lonelynigga
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Anecdotally, lookism seems like a pretty ridiculous ideology to me. In my personal experience (and yes, these are just anecdotes), it never really strongly applied. It was never true that all LTN guys were incels or that HTBs only went for “Chads.” That just wasn’t what I saw.
The only consistent trend I noticed was social status. People with higher status tended to mingle with each other, but that status usually wasn’t just about looks. It was more about who had the most money, who was the most athletic, or who was the funniest guy in class.
For context, I went to a private school, so maybe that makes a difference. But I never really saw “hypergamy” play out the way people describe it here. If anything, the closest thing to it was stuff like who had the highest Instagram following. That seemed to matter more than pure looks.
And honestly, I’m sure some of you have seen this too how many times have you seen an overweight or average looking guy with a decent-looking girlfriend?
The only reason I even ended up in this space is because I thought mainstream looks advice was terrible like Austin Dunham and that kind of content. But for a lot of people here, it seems like their views come from really negative personal experiences, like getting rejected harshly and then mocked for it online.
That’s just never happened to me. I can’t be the only one, right? Did most of you actually have normal high school experiences?
Because the way “blackpill” ideology describes things, if you’re anything below HTN, no woman would even look at you. That just hasn’t matched reality for me at all.
The only consistent trend I noticed was social status. People with higher status tended to mingle with each other, but that status usually wasn’t just about looks. It was more about who had the most money, who was the most athletic, or who was the funniest guy in class.
For context, I went to a private school, so maybe that makes a difference. But I never really saw “hypergamy” play out the way people describe it here. If anything, the closest thing to it was stuff like who had the highest Instagram following. That seemed to matter more than pure looks.
And honestly, I’m sure some of you have seen this too how many times have you seen an overweight or average looking guy with a decent-looking girlfriend?
The only reason I even ended up in this space is because I thought mainstream looks advice was terrible like Austin Dunham and that kind of content. But for a lot of people here, it seems like their views come from really negative personal experiences, like getting rejected harshly and then mocked for it online.
That’s just never happened to me. I can’t be the only one, right? Did most of you actually have normal high school experiences?
Because the way “blackpill” ideology describes things, if you’re anything below HTN, no woman would even look at you. That just hasn’t matched reality for me at all.
