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bloatseb
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When I was 15 years old I was 112 pounds so skinny AF no self care whatsoever, I had a girlfriend for 2 years, after that at 17 I had another 2 year long relationship. When i turned 19 we broke up and I gained a lot of weight, I went all the way up to 207 pounds and i still managed to date a girl, all those 3 were LTB's after i broke up with the 3rd one i stayed single for a year and started taking care of myself I also moved to united states (I'm Hispanic), my point here is that back then, before i invested time in myself i would get girls by jestering a lot, basically being a fucking clown and giving them as much attention as i could and then make those relationships last by putting up with whatever they said or did because I felt lucky to even be able to get a girl being sub5, now i weight 145 pounds lean and I'm not CHAD but I'm not sub5 like before either, now my body count went up from 3 all the way up to 14 I'm 23 now so in the last 3 years I've been 11 girls and couldn't successfully turn any of those dating phases into relationships they stayed mostly as Hookups.
it was easier to talk with girls as a chud because i never saw the possibility of any girl even liking me so i would just approach them and talk, now that i look slightly better i cant fucking approach ppl irl, also when i was a chud ppl would approach me more idk if it was joking or if i had some different charisma or something.
Have i ruined my personality by improving my looks?
i gained self aware of how i looked so I improved it and I'm still working on it but at the same time that awareness fucked up my social skills, i feel more anxious now and i don't ever cold approach girls irl anymore.
any tips on how to improve cold approaches and social skills?
it was easier to talk with girls as a chud because i never saw the possibility of any girl even liking me so i would just approach them and talk, now that i look slightly better i cant fucking approach ppl irl, also when i was a chud ppl would approach me more idk if it was joking or if i had some different charisma or something.
Have i ruined my personality by improving my looks?
i gained self aware of how i looked so I improved it and I'm still working on it but at the same time that awareness fucked up my social skills, i feel more anxious now and i don't ever cold approach girls irl anymore.
any tips on how to improve cold approaches and social skills?
