatever but the amount of more respect others will give you and the attention that comes from just being toned which is somewhat crazy, like toned is just minimum effort and a lot of guys nowadays are just not. They're skinny fat.
I purposely started reading books like atomic habits and the definitive book of body language and other books that are in self improvement and mental genre. When it came to body language there's a lot of things that we do subconsciously or that we know subconsciously but couldn't put into words and also helps you look out for signs. When I first hung out with my girl, I noticed the things that she would do with her body language that showed interest in me which helped me be a bit more confident but she made the first move anyways.
As well as reading books about women and dating....
I sat down for a 9 hour long seminar by brian tracy and if you really take it seriously a lot of the advice is life changing, it really did change my days when I believed in it to. I started believing in manifestation and the craziest thing I've done which I believed I willed it to be is when me and my girl came across a gumbball machine and I asked her what gumball color she wanted. blue. I told her that the next gumbball that would come out would be blue because I truly believed it to be and when it came out blue, we both freaked out. Maybe a coincidence, but it felt like it actually worked.
There's a lot of maturity when it comes to relationships and just hard truths that come with dating that will even hurt you. One of the realities is that every woman you meet nowadays is not going to be a virgin especially out of high school and she's probably still dealing with an ex but you have to be secure and believe that you're good enough and not worry about whether she thinks her ex was better than you in some aspect or another. Don't ask questions, just let it go.
also you don't realize how much freedom you have when you're single.
I first started my change by going to the gym quite consistently, I know some of you guys think the gympill doesn't work or whatever but the amount of more respect others will give you and the attention that comes from just being toned which is somewhat crazy, like toned is just minimum effort and a lot of guys nowadays are just not. They're skinny fat.
I purposely started reading books like atomic habits and the definitive book of body language and other books that are in self improvement and mental genre. When it came to body language there's a lot of things that we do subconsciously or that we know subconsciously but couldn't put into words and also helps you look out for signs. When I first hung out with my girl, I noticed the things that she would do with her body language that showed interest in me which helped me be a bit more confident but she made the first move anyways.
As well as reading books about women and dating....
I sat down for a 9 hour long seminar by brian tracy and if you really take it seriously a lot of the advice is life changing, it really did change my days when I believed in it to. I started believing in manifestation and the craziest thing I've done which I believed I willed it to be is when me and my girl came across a gumbball machine and I asked her what gumball color she wanted. blue. I told her that the next gumbball that would come out would be blue because I truly believed it to be and when it came out blue, we both freaked out. Maybe a coincidence, but it felt like it actually worked.
There's a lot of maturity when it comes to relationships and just hard truths that come with dating that will even hurt you. One of the realities is that every woman you meet nowadays is not going to be a virgin especially out of high school and she's probably still dealing with an ex but you have to be secure and believe that you're good enough and not worry about whether she thinks her ex was better than you in some aspect or another. Don't ask questions, just let it go.
also you don't realize how much freedom you have when you're single.
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